HeavyHeart, EmptyPurse

NEWLIFE_4

I had to reply to this thread. Have only read the first page but it has reduced me to tears. Having just joined this site realising that I myself am heading for a finacial mess after the end of a relationship. I have to say this story has made me start to sort myself out.

All I can say is no one deserves to be treated the way you have been and hang on in there.

xxx

aliwatts

NEWLIFE wrote:

I had to reply to this thread. Have only read the first page but it has reduced me to tears. Having just joined this site realising that I myself am heading for a finacial mess after the end of a relationship. I have to say this story has made me start to sort myself out.

All I can say is no one deserves to be treated the way you have been and hang on in there.

xxx

Welcome to this site and I hope you can get lots of help with addressing your problems/debts and anything else you feel the need to discuss.

This site and the people who are involved it in everyday are brilliant and heres to hoping they all keep up the good work.

Jen....if your on, hope you are OK ?

BobProperty

Quick Reply and I look forward to the OP's comments later:
Despite what others say, I think the last thing you should do is sell your own house.
I think there may be a way to sell the PIL property.
I would personally be very tempted to stop paying the mortgage on the PIL property. You need the money now.
I also think we need to see a SOA, as I think you may be able to contain the current CC problems by switching / tarting etc.

crazyscientist

Hi Jen

Ive just read this thread and its astounding the way you have been treated.

However, now is the time for action! You and Pete seem to have a strong relationship and you need to deal with these problems together.

First priority is to get hold of that contract and read the fine print! I am 99% certain there has to be a way out. You said they had a clause which prevented you from downsizing them to certain areas - well there's no way they can have listed every cheap area in the county so find a cheap flat in on they missed and ship them off into it!

Get yourself down to the Citizens Advice Berau first thing in the morning and see what they advise. It may require some drastic action to get them out of the house.

Its going to be hard. You both may feel guilty. But its time to look after yourselves - although we can support you and offer ideas - noone on this forum can do it for you.

((hugs))

tesuhoha

We're all poised with baited breath, waiting for you to come back on sweetheart.

Little_Miss_Winner

Hi Jen,

Hope you're ok this evening?

Hugs
pot
x

Little_Miss_Winner

Yay !!!!:j :j

Just noticed that the *THANKS* Button is back (when did that happen)
So have thanked your 1st post , as I couldn't do it when you first posted.

Love
Pot
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tesuhoha

potogold wrote:

Yay !!!!:j :j

Just noticed that the *THANKS* Button is back (when did that happen)
So have thanked your 1st post , as I couldn't do it when you first posted.

Love
Pot
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I first noticed it this afternoon. Was wondering if Martin held it back for a couple of days because we're all misusing it and he's trying to teach us to cope without it. Or maybe I'm just paronoid?

lynzpower

BobProperty wrote:

Quick Reply and I look forward to the OP's comments later:
Despite what others say, I think the last thing you should do is sell your own house.
I think there may be a way to sell the PIL property.
I would personally be very tempted to stop paying the mortgage on the PIL property. You need the money now.
I also think we need to see a SOA, as I think you may be able to contain the current CC problems by switching / tarting etc.

Bob, completely agree with you there, I would definately suggest NOT selling your own home AT ALL.

wendym

I absolutely agree that you should investigate all possible ways to sell the property your PILs are effectively squatting in, and keep your own home. If you can keep that and sort out your health you'll have two important fixed points.
I hope you're kind of OK.
We're all thinking of you.