Let My Life Begin

lilmissmup

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Pervy Hug Time. Am really sorry for you, you deserve to be happy with someone, prob more than I do!

doodledo_2

Don't be silly lol.

Guess I am just not good enough lol

savingholmes

doodledo wrote: »

Don't be silly lol.

Guess I am just not good enough lol

now you know as one of the members of the doodledoo is ruddy marvellous club we can't have that - not from you lilmissmup either

You both deserve good things... perhaps this one wasn't the right one yet....

lilmissmup

You are good enough hun, you deserve your own club!!!

Sadly not all relationships work, I did have a few couple months things between my first heartbreak and meeting the latest ex and its prob better you find out now then when he is more involved with DD etc.

I think its pretty common to have short term relationships in between the long term ones.

Sorry SH I won't put myself down promise.

doodledo_2

I know, just feeling sorry for myself lol.

lilmissmup

God hun your nothing compared to my wallowing

You feel as sorry for yourself as you need too, I bloody well do as you know!

savingholmes

have you heard of a book called SUMO - shut up and move on.... I read it over the summer and found it really positive.... Even that book tho suggests that when you have setbacks that you allow yourself a DEFINED period of HIPPO time - ie wallowing in the natural grief for what has gone and what might have been... Be kind to yourself and your DD.

It might be worth looking into counselling before going into more new relationships. It might help you explore what it is you want from a relationship and whether you are using the right methods to get it... if counselling isn't your thing perhaps coaching could be... Think about it... I've had counselling and coaching at various points in my life and it has made a difference

doodledo_2

I don't tend to wallow, so much poop happened this year its all I would do lol.

I tend to just get on with things and hope the bad things go away lol

savingholmes

if you do what you've always done....

you get what you always got....

just another little thought..... I am trained as a coach LOL so I can't resist them! I believe in positive thinking but not in denial. I think it is important for our mental health sometimes to take stock, grieve and not try to move on too quickly....

doodledo_2

ooooo I like that one.

I don't need to grieve this relationship, wasn't long enough but I do think I am still grieving my marriage if that makes sense.

Definately think now is a good time to take stock, think about what I want and do what needs doing.