£40 for a night I don't want

thatgirlsam

frugallass wrote: »

!!!!!! she's having a partylite party not a major operation

i only said she should support her frined ..thats my opinion, that is what i would do

i would make it clear that i was not going to buy anything but i would go if she needed to make it look like there were people there , i suppose thats not fair on the party planner

having mates is a 2 way street in my eyes, you do stuff fir them , they do stuff for you

thisuseridistakenagain

I was invited to my friends avon party, i felt like i would be obliged to 'help her' by buying things, so i said i couldnt afford to buy anything and so it would be silly of me to go and be shown the suff. Even beter if you say your son wants to spend time with you.

Jet

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i only said she should support her frined ..thats my opinion, that is what i would do

i would make it clear that i was not going to buy anything but i would go if she needed to make it look like there were people there , i suppose thats not fair on the party planner

having mates is a 2 way street in my eyes, you do stuff fir them , they do stuff for you

I do a lot of stuff for this friend - including driving her to lots of places (she doesn't drive) and looking after her youngest daughter while she works, lending her stuff etc. She's a nice friend in that she is good company but as for supporting her, I do far more on a practical level than I get back. I don't begrudge it because I get some good emotional support from her. But I think finding £40 to hand over to her family to do something I don't want to do, is pushing it a bit far and I wouldn't expect it from her.

thatgirlsam

Jet wrote: »

I do a lot of stuff for this friend - including driving her to lots of places (she doesn't drive) and looking after her youngest daughter while she works, lending her stuff etc. She's a nice friend in that she is good company but as for supporting her, I do far more on a practical level than I get back. I don't begrudge it because I get some good emotional support from her. But I think finding £40 to hand over to her family to do something I don't want to do, is pushing it a bit far and I wouldn't expect it from her.

yep fair play , as i said i would not be spending money but i would give my time to help someone out .. but it sounds like you are already a good friend to her helping her out etc

im sure she will understand if you explain you want to be spending that time with your son

frugallass

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i only said she should support her frined ..thats my opinion, that is what i would do

i would make it clear that i was not going to buy anything but i would go if she needed to make it look like there were people there , i suppose thats not fair on the party planner

having mates is a 2 way street in my eyes, you do stuff fir them , they do stuff for you

support her in what way ? by giving the sales person false expectations on sales lol !

.....but even if she did go to 'support' her she would most likely get bullied or feel pressured into buying something

going to a party isn't a life or death situation - proper friends would understand her reasons for not going

bryanb

From a male viewpoint- I'd just say "No thanks" No need for excuses or reasons etc.

thatgirlsam

frugallass wrote: »

support her in what way ? by giving the sales person false expectations on sales lol !

.....but even if she did go to 'support' her she would most likely get bullied or feel pressured into buying something

going to a party isn't a life or death situation - proper friends would understand her reasons for not going

wow - you don't say :rotfl:

some people may feel bullied into buying something, but i wouldn't

frugallass

thatgirlsam wrote: »

wow - you don't say :rotfl:

some people may feel bullied into buying something, but i wouldn't

it's true - it's not life or death, it's not a desperate situation where I would expect the 'support' of my friend in exchange for something they had done for me...

you're the one making it to be something bigger than it actually is.....

thatgirlsam wrote: »

i think you should go

i would give my time to help someone out

you do stuff fir them , they do stuff for you

sometimes it is good to support our mates - you never know when you will need them

thatgirlsam

frugallass wrote: »

it's true - it's not life or death, it's not a desperate situation where I would expect the 'support' of my friend in exchange for something they had done for me...

you're the one making it to be something bigger than it actually is.....

frugallass.. please get your knickers untwisted :rotfl:

i only gave my opinion on what the op should do ...

its what i would do... now we are all obviously different , so please do not let it bother you any longer

frugallass

I'm just glad you're not my friend