Alcohol self help thread II

beer2006

loates, what is this lady to you?
Thats alot, but not massive amounts, I would say, however its way over the recomended limit for women.
Its very hard to tell someone they have a problem, she may already have guessed and be scared by it and won't admit to herself, let alone you.

jayne.doe

loates123 wrote:

loates123, look at the back of the bottle for the number of units, a bit of an eye opener.

just looked
does not say
just says 1.5 litre 7.5% vol

surly if a woman drinks this every night it can not be good, if she has a problem i just want to help her out and try to show her she has a problem, i am ok i dont drink only on saturday nights sometimes.

lucky you i would love to be like you so i could drink:D she can only help herself just support her she is the one who will decide you are a good friend tho.

Al_Mac

It doesn't I thought they had to

Found this here

To calculate the number of units you need to know the strength of the drink (% ABV) and amount of liquid in millimetres (one pint is 568ml; a small glass of wine 125ml). You multiply the amount of drink in millilitres by the percentage ABV, and then divide by 1,000. To make matters easier many manufacturers are now stating how many units of alcohol each can or bottle contains.

So that works out at 11.25 units, when the weekly recommended for a woman is 14:eek:

loates123

beer2006 wrote:

loates, what is this lady to you?
Thats alot, but not massive amounts, I would say, however its way over the recomended limit for women.
Its very hard to tell someone they have a problem, she may already have guessed