Wedding venue problems - want to cancel.

Stephb1986_2

Basically it was OH's bday on friday I spent around £300 or slightly more 4 weeks previous I told his sister and mum that we were going for a meal and could they come, his sister said she would although money is tight and she would tell her mum. Fast forward till last week I txt his mum on the sunday to find out if she was coming she replied saying she was going to yorkshire for the day so she wasn't coming. I left it a few days and emailed his sister asking if she was coming which she replied saying no that she's skint.

So I left it and made sure he had a great weekend. On monday I put on my facebook which wasn't aimed at her "people should be treated how they treat other people" my mum replied saying "Did OH not have a good birthday he gets his family dead good presents surely they return them?"

Then his sister came on and posted this is copied from facebook "thinks that some people should keep there !!!!in noses out off our family you dont have a clue what your on about my brother is well loved we would do anything for him things are not all about pressants some people might say that poeple who care more about getting things are shallow! an neather my brother or we are! can't say the same for some oher dont !!!!in mess with me love you picked the wrong one am tellin now you want to say somethin come out an say dont fanny around!"


She also sent me messages saying she is going to kick my face in blah blah
I've gave my OH my password to fb so he could see what she had said and basically he isn't taking sides isn't telling his sister to shut her mouth nothing so I blew my top at him because I didn't once threaten her yet I'm supposed to take that sort of abuse.

I told him to drop off all of my stuff. He did even the birthday card I had bought him. We spoke last night which he was pretty much blaming it all on me then he logged off so I txt him asking if this is it or what? and he replied saying "why should i make the desision" that was the last txt I got off him I txt him a few times which he didnt reply I tried to ring him he switched it to answerphone then turned it off. I've not heard anything since.

Steph xx

poet123

I have to say that even though you state your comments weren't aimed at his family they obviously were. What did you expect to get out of posting an inflammatory comment for the whole world to see? and your mum didnt help the situation either.

Hard though it probably was to see your OH go without presents from his family, you should either have left it alone, or spoken to them privately, putting it on facebook was asking for trouble. I agree his sister is out of order for threatening you, but if you know her you will also know what kind of personality she has, and would have known where the comments would lead.

He is in an impossible situation.

Stephb1986_2

It wasn't aimed at her it was a arguement between me and my mum because his dad had given me £100 for each my birthday and christmas and my mum hadn't returned it. It was nothing to do with his sister

poet123

So, put that up on Facebook. It is easy to see why his sister got the wrong end of the stick, especially as she was probably feeling guilty that she was too broke tobuy him a present.

Stephb1986_2

I did do but the abuse carried on

my_definition

steph maybe you should let things cool down for a few days and then meet somewhere to discuss this? i can see where his sister got the wrong end of the stick from but she seems to have over reacted massively. I agree that while facebook is public other people should realsie this and every comment is not aimed at them.

sending you big hugs anyway your understandably upset xxxxxx

Stephb1986_2

I've not contacted him at all today I'm not going to either. All the other times this has happened I've been the soft one and begged him to come back but this time it's not happening.

Steph xx

my_definition

good on you steph be strong! im sure hell come back or atleast want to talk to you as soon as he realises your not going to be soft. All you need to think about is whether you want him back when youve calmed down xxxxx

aimee21j

Sorry Steph but I think your OH has got a raw deal. Fair enough, she shouldn't have said those things to you (she sounds rather angry) but it looks like you did start it, even if you didn't aim it at his family. Times are hard and she says she is skint. I know you were upset but that's for your OH to sort out.

Sorry for the thread hijack Beks.

beks

LOL! Steph - you know my feelings on this!! And no worries about the hijack of the thread!!!

Oh spoke to the courts today, we were told that the bailiffs are taking action sometime soon - BUT, they have other cases for the same venue so they are going to recover the money for ALL of them at the same time. The court should not have told us this but there are at least 2 other claimants who have instigated bailiffs to go in (maybe more). :eek: . We have no idea why they have sued him and how much they have sued him for (I would love to find out though!!). This makes me more concerned though as I really do have a feeling that the place might fold before we get our money back. If others have sued him for the same amount we have then he will be a lot worse off when the bailiffs retrieve all the money. I know they are still have weddings there (thanks f-d-f), some of which I believe are not disasterous. However, I would not think it normal for there to be so many problems and so many complaints about one wedding venue. The owner just does not seem to care and surely that is no way to run a business, especially a wedding venue.