Bed wetting help

jackieb

My son was 14 when he stopped wetting the bed. He used to have the alarm - he'd pull it off when it beeped and would continue to sleep in wet sheets.

Limiting drinks and waking them up before you went to bed didn't help, so we just stopped. We stopped with the alarms too. Limiting drinks isn't that good for them anyway as they don't get to realise when their bladders are full.

My next 2 were dry all night from the age of 3 so I know it was nothing i'd done differently. My daughter is almost 14 and still occassionally wets the bed. The doctor has just prescribed her some adult anti-depression tablets which are also used for bed-wetting in children. I'm not that pleased about it. I told the doctor she wasn't wet as often as she used to be.

In my opinion they'll just grow out of it in their own time. I don't think any child would want to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed on purpose (although I never made mine feel bad for wetting the bed). I spent £60 on a proper mattress cover (fits the whole mattress inside and it zips up) and Kylie sheets. The washing is awful, I can't deny that. You just have to reassure them that they will eventually be dry.

Ruby_Moon

sooz wrote: »

thank you. I'd only ever seen the dry nights up to 27kg. It seems like he needs the ones for up to 57kg (hmm I could almost wear them too ). But OMG how much???? £5.37 for 9 pants :eek: I hope they are on bogof often!

I have never seen Dry Nites on BOGOF in all the years I bought them and you can't get them on perscription either.

They are good though and I would recommend that you use these for your son and don't make any fuss over the washing or whatever if they leak. Also I would say that it is too early to refer him to a specialist and you might find it makes him worse as he gets ashamed when the doctors are talking about it.

lindsey27

Hi karen24. Can I just start by saying that this is a lot more common than you think and since starting to attend the enuretic clinic with my daughter I have seen 2 people there that I know pretty well.
Like your son, my daughter has a record of needs or an IEP as they call them here now, but that's irrelevent really as lots of kids have issues with bedwetting. I tried everything before my daughter was referred to the enuretic clinic in January when she turned 7. We tried the alarm, charts and so on that the nurse gave us but the problem still continued so we are now trying the desmo melt tablets.
They advise against waking the child to go to the toilet as this can train the bladder to go whilst half asleep. It's important not to give too many fluids at night but not to restrict them either.
Since trying the tablets, we have had to increase them to 2 a night (they dissolve under the tongue). I am intending to try 1 tablet again once the school break starts and see how she copes then. Any questions just send me a pm but remember there are lots of parents in the same situation and it just takes time. Sending hugs (((())))
If your clinic nurse is anything like the 2 I have had, they will say no to nappies or pull ups and that the child help to change the bed if it's wet.

SammyD_2

lindsey27 wrote: »

If your clinic nurse is anything like the 2 I have had, they will say no to nappies or pull ups and that the child help to change the bed if it's wet.

Reminds me why I haven't taken my son.

My son is 6 and like other posters, no sign of being dry at night. But several of his friends are exactly the same. It's frustrating, but I just think it will happen in its own time.

purplepatch

My stepson used to wet the bed every night without fail. Finally it stopped when he had an alarm at age 10. He had tried the desmo tablets, but they didn't work for him at all. The alarm took about 7 weeks to work I think, but since then he has never had one accident in about 18 months. It just trains them to wake up and I honestly think he would still be doing it now if he hadn't had the alarm, he would wee gallons, no matter how much we restricted drinks etc, it was bizarre how the amount of wee didn't correspond to the liquids consumed!!

I can't remember what age it is before bedwetting gets taken seriously by the doctors, possibly 7 I think it was, but stepson's mother kept letting herself get fobbed off for ages. My advice would be to go in there and be quite firm that you know people who have had success with one and you would like to try an alarm (the drugs are quite strong and why do that when there is a more natural method to try first?) and see how he gets on. And persevere for a while as for a couple of weeks they still wee just as much and everyone else in the house gets cheesed off by the alarm going off but said child just sleeping through it lol. But the penny should drop eventually.

Good luck.

HellsGranny

I had this problem with my son, I reduced his drinks after teatime and gave him a marmite sandwich with a small milky drink about a half hour before bedtime. I also made sure that he went to the toilet before getting into bed. When I came up to bed later I would 'lift' him and take him to the toilet again.

He would then go through until around 6 am. It took about three months but it worked.

The important thing is never to make the child feel pressured or worried. Lots of praise for success, and ' not to worries' when it goes wrong. It will work in the end.

Cheers, HG

sooz

I just found some of these in a 99p store. Sadly they didn't have the larger size for my son, but I thought these might be of interest to others here.
Huggies DryNites, with green packaging & called 'sleep shorts' rather than pyjama pants, from 17-30kg, 7 per pack, & only 99p.

xmaslolly76

This has been interesting reading my son is seven and still wets the bed occasionally i thought there was something wrong with him but it would appear from this thread it can be quite normal. I will give him another few months as it is getting better then take him to the docs just to make sure there is nothing wrong if it doesnt improve :-)

clairewop

my son is 12 and still wets the bed, i was still wetting the bed at theage of 14, but i needed an op because of my disabilty my bladder never grew proporly so couldn't hold the urine, my son is on a waiting listto see someone, we tried the tablets but he wouldn't take them

pigpen

My daughter is 9 and still wets almost every night.. she just has pullups.. she still just fits in the age 4-7 ones being a skinny min.. but the next batch will need to be bigger as she out-wets these far too regularly.

We did enureticclinic.. waste of time.. the oxybutynin worked with the day time wetting but nothing worked at night.

we are waiting on a urology referral now but it is thought to be an issue with bladder size and it being irritable and the muscles being weak. She was born with an extra hymen so they were expecting some issues but expected it to be more the reproductive organs at fault but it looks like it is the bladder.

I don't nag her or even ask her about it now.. she put the pullup in the bin herself etc.. the only thing I do complain about is if she wets the bedding and doesn't tell me.. that really annoys me!

We have just applied for DLA to pay for the expensive pullups for her and the new bedding and mattresses we go through a year..