Alcohol self help thread II

jayne.doe

hi fg how are you today still feeling sick:( not good.

feelinggood_2

jayne.doe wrote:

hi fg how are you today still feeling sick:( not good.

My tummy is okay today, going to risk eating something in a little while. Certainly was a nasty punishment for drinking! Drink and mediciation don't mix. Well, drink doesn't do me any good, so I'm not going to have any. Or any fags. Eeek, I need a new crutch lol. :A
I'm feeling good today, I'm positive, and happy. Its nice
How are you? x

jayne.doe

im gonna have to go to clean up now but reading these threads i dont understand. Why does anyone who has an addiction feel so alone, no self esteem almost self loathing. I cant understand coz i feel the same to the point of repulsion about myself. But i am loved cared for never alone, frequently told how wonderful i am by o/h ...... hey ho one of lifes mysteries:) woke today 5 days not including tonight, no alcohol feel so much better after week from hell......:)

jayne.doe

feelie maybe you should try to give up one addiction first, gonna kill you two:)

feelinggood_2

jayne.doe wrote:

im gonna have to go to clean up now but reading these threads i dont understand. Why does anyone who has an addiction feel so alone, no self esteem almost self loathing. I cant understand coz i feel the same to the point of repulsion about myself. But i am loved cared for never alone, frequently told how wonderful i am by o/h ...... hey ho one of lifes mysteries:) woke today 5 days not including tonight, no alcohol feel so much better after week from hell......:)

I'm gonna be strong and try and tackle both of them - I've done them at the same time before, this time I've just got to listen to ME and not the voices or other people telling me to do it. I'm pretty confident.

There seems to be something with us and the self loathing, and the social anxiety and everything, is that a reason we drink or a side effect of the drink?
Its amazing how much I hate myself for this addiction, but yet I feel very sympathetic to other people with the same problem. Its like with the rape - I blame myself and feel awful becuase of it, but anyone else whose raped, I feel so sad for them, and don't think they brought it on themselevs. Funny isn't it?

beer2006

Hi Ethel, I believe kids should be taught to use alcohol properly, not taught it is a demon.
Don't drive him onto the streets if he has a drink, he's done it in your home, you should be grateful. It doesn't mean you should put up with it though. Tell him if he wants alcohol he can have a glass of wine at dinner.
I really wouldn't go overboard with cards or anything.

I would sit him down and ask why and if he's done it before. I really wouldn't go overboard and treat him like a criminal. You've only seen it once, kids do have to try everything......... even if its horrible.

beer2006

jayne.doe wrote:

Why does anyone who has an addiction feel so alone, no self esteem almost self loathing. I cant understand coz i feel the same to the point of repulsion about myself. But i am loved cared for never alone,

I think the thoughts come first the addiction comes afterwards. Only my view.

edit.... Ahhh need to go and play buckaroo, being nagged

EthelBloggs

beer2006 wrote:

Hi Ethel, I believe kids should be taught to use alcohol properly, not taught it is a demon.
Don't drive him onto the streets if he has a drink, he's done it in your home, you should be grateful. It doesn't mean you should put up with it though. Tell him if he wants alcohol he can have a glass of wine at dinner.
I really wouldn't go overboard with cards or anything.

I would sit him down and ask why and if he's done it before. I really wouldn't go overboard and treat him like a criminal. You've only seen it once, kids do have to try everything......... even if its horrible.

I've alwys done with my kids the same as my mum did with me, and it worked with me cos I rarely drink and if I do, I only have one or two.... if there was drink about then I let them have a little bit.. so it's not something that's forbidden.. I just don't want it to be some kind of dirty secret that he keeps from me like my daughter did.. and she ended up having a fit thru mixing alcohol with her meds and being hospitalised on life support for 3 days as a result. I'm just really afraid of that happening again to her or to him

beer2006

EthelBloggs wrote:

I've alwys done with my kids the same as my mum did with me, and it worked with me cos I rarely drink and if I do, I only have one or two.... if there was drink about then I let them have a little bit.. so it's not something that's forbidden.. I just don't want it to be some kind of dirty secret that he keeps from me like my daughter did.. and she ended up having a fit thru mixing alcohol with her meds and being hospitalised on life support for 3 days as a result. I'm just really afraid of that happening again to her or to him

I understand, it sounds like you are doing it right. You are right to be worried, but you panicking and treating him the wrong way, would be sending out the wrong signals to him.
Does he do sports or something like that? Maybe you could explain, it would make him overweight and unfit?
It just sounded like you were a bit over protective, which I would totally understand given the background, I would be too...... I will be too

jayne.doe

i would have taught my children as drink being a demon coz of what i have gone thru. Maybe that is wrong as they have seen the demon - dunno only you ethel know your own children - not me- My dad had an absolute fear of house fires after he visited the devastation of many - he was a firemen- he showed me the photos of the burn victims- I have never had a chip pan, no-one is allowed to smoke alone in my house - and i hate electric blankets - i have always had two smoke alarms in my house reguarly checked. My point - maybe that was tough love but it worked. Maybe it also helped towards making me the addict i am now i dunno.