£40 for a night I don't want

Any

valos_mummy wrote: »

And frugallass, saying you're glad someone isn't your friend really isn't a particularly nice thing to say, even with a smiley. If you disagree with someone, there are better ways to put it. But I do agree that yes, it is just a party. Not pathetic mind, some people love these type of evenings, but it's just a minor thing that if someone is your friend, they shouldn't fall out with you over.

Hmm, I wasn't so sure that actually emotionally blackmailing someone with "as a friend you need to help out" was good either...

I have to say I don't see this as helping either. And I wouldn't like my friendship judged on how much money I spend on a "friend" or in her favour.

thatgirlsam

Any wrote: »

Hmm, I wasn't so sure that actually emotionally blackmailing someone with "as a friend you need to help out" was good either...

I have to say I don't see this as helping either. And I wouldn't like my friendship judged on how much money I spend on a "friend" or in her favour.

hi any .. the op posted to i presume gauge others opinions and views ..

i have said that i would go as a show of support to a friend, i would not feel blackmailed nor do i want the op to think that i think she should go if she does not want to

i hope that makes sense ... i really do fail to see why have annoyed frugallass so much buy having an opinion different to hers

Jet

I have told her I would rather not come and she was fine with it. Well, apart from handing me a brochure! lol.

Thanks for all the comments.

Flashdaisy

Jet wrote: »

I have told her I would rather not come and she was fine with it. Well, apart from handing me a brochure! lol.

Thanks for all the comments.

Really glad to hear you got it sorted!

galvanizersbaby

frugallass wrote: »

I meant what I said - I'm glad I don't have friends like her who expect me to go to their parties because they did me a favour six months ago.

So tell me, how should I have put that I was glad she wasn't my friend?[/QUOTE]

Why bother to post that? I could see your point of view but then you sounded kind of nasty - no need to get so personal about it surely

OP - glad you've resolved the matter -bin the brochure and if she asks your little un has recently taken a worrying interest in fire so your banning all candles/fire starting devices from your house

frugallass

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i really do fail to see why have annoyed frugallass so much buy having an opinion different to hers

any my opinion is different to yours......you chose to continue to moan about me, I'm just putting my point across

frugallass

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I could see your point of view but then you sounded kind of nasty - no need to get so personal about it surely

nasty ? you're just as sensitive as the other one....I'll admit I've been a bit sarcastic and a bit opinionated but I have not been nasty

personal ? cos I told her to dry her eyes or because I said I was glad she wasn't my friend ? jeez.....:rolleyes2

galvanizersbaby

frugallass wrote: »

nasty ? you're just as sensitive as the other one....I'll admit I've been a bit sarcastic and a bit opinionated but I have not been nasty

personal ? cos I told her to dry her eyes or because I said I was glad she wasn't my friend ? jeez.....:rolleyes2

In my opinion personal because you said you were glad she wasn't your friend - the dry your eye's princess comment was just sarcastic and I assume you were trying to be condesending unless of course thatgirlsam is in fact royalty! - prob not

Anyhow in the spirit of being nice to other moneysaver's etc... I am sure you are a lovely warm person really and your comments have been misinterpreted as nasty as opposed to opiniated and sarcastic as you say - apologies for that

frugallass

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

In my opinion personal because you said you were glad she wasn't your friend - the dry your eye's princess comment was just sarcastic and I assume you were trying to be condesending unless of course thatgirlsam is in fact royalty! - prob not

Anyhow in the spirit of being nice to other moneysaver's etc... I am sure you are a lovely warm person really and your comments have been misinterpreted as nasty as opposed to opiniated and sarcastic as you say - apologies for that

And I apologise if I have offended or upset anyone - although I do think that people are quick to jump on the 'she's nasty / he's bullying' bandwagon just because they have differing opinions. Some people are too sensitive, but in the same tone I suppose some people are too opinionated.

I am a firm believer in saying what you think and feel, and have never lost a friend through being that way.

Yes I am sarcastic, I'm the first to admit it - it's the way I am, and I have no intentions of changing.

I'm now going to read threads and try to appreciate that other people's opinions are as important as mine

Lots of love to you all x

foreign_correspondent

I hate these things and refuse to go... it's not really a party anyway is it? It is just a way of adding extra pressure to their sales tactics.

You have to sit there politely, whilst being lectured on the virtues of some stuff you dont want, in a friends home, usually by a strange and annoying woman, then, have to pass all this cack round and make admiring noises, then with the pressure of supporting your friend and the disadvantage of being a captive audience you always feel immense pressure to buy something so as not to offend the friend.

I really resent the whole idea, and so do not go, because if you do go, and dont buy, it is almost always uncomfortable. I have better things to do with my time and my money.

A party on the other hand, should be a good natured and informal gathering of people, aided by some nice snacks, refreshments etc.. to relax, have fun, chat and socialise...

Jet, well done on saying no!