Double bed or two singles?

taliwillow

Hello,

I just wondered if there are any couples out there who have two single beds instead of a double and if so what do you think are the pros and cons?

Also if you have a double and would never consider two singles I would be interested to hear why.

Basically my husband and I have discussed a few times the possibility of getting two singles instead of our double but we don't want to spend out on a single (we would only need to buy one at the moment as we have one in our daughters bedroom but shes still in a cot) only to find that we don't like it and want to go back to our double. Theres also the issue of where to keep the double while trying out the singles idea as I wouldn't want to get rid of the bed and then end up having to buy another because we don't like the singles. We have looked into getting a super King Size but it is too wide for our room so we thought maybe two singles would fit better (but we haven't actually measured yet - I am only posting about it now as I can't sleep due to being ill and it has got me thinking about it again). My husband is always complaining that there is no room in the bed for him as I have so many pillows in bed with me (one between my knees, one under my head, one under my arms in front of me - isn't that what all women do?) and I don't like the draught created down my back when the quilt is over both of us, I like to tuck it down behind me so thought two singles would be the best option for us.

We only know of 1 couple who have two singles and they are in their 70's. Is this something mainly done by older generations and if so, why? I am in my mid 20's and my husband is nearly 40 so we aren't really ancient but no spring chickens either.

Just to add, when we were on holiday in May, due to trying to find somewhere suitable for our babies to sleep we ended up sleeping in twin beds and I loved it! But maybe it was just the novelty of it as it was different but I loved having the quilt and bed all to myself.

I would love to hear what you all think.

Taliwillow

maggie111

I did sleep on two singles pushed together... definitely not recommended due to the gap your arm slid down into... but then I gather that's not the problem.

Have seen plenty of people from an older generation having 2 single beds.

As you've already had to spend a good few nights living in 2 seperate beds and you already both enjoyed that then I can't see why you'd want to know if it was ok? Who cares what anyone else thinks - if it feels good - do it.

PS - a duvet sharing problem can be solved when you have a double bed and a king size duvet... Just a thought.

creased-leach

We've slept seperately for years out of convenience, on and off. If it works for you, it works. There's no sense going without sleep just because a double bed is the "done" thing!

We're now in a double, and both find it fairly difficult to sleep alone, but it can be done.

There's a practical way to test at least part of the theory before committing. Take it in turn to sleep in DD's room on the single, and the other in a double for a week or two & see how you get on before comitting.

Alternatively, if you're a bit more flush & have the space, try "Zip & link" beds...two singles that become a double if you change your minds

taliwillow

Thanks Maggie. I just wondered if long term single beds could potentially (how do I say this....) rid us of any tiny bit of passion we may have left? I suppose sleeping together is the only thing we still get to do together anymore as the rest of the time we are sorting the children. Just to clarify when I say sleeping I do actually mean sleeping!

We have tried the King Sized quilt thing as it gets very cold in our room in the winter but my husband found it was too heavy and we kept tripping over it when walking past the bed (sounds really silly doesn't it but that's what happened!).

luvvlyjubbly

How about keeping the double and buying 2 single quilts

looby-loo_2

We like to have two single duvets on our double bed which prevents the cold space down our backs.
Only problem is changing two covers for washing - one is bad enough!

creased-leach

taliwillow wrote: »

Thanks Maggie. I just wondered if long term single beds could potentially (how do I say this....) rid us of any tiny bit of passion we may have left? I suppose sleeping together is the only thing we still get to do together anymore as the rest of the time we are sorting the children. Just to clarify when I say sleeping I do actually mean sleeping!

We have tried the King Sized quilt thing as it gets very cold in our room in the winter but my husband found it was too heavy and we kept tripping over it when walking past the bed (sounds really silly doesn't it but that's what happened!).

I don't believe any of our four children were concieved in a double bed.

powerwin

Do whatever will give you both the best night's sleep, don't worry about what the "done thing" is.

Rgds

aliasojo

taliwillow wrote: »

We have looked into getting a super King Size but it is too wide for our room so we thought maybe two singles would fit better (but we haven't actually measured yet - I am only posting about it now as I can't sleep due to being ill and it has got me thinking about it again).

I'm a bit confused. Super King size is the same width as 2 singles so I'm not sure how one would fit and the other wouldn't.

Apart from that, I agree with the others. As long as you both agree, then do whatever you feel gets you the best sleep.

I've got a Super King and often think about singles just because I think I might sleep better. However it's gone midnight and I cant sleep because my OH is still at work and I miss his warmth so I'm not sure if singles would be 'all that' after all.

Oh and btw....in your 20's...you are most definitely still a spring chicken.

LE3

my parents had 2 single duvets on a double bed for years and later went to 2 separate beds.
In single beds, each person gets 3ft of space - in a standard double, each person gets just 2'3" - if you have lots of pillows in your 2'6" that's not alot of space left for your partner!
I would say try it! You may be able to get a cheap single bed from freecycle or the newspaper - if you find you don't like it, get rid of the frame and put the single mattress under the bed to pull out later for guests!

ailuro2

We have a 6 foot bed - the superkingsize bed you mentioned - and it's wonderful!:D

I'm not kidding when I say at least once a week one of us will say 'I love our bed' because it's so big and we can both move around in our sleep without disturbing the other (my snoring is another matter:o) Another thing is you can roll around as much as you like when you're "having a cuddle" but in a single bed that is going to be a lot more precarious.:p

My SIL bought a superkingsize bed and she loves hers too.

The only downside is changing the duvet cover - it is a bit bigger than other duvets so a bit trickier to change the cover. The sheets are just the same as any other bed, though.
Another factor is you don't share the warmth of the other person - which in summer is a good thing, but in winter I miss his radiated warmth - but since he's a shift worker I'm used to him not being there anyway and vice versa so we have a thicker duvet.

Two full size singles beds would be 6 foot wide, but you'd need room down the side to get in or out, so it would take up more room, if anything.
If you want to try out a six foot bed, go stay in a Marriott hotel for the night - that's what size their beds are.;)