Bed wetting help

nigem

get referred to an eneuresis clinic, but I dont know what age they will see them. There is a spray or tablet which can be taken at night that replaces the missing hormone which makes them wee. He may just be slower in getting it to kick in for itself. Theres also a website (google ERIC) where you can buy equipment and get advice

Oldernotwiser

Can be worth taking him to the toilet last thing at night as you go to bed yourself. This worked for us until he grew out of it.

minimoneysaver

He will not get a referral to a clinic until he is at least seven years old. I'm in the same boat with my little girl, who does see a paediatrician every six months for other problems. It's a nightmare to deal with! I've had to take cuddly toys etc off her bed. We're on bedrail number four in the last year as the daft things don't allow the cover to come off... grrrr. Lifting is about the only advice I have had, which is impossible for me as I have a bad back, so that entails fully waking her up and getting her to walk to the bathroom, then I have a tired child in the morning. I'm not so sure there is a genuine solution. I'm hoping that it'll come with time. In the meantime, I'll suggest keeping calm and making life as simple as possible. Good luck to you! x

building_with_lego

I have heard that if you give them *lots* of drinks during the morning you can increase the capacity of the bladder, then give fewer drinks during the afternoon. Would that be worth a try? MAybe give his last drink at 5.30 too, to see whether that extra hour makes any difference.

Certainly eneuresis is not seen as a problem until at least 7 years old, and remember that at 5 ten percent of children are still wetting regularly. Good luck!

abdonz

I would also suggest lifting her when you go to bed.
My step son is 12 and weed the bed every night last week we have been to docs last yr but there has been no improvement, they checked him for infections and gave him tablets but they didnt work.
We have tried lifting him but dosent work for him, I'm going to take him back but if anyone has any advice I would be grateful.
Xx

rugbymum

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Lifting is about the only advice I have had, which is impossible for me as I have a bad back, so that entails fully waking her up and getting her to walk to the bathroom, then I have a tired child in the morning. I'm not so sure there is a genuine solution. I'm hoping that it'll come with time. In the meantime, I'll suggest keeping calm and making life as simple as possible. Good luck to you! x

Thank you
I tried lifting, sometimes I found he was already wet, so ended up just changing everything.
Other times he was so utterly hysterical (screaming & throwing himself around) at being woken up that it took ages to calm him down & get him back to sleep. The result, like you would be a tired (wet) child in the morning.
I confess, I've given up.
I'm resigned to it and thank the Lord I have a tumble dryer!
Unfortunately he is getting frustrated and cross.

Bloomin_Freezing2

Personally I don't think carrying them to the loo is a good idea unless they are awake fully and know what they are doing, you may stop them actually wetting the bed on that night but they're still in theory weeing in their sleep if you just pop them on the loo so not actually helping to resolve the problem.

My brother did it maybe more than once a night for a long time, probably until he was mid teens even. He went to a clinic and was given a machine which detects wet on it so would bleep and wake him and mum up. Still once they start to wee its not easy to hold it. This was 20 years ago though so i'm sure they have other ways these days.

Good luck, its very frustrating for all involved.

fernliebee

Apparently it is only seen as a problem if they are still wetting over the age of 7, so take a tiny bit of comfort in the fact that it is a common problem and lot's of other parents are doing the same thing every morning- you're not alone! (not much help I know, but like when baby is waking in the night and you think of all the other mums awake at the same time with their babies, it get's you through!)

Does he have big drinks all in one sitting or does he sip through the day? I know when a friends child was referred the first thing they said was that to allow their bladder muscles to strengthen enough to hold all night (or wake them up) the bladder needs a large amount of liquid in one go rather than sips through the day.

I would prob try going up a size in the pull ups, nappy sizes are always wrong for my little girl, she was in a size 4 from 3 1/2 months old despite being small for her age, and nowhere near the weight guideline.

Also you can buy the wet alarms on ebay etc and they really do work for some people. The same friend had one and after about 4 nights they never had to change a sheet again. The clinic did tell her (though her child was 7 not 5) that the child needs to hold all responsibility for the alarm, for waking up, for going to the toilet etc if they are going to quickly learn to wake up, otherwise they rely on being taken by you so aren't as reliable iyswim. Not that I'm saying lifting is wrong as in the short term it saves you a lot of washing, but something to think about and look into.

Wish you luck and less washing in the near future.

fernliebee

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

Personally I don't think carrying them to the loo is a good idea unless they are awake fully and know what they are doing, you may stop them actually wetting the bed on that night but they're still in theory weeing in their sleep if you just pop them on the loo so not actually helping to resolve the problem.

My brother did it maybe more than once a night for a long time, probably until he was mid teens even. He went to a clinic and was given a machine which detects wet on it so would bleep and wake him and mum up. Still once they start to wee its not easy to hold it. This was 20 years ago though so i'm sure they have other ways these days.

Good luck, its very frustrating for all involved.

The modern alarms are very sensitive so detect moisture before they actually start to wee iyswim. I'm sure they don't work for everyone but I know for some they solve the problem almost immediately.

anderson8

i would also recommend waking them up for the toilet before you go to bed.
worked for my 8yr old step son