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spud30

LouiseJ wrote: »

I am stuck in a situation that I have created Spud. I know I do far too much for everyone in this house but something has to change especially when I get back to work in Sept.

I am trying to make small changes like putting their clothes on their beds for them to put away themselves but I cook every meal and wash up every dish, do all the laundry and organise pretty much everything.

I know that its me that needs to change.......ashamed of myself:o

Ahh I see. I agree time for a change, especially with the additional responsibility at work coming up for you.

I'm lucky that mine have always wanted to help. DD cleaned the downstairs loo the other day, then spent the rest of the day moaning whenever any of us used it :rolleyes:

We've just recently broached the subject of regular chores in return for pocket money (neither get any at the moment) and they both seemed keen. DD would like a paper round, but DH said no way.

redsquirrel80

LouiseJ wrote: »

I am stuck in a situation that I have created Spud. I know I do far too much for everyone in this house but something has to change especially when I get back to work in Sept.

I am trying to make small changes like putting their clothes on their beds for them to put away themselves but I cook every meal and wash up every dish, do all the laundry and organise pretty much everything.

I know that its me that needs to change.......ashamed of myself:o

Maybe you should put the dirty dishes on the beds, they might do them then

sammy115

Spud....both my girls benefited from getting regular pocket money. Up until that point I just gave them money whenever they asked (and they didn't ask a majorly amount) but it was easier to transfer £40 per month into their own bank account to do with what they wanted. It sounded a lot but they had to earn it and they had to buy their own clothes out of it. It certainly focused what they spent their money on and gave them a sense of value...

Although I don't see whats wrong with a paper round...

sammy115

LouiseJ wrote: »

I agree, its just difficult for me I mean to implement it without being made to feel like the wicked witch of the west:o

I either give them the silent (hang dog look) or cry .....both work.....:D

LouiseJ

sammy115 wrote: »

I either give them the silent (hang dog look) or cry .....both work.....:D

Crying hasnt worked before:o on boys or OH.

just feeling sorry for myself today:rolleyes:

becky_rtw

Could you start with one thing at a time perhaps - so say to boys from now on you are responsible for X and if it doesnt get done I dont do Y...

Men are very target orientated so if you incentivise it with and if you do X for X weeks you get a CD/treat/day out etc...

Depends how bribable they are I guess...

spud30

sammy115 wrote: »

Spud....both my girls benefited from getting regular pocket money. Up until that point I just gave them money whenever they asked (and they didn't ask a majorly amount) but it was easier to transfer £40 per month into their own bank account to do with what they wanted. It sounded a lot but they had to earn it and they had to buy their own clothes out of it. It certainly focused what they spent their money on and gave them a sense of value...

Although I don't see whats wrong with a paper round...

DH doesnt think it's safe Sammy - maybe a Saturday shop job when she's old enough, but he doesnt want her walking the streets early morning/evening.

We'll definitely sort them out their own chores. DD LOVES cleaning, DS will find it harder.

I sent them out earlier to get some fresh air. They came home a few minutes ago excited that they'd found loads of blackberries and rasberries - DS was keen to point out it's free food. They've just grabbed some bags and gone for more

spud30

LouiseJ wrote: »

Crying hasnt worked before:o on boys or OH.

just feeling sorry for myself today:rolleyes:

They want a HD telly dont they - how about they earn money towards that?

becky_rtw

Also I wonder if with hubby you could do it together so he washes and you dry or something like that and you can talk about your respective days then and catch up..?

Sets a good example then for the boys

sammy115

becky_rtw wrote: »

Could you start with one thing at a time perhaps - so say to boys from now on you are responsible for X and if it doesnt get done I dont do Y...

Men are very target orientated so if you incentivise it with and if you do X for X weeks you get a CD/treat/day out etc...

Depends how bribable they are I guess...

Lils is only supposed to look after HER rabbit...it would be dead six weeks ago if it wasn't for me...:rotfl: