KP's Another year older another year wiser?

Keeping_Positive

Hi

Had a fun day although Im knackered!. Did a bit of shopping first although other than buying sweets and having her ears pierced DD2 didnt buy anything. DD1 spent £20 scarily quickly. I thought she had done well but just told me half doeast fit so can I take her back tomorrow :eek:. Er no Im working speak to your Dad!

Ice skating was a laugh. I never ventured on but they all did well. DD1 was a natural and DD2 wasnt too bad either. Im surpised as she is unlucky to have my sporting skills ie none...

Will charge her £20 for skating and Mcds but that means I have spent more than planned today.

£7.60 parking
£11.30 skating and snacks _this and mcds net of DD2s part thats in the 70
£20 DD1
£15 DS treat as he doesnt get pocket money
£14 Mcds
£70 - to DD2

TOTAL £137.90 :eek: :eek: :eek:

Keeping_Positive

OOh forgot to add

DD2 is very happy. We surprised her with a cake when we got back and OH has put the bed up.

dizzy_lizzie

Sounds like you had a very fun packed day KP. You deserve to put your feet up
As for the ice skating I went once many years ago with some children when I worked for a childrens charity. I slipped on the ice and fractured my coccyx. Oh my word that was very very painful. Still have problems now when sat for long periods.
Glad to see you stayed off the ice and kept upright lol
Pour yourself a wine and bask in a day enjoyed by all
Luvz Dizzy x
♥

taxi73

Sounds like you had a lovely day.Now time to chillout x

Keeping_Positive

Hi

Busy month and Im glad to get a week off. Initial plan was to do stuff with kids, check budget and aim to tidy/declutter the house a bit. Slight bug in the plan is that OH had a row at the weekend and now I said I would move out. Now Im 50/50 over the idea so need to use this time to decide .

boredofbeingathome

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

Hi

Busy month and Im glad to get a week off. Initial plan was to do stuff with kids, check budget and aim to tidy/declutter the house a bit. Slight bug in the plan is that OH had a row at the weekend and now I said I would move out. Now Im 50/50 over the idea so need to use this time to decide .

That's a difficult one KP. I have left Mr.B before and spent about two weeks in total-thinking and making plans. It is useful to go away and just be yourself for a bit. Do you have a way you can get away for a small while to think things through? There are also other options to consider, such as counseling.

Hugs Bob x

beanielou

Hope it resolves itself as you want.
Dont rush into anything either way.
Take care xx

dizzy_lizzie

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

Hi

Busy month and Im glad to get a week off. Initial plan was to do stuff with kids, check budget and aim to tidy/declutter the house a bit. Slight bug in the plan is that OH had a row at the weekend and now I said I would move out. Now Im 50/50 over the idea so need to use this time to decide .

Hi KP. What's going on here? Noticed you weren't on as often but, like me, thought you were just having a break from it whilst other things happened.
You do seem to have a lot of ups and downs and I suppose there comes a time when the downs seem to be more than the ups. Do you think if you weren't going through this 'becoming debt free journey' there would still be tension etc or do you think it's because of money that the arguments start. Do you see what I'm saying?
So basically if you were debt free would you still be with him?
OH and I have had some right stinkers especially early on in our relationship were I wanted nothing more than for us to split up. But we realised it was just the situation we were in (step-family) that brought the tension and so we stuck at it. Now my step sons are in their twenties (they lived with us from being two years old) and one has just got his degree BA Hons from London Met Uni and the other is back at college part time and manager of a pub and has a baby. And they're super lads. We celebrate 21 years of marriage this year and I can honestly say I don't know what I'd do without him. There are still those days when you think 'Grrrrr' but everyone has those don't they?
Sorry to ramble on your thread but do think carefully and take into account the situation you are in at the moment because it won't always be like this huni and you will be debt free with all those pressures gone.
Luvz Dizzy x
♥

Keeping_Positive

Thanks Dizzy Its a tough one Im sending out mixed messages so thats not helping. I think I want him to wrap me in his arms and say it will be ok that we can change enough to make a difference. All I get is that "I can't see into the future".

Without the kids I really dont think we would still be together, The money doesnt hekp but things are ok ish. Would be better if we worked together more but we seem to have such opposite POV at times.

We have been together 14 years so I know I love him and I thought he loved me but earlier he said he was struggling with that as I couldnt decide what was happening.

Sis offered her DD2s floor for a bit. I think I might take up the offer after this week at home if I still cant decide.

beanielou

Whos name is the debt in?
Equity in house?