KP's Another year older another year wiser?

Keeping_Positive

Anyways on a more positive note here is a blast from the past my TO DO LIST for the weekend

Wash up and clean kitchen
Get kids to put clothes away
Tidy my room including the filing thats on the floor
BIG tidy and clear out off kids rooms
Hopefully find the missing DSs in said tidy up
Deal with DD1 who has been grounded this weekend so will cause a fuss
Do a meal plan for the week
Do a small as possible shop
Rest
Sleep
Relax

In_Search_Of_Me

DONT DO IT!!! I know its really hard but you will, and know you will, really regret going over budget for Christmas.From personal experience its much more fun making things ad finding cheaper presents plus more goes into them. Part of the dfw journey is surely about teaching your children that it is time and love that count - not material possessions? From what youve said they have no shortage of toys, days out, new clothes etc and saying no sometimes will make them realise that you mean what you say..otherwise they just earn that if they do the downcast, sad facey thing and you relent then it will become a learned behaviour...I know I'm being tough on you but with OH having ccj's etc I'm worried that the spending is back in the emotional spending category? Tell me if I'm wrong and to bog off if you wan to but I'm worried for you and dont want you going dow same spiral as oh...if you ca take a step back from the emotional stuff and look at it practically and finanically...hugs for you...here if you want a natter...

hypno06

I know it is tough when kids are subject to peer pressure, and you are subject to financial pressure, but honestly, you will create longer term problems if you bow to that pressure now. DD will continue to expect that no matter how much mum says there is no money, she can still manage to produce nice expensive presents.......

It is hard to deal with, I know, but talk to them honestly and calmly about the realities, and don't give in.

Be strong xx

Keeping_Positive

bank bal27
cc bal-99
OH130
tc55
expences240
citi-35
tesco-5
life ins-6
budget-232
balance75

Not looking too bad as expenses likely to be higher than thought. Also did a quidco switch to edf last night so £80 due in the new year.

Have NW card through so I can do the Bal transfer from MBNA to 3.9% LOB deal.

Keeping_Positive

Thanks Hypno and ISOM

I will listen and try to reseist the urge to go mad. You are both right it is emotional and DD will not learn if I "find" the money again.

beanielou

Dont do it.
I speak from bitter experience.

Keeping_Positive

Keeping_Positive wrote: »

Anyways on a more positive note here is a blast from the past my TO DO LIST for the weekend

Wash up and clean kitchen started
[STRIKE]
Get kids to put clothes away
[/STRIKE]Tidy my room including the filing thats on the floor
BIG tidy and clear out off kids rooms started Girls room almost done :j
Hopefully find the missing DSs in said tidy up
Deal with DD1 who has been grounded this weekend so will cause a fuss
Do a meal plan for the week
Do a small as possible shop
Rest
Sleep
Relax

Not too bad - grils room was as bad as I thought still have DSs to do.

Going to my Sis's tomorrow its my Neices 1st birthday - where did that year go - .

Mum has peed me off again by letting DS around the boyfriend she just doesnt get it that I dont care if hes not drunk I STILL do NOT want my son near the guy :mad::mad::mad:. Im probably overreacting but its still my wishes.

beanielou

Your mum should respect your wishes.
Families:rolleyes:

Keeping_Positive

Hopefully find the missing DSs in said tidy up

just reread this it looks like i have misplaced my sons lol! its actally 2 nintendo ds's.

Jo_R_2

KP - agree, please don't go crazy over Christmas. I know *exactly* how you feel - and with having this bit of money from my PPI coming soon, the exact same thoughts have gone through my head about splashing out.

Sometimes it's hard for logic to dictate in circumstances like this because of course we all want the kids to have a fabulous Christmas... but tonnes of presents isn't the way. Think about it - if you were anything like me, as a child at Christmas there was usually one or two things I really wanted, and anything else was nice but not expected iyswim? And what I remember from Christmases as a kid are getting together with the family, watching others open their presents, watching afternoon films on the telly, Christmas dinner - being honest I can hardly remember what I got for presents...

I've never been able to buy the kids much, but as OH says they're only 5 and 3 - what will they know really? Of course when they're older they understand more about what's going on and I think it's a valuable opportunity to teach them and stand them in good stead for when they're older.

Of course I know you know all this;) and I am certain I'll be needing you to tell it back to me when I have my Christmas "have I bought enough for the kids?" panic :rolleyes::D