Please help - URGENT

jha

I really feel for you and i am sincerley hoping the vet can help her. It is a hard decision to make. my kittie who had cardiomyopathy had to be put to sleep due to a clot in her spine - however i was always told to watch for the breathing you describe so the vets could catch it quickly and help - it would have been cause by fluid on lungs due to the heart not working properly.

And please dont feel guilty - it will come to the point when the vet will say "enough is enough" (this might not be today) - i know you have to agree and sign forms etc but it is a trained professional telling you that you have done everyting you can for tom and she has had a lovely 2 years with you.

Try to enjoy the time you have with tom and i know she wouldnt want you to cry. Give her a nice cuddle and a treat (if she will eat it) and take some nice photos of her / spend some time with her - it will give you better memories of your last days with tom - if that is the way it has to be.

My_Feet_Hurt

Thank you for the replies.
My husband has just emailed to say she has an appointment at 6pm. He suggested going there to see what they say.
It feels like the clock is ticking now.

samanimals

I am so sorry to here about your tom 18 years old is a very good age I really hope everything works out.I know how you feel.Bless you and tom she loves you to.

Mutter_2

I went through this with my dog a couple of months ago.

Afterwards apart from the natural grief the guilty feeling was overbearing.
His morning started with the usual routine of sitting on my lap for a cuddle and then for a sniff around the park entrance as that's all he could manage. Then I lead him to his death at the Vet. I betrayed him in other words as he trusted me with everything.

To My Feet Hurt, you've already anticipated that feeling guilty will happen which I hadn't, so you may cope better who knows. She certainly sounds as though she needs respite from her troubles, but part of my guilt was wondering if whether my dog had been able to choose, would he have preferred to starve in his bed and not PTS. Did I choose the latter for him or because I couldn't bear to see him waste away in front of my eyes?

I don't know whether the guilt feeling ever leaves us or whether it just lurks in our memory waiting to resurface as now it has in mine.

My Feet Hurt, unless you decide now that you will allow your cat to die naturally and perhaps in pain at home no matter what, then euthanasia now is kindest for you both as if you put it off today, you'll have to go through all this again soon.

I and I'm sure others here will be thinking of you all at 6pm.

May I just ask in case you haven't thought, what you'd want for your cat if she is PTS? My dog was cremated privately and should you wish similar you may need to phone a Cremation service as it will be after closing this evening.

Mutter_2

My_Feet_Hurt wrote: »

Thank you.
I had been reading so back threads about people who have done this, and I love the idea.
Maybe I should ring them and ask what they do along those lines.
Right now Tom is laying on the rug..purring for England without a care in the world. I really need someone to make this decision for me.
I`m so scared I`ve got it wrong and that she will be fine soon.

Of course we are all different but I chose not to euthanise at home for the very reason that my dog's bed was his sanctuary, not somewhere to be lying in when the Vet approached him. Also the Vet will attend to PTS not to examine, hope that's correct.

The feeling that she may be fine soon could be true, but the rallying will be for a short time and the downturn worse.
On the morning of my dog's death, I would have gone back home with him had not OH intervened and I still don't know if I did the right thing. Maybe there isn't a "right thing".

Whatever happens, you'll get plenty of support here and if you don't feel up to posting, perhaps someone more articulate than me will make an announecment for you, as they did so kindly for me.

I'm sobbing along with you too, brings back very painful memories.

MrsTinks

Vets will usually attend to examine if they have the resources and time - but it will cost considerably! If they have several emergencies then they may not attend at home unless it's to euthanise a suffering animal...

I may or may not have to make a similar decision soon - depending on blood results from a test taken today for my own cat and my decision is that so long as he's happy and has a good quality of life I'll keep going. The day my greedy eat everything cat stops enjoying his food and the vet can't make him better with a simple solution (there is no way I am stressing my poor lad by turning him into a maracas by stuffing him full of 10 pills a day!) then it's time to do the final act of love that as an owner it is my duty to do... to let him go reasonably painlessly. Thankfully he actually loves the vets (long stays there in the past after arguments with cars - daft sod!) so the only reason I'd have for not taking him in to let him go is that he hates going in the car *sigh*
If the vet says that it would be kinder to let her go then don't feel guilty... If it was you and you couldn't breathe properly, didn't enjoy your food anymore etc... wouldn't you want to be helped out of the pain before you started to waste away? I think I would...

cakeordeath_2

I'm so sorry, I'l be thinking of you at 6pm. You have taken her into your lives and given her a fantastic loving home in her twilight years and now might be the time for that final act of kindness....and you mustn't forget that it IS an act of kindness, you're not doing it for you, you'd keep her forever if you could, you're doing it for Tom.

I understand the heartache you feel, we had to make the same decision for our 13 year old collie cross, Jed, seven weeks ago, although it broke our hearts we know we did the right thing, he wasn't the dog he used to be so, deep down, we knew it was time, he was just waiting for us to be strong enough to let him go.

Mutter_2

Am here thinking of you MFH. X

UKTigerlily

Thinking of you & Tom also x

medders2604

Thinking of both you and Tom. x

Big Hugs xx