a bit shocked by teacher

jenhug

A jokey comment that has already upset 2 6 year old girls?

I don't see whats funny about that.

liney

I think my work collegues may all be mentally scarred, from my response to "What you doing?" whilst i was learning out the window for air. "Wondering whether to jump." Was my response, with a smile.

Body language is key, and even small children can read it.

cheepskate_2

It was probably done in a light hearted way, and being as your daughter is a bit sensitive . Think it is just one of these things especially if there is nothing else to indicate a problem.

My son is a bit the same, everything is black and white. I have been up to headmaster or teacher a few times as he has been in tears about something they have said but he had totay taken it out of context, because he tends to see things black and white. Feel like a totally idiot after they tell me what actually really happened

jenhug

Not everyone can read body language unfortunately. My daughter is ASD and cannot. She would take the comment literally.

Surely the teacher has better ways of getting the classes attention?

poet123

Kids are generally upset or continue to be upset when their parents make a big deal of things which are not meant seriously. The obvious way to assuage any misplaced fear was for the parents to laugh it off. In this day and age no child really believes any teacher would do such a thing, by not laughing it off a parent is giving it credence.

A sense of humour goes a long way to solve most things, but this is really a ridiculous issue.

jenhug

Yes it is a rediculous issue, the teacher should not have said it.

cheepskate_2

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Got to disagree there, some children for whatever reason are very black/white and take till they are a greater age to fully understand things.

Example. My son came home in tears saying he was getting sent to the head for talking, but he wasnt talking it was so and so. Seemingly teacher had said if everyone doesnt stop talking they will get sent to head as the class was being very noisy while waiting in line

Now was it one of 2 senarios. He was talking and trying to get out of it or it was mistaken identity.

None of the above, she had said about going to the head if they didnt stop(whole class) but some continued. but didnt do anything as it had quietened down.

Our son was 8 at the time and we have had a few of these , getting better but sometimes he has to have a very clear explanation

liney

jenhug wrote: »

Not everyone can read body language unfortunately. My daughter is ASD and cannot. She would take the comment literally.

Surely the teacher has better ways of getting the classes attention?

Average children can ready body language from a very early age. They understand body language and tone of voice before real words which is why it doesn't matter what you read to a baby as long as you read with a soft voice and a smile on your face.

We, as polite human beings should of course attempt not to upset people where possible, but the teacher has only just met the children and is likely unaware that she has done anything other than made a jokey comment.

liney

cheepskate wrote: »

Got to disagree there, some children for whatever reason are very black/white and take till they are a greater age to fully understand things.

Example. My son came home in tears saying he was getting sent to the head for talking, but he wasnt talking it was so and so. Seemingly teacher had said if everyone doesnt stop talking they will get sent to head as the class was being very noisy while waiting in line

Now one of 2 senarios. He was talking and trying to get out of it or mistaken identity.

None of the above, she had said about going to the head if they didnt stop(whole class) but some continued. but didnt do anything as it had quietened down.

Our son was 8 at the time and we have had a few of these , getting better but sometimes he has to have a very clear explanation

Perhaps he would have heard correctly if he wasn't busy talking....:rotfl:

Sorry

jenhug

You would have thought she would have picked up on their subtle changes in body laguage after she said it and realised she had upset them then.

I'm not trying to be argumentative here, but I really disagree with her methods, as a qualified teacher she must have been taught a better way.