MSE Pregnancy Club XV

Fitzio

Glamazon wrote: »

Fitzio - I've been getting that for the last few days along with dia woo woo or thought it might be from excessive wiping. DId think it could the be the start of piles.

Am sure any soothing cream or antiseptic cream would soothe it - you got a rubber ring?!

No I don't have a rubber ring lol! It's not too sore just sitting down though so that's ok. It's just when I go to the loo. Poor baby - imagine stealing its Sudocrem before it's even born! Don't think it's piles - had to get DH to check as I can't see the bloody area and he doesn't think it is anything like that!!! Mortified now.

pretzelnut

Do you ladies mind if i gatecrash for a bit of a rant?

I read this thread a lot but it moves to fast for me to be able to post and keep up.

Im due on the 10th september with a little girl im going in for a c-section as i have had 2 already due to all my babies being breech and a few other complictaions.

Any way at the moment i am just so bored & extremely ANGRY all the time.

My anger is mainly aimed at my DF everything he does or doesnt do bugs the hell out of me. My anger is pretty bad, so much so at times i can seriously consider doing him so harm. I doubt i ever would but just the thought that i might be capable is scaring me sh!tless.

I dont know why i'm so angry, im a bot of a perfectionist and want everything to be right for when i go into and come home from hospital. I have everything organised, dinner money etc for my other 2 children and shopping is in the online basket ready for DF just to press order. All these stupid things. I know i sound like im controlling but seriously DF can be totally useless at times, last week he took DD to pre-school in the p!ssing rain without a coat cos he couldnt find it!

I would really like him to stand up to the plate and take over some of this but he just wants to play on his PS3 at the minute and he cant see why im so angry, especially when the floor needs mopping or there's a pile of washing that needs to be done. I keep saying i could go into labour at any minute and he just doesnt seem bothered. He doesnt see mess and is constantly asking such ridiculous questions that makes me think he's incapable of looking after a baby, which leaves me thinking that i cant go into hospital cos no way will he cope at home without me. As he never does anything without me asking / nagging him to do it 1st. I would so love him to use his innitiative he's not stupid just lazy.

Im seriously sleep deprived, im lucky if i get 3 hours sleep a night, but the last few days i have gotten myself into a catch 22 and started falling asleep abput 2-3pm for 3-4 hours, then of course im not tired come bedtime. I just want this pregnancy to be over.

I'm worried that i'll go into hospital and all that will get done at home is him playing on his PS3 then doing the bare minimum cleaning to make it look like he's done something for when we come home.

But back to the anger, i dont know where it is coming from, its not a recent thing either ive felt like this for a few months, i really hope its just cos im so tired and anxious that im about to have a baby anytime soon, hormones and the what not. I have had PND with my DD who is 2 and im also worried that i wont bond with this baby. Which is probably why im so anal about all the other stuff being perfect, then that leaves me to concentrate on bubs IYKWIM.

As for the boredom, i have never been so bored, i find myself clock watching, pacing back and forth, finger tapping, counting down the seconds, packing and re- packing my hospital bag, then getting moody cos i arent actually doing anything important just passing time. Normally we'd have loads to do or be getting on with, im a very hands on person - i hate not being able to do anything or go anywhere at the minute.

Ive tried explaining all this to DF and its a case of in one ear and out the other, i sometimes think i would be better of on my own as he is like having another child in the house 85% of the time. He makes more mess and causes me more grief than my 2 other kids.

I have no one else to talk to my midwife is useless that is when i manage to get hold of her and my family just tell me what they think i want to hear which isnt helpful.

Right now i just want to cry my eyes out, im shattered but ive only just woke up from a 4 hour nap - grumpier than i have ever been and im staying out the way cos if DF asks me 1 more time if im OK im gonna end up slapping him round the face.

Are all the feelings normal, you'd think i would know having been pregnant 5 times. But everytime has been different.

Thanks for listening if you made it this far.

harley1

Fitzio wrote: »

Evening ladies and bumps,

Got to mid afternoon and had to bail out as my pelvis was seizing up and I could hardly straighten myself. This seems to be happening every time I have been sitting down (like when I get out of the car). I feel like a 90 year old woman. So glad I am not at work anymore. I haven't had a problem with mobility up until now!

