Alcohol self help thread II

EthelBloggs

he's 14.. there were three kids of same age and it was a half bottle, you know those square flat ones? and there was a couple of inches left in it whe i found it this morning

ac

hopefully they were just being teenagers.......

has it happened b4 ?

EthelBloggs

Not that I know of.. but it could be that it has and he was less careless about hiding the evidence in the past..

my daughter has had issues with alcohol and drugs, she's in an eating disorder clinic now where they are addressing all her issues and she's recovering well now, although it will be a long process. I think thats why I'm extra scared.. cos my daughter was an alcoholic and I didn't even realise.. didn't even know she drank!! I don't want my son to go down the same path

ac

if thats his path...... hes got go down it !!!!!!!!

Al_Mac

I know the bottles Have you "talked" to him? As ac says he's probably just doing what 14 year olds do. And doing it with friends is a lot better than on his own.

EthelBloggs

ac wrote:

if thats his path...... hes got go down it !!!!!!!!

Nooooooo don't tell me that!!! I've seen alcohol mess up so many lives in my family... I so much hope that we can end the pattern now and he's a good kid in everything else.. I really hope he wont

feelinggood_2

Sorry to hear about your son Ethel.
In my case - no one knew I drank. As I was such a 'serious' drinker, I had ways of hiding it from everyone. Well, except my mum who knew all the signs. I'd rotate who I drank with, I'd have a different group of friends for each night of the week - so everyone just thought I got drunk once a week, not everyday.
I don't know if there is anything you can do for your son. All my mum did was leave AA leaflets around, under my pillow and things - so that if/when I wanted help, I could have it - it might be worth doing that? Or has he got an older cousin or someone he could talk to? He might be reacting badly to your daughter being in the clinic, has he spoken to someone about that?

Oh, and feelies sobriety date is 25th November 2006

feelinggood_2

Is it one of the 1/4 bottles Al Mac? If there were 3 of them, and it wasn't empty, that doesn't seem like much - I used to drink 2 of them a day

brodev

beer2006 wrote:

Wow, that really was a big impact if you still remember the date. Did you or do you still do AA?

I remember the day because my family remembered the day. I didn't know what day of the week it was never mind any dates. At the time I was so low I wanted to end it all and I had already tried a couple of times. I was very grateful that AA took me in as no one else would. At that time there wasn't much lower than an alcoholic. For a number of years before I joined I felt unloved , valueless, lonely and basically like a piece of scum. There were certainly a number of people who treated me accordingly. I joined AA and I have found people who value me, who like me and some even love me. I very rarely feel lonely, I enjoy life and despite several illnesses intend to hang about here for a while yet. I am sometimes asked why I still go to AA? To me the answer is obvious I don't wish to deprive myself of the love and affection of so many friends and, occasionally I am able to contribute to someone elses sobriety. The joy of that is wonderful

EthelBloggs

Al_Mac wrote:

I know the bottles Have you "talked" to him? As ac says he's probably just doing what 14 year olds do. And doing it with friends is a lot better than on his own.

Yeah, I talked to all of them.. explained that it wasn't a good idea etc etc.. I said that if it was a one off then fair enough but to be very aware of how easy it is to become addicted and end up with all kinds of problems etc... and that I felt that they had betrayed my trust and if their parents found out then I'd be in trouble because I'm responsible for them in my house and then I poured what was left out the window