I have the same problem with my hips/pelvis Fitz. Just seems to lock in place then I get up and end up still bent double. Moving around, albeit very slowly, seems to ease it off a bit. Sadly I've still got another week at work but it amuses my colleagues to see me hobbling around when I've been sat still for ages.

xxxx

Glamazon

princess - I think you just need to accept that men don't see dirt and mess the way we do. You have done all you can and all you can do now is hope that the house ticks over while you are in. It's amazing what they manage to do when they need to!

It might be worth you staying in hospital for a couple of days after the section to get a rest and so that you're not thinking about the housework and looking after 2 other children.

There will be lots of different MW of the ward so you might find one you can open up to or they might be able to point you towards someone that can help.

lil_miss_06

back again,,,

have i missed anything,,,,apart from all the tmi stories,,,isnt it lovely being pregnant??? all these lovely things we have ,,,oh the joys,,,,im sure we will all miss being pg in a funny kind of way

Fitzio

Princess – sorry you are feeling stressed at the moment. I think it is probably quite natural when you are so close to the birth as you will be feeling anxious, especially if you have had problems with previous births. I have had a few fights with DH over the weekend as I am feeling a bit more stressed now that the date is getting closer and I am starting to worry about stuff.

As Glam says, some men are just like that. They are programmed differently. My DH is very supportive and will do anything if I ask him - but I usually have to ask him about 10 times which then means I am nagging! :rolleyes: If I ask him once and end up doing it myself, he says “Just ask me” or “I was just going to do it”. We are both quite lazy about stuff, but he has been much better since I have been pregnant – however, his priorities are totally different from mine. He thinks a hole in the wall needs filled immediately, whilst I think there are things that need doing way before that! It’s a constant battle.

If you are seriously thinking about doing him some harm, you should definitely speak to someone, even if it’s a visit to your doctor rather than your midwife. You wouldn’t want to bring your new baby home to a house where your stress levels are through the roof before you even start with the baby.
Have you tried to explain to your DF (calmly) just how you feel and how unsupportive he is being? If not, then I think you need to make it clear what you expect of each other, and then try to chill out and place your trust in him. If you don't, he will probably continue to act like a child as that's how he is being treated.

I suppose only you know what kind of dad he will make. I expect that my DH won’t be on the PC etc as much when we have a baby as he is totally committed to it and it will be his number 1 priority. But I know that other men still play their Playstations etc. as much as they did before which I would not really stand for personally.

Come on here and vent any time, particularly if you are just killing time during the day. There is always someone here to listen, and if it helps you get your frustrations out then it might just calm you down a little bit.

pretzelnut

FITZIO - thanks for that everything you said made perfect sense, we do have different priorities.

I know he'll make a great doting dad he has brought up my DD since she was 5 weeks old, which is why i get a bit miffed when he asks silly questions as its not like the 1st time he has done some of these things. I know its different as this will be his 1st biological baby but still, some things are the same regardless. I suppose i should chill out, he is having a baby too afterall, and will be just as anxious and scared as i am.

I think the anger is more frustration, i have given up so much and risked a lot to have this baby and he has carried on as normal, and it just gets to me that he doesnt quite get it.

I wish he would hoover the house as much as he hoovers the car. But i guess thats just men, and maybe im noticing the little things far to much as i feel i can do nothing else at the minute.

three2be

Princess, i get where you are. I go through the same thing with my OH i swear he is worse than a child and it really gets me angry too. Like today he goes to greggs when he was out comes back in and is all i got you a treat so i went into the bag but couldn;t find anything. 12 years together and he still can't get it through his thick skull it's him that likes stake bakes not me ggrrrrrrr.

Or tonight when i asked him to put the pasta on and i had to tell him to put salt in the water. The panicked phone call i received about no butter even though their was a pack in the fridge, i asked are we OK for milk.. yes.. get home open fridge guess the kids are on toast for breakfast.lol

Just take deep breaths and try to relax give him step by step instructions on things you want done and if he has a problem helping out just accidentally lose his games for the comp and blame him lol

Glamazon

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three2be

Glamazon wrote: »

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Flamin typical when i have months to go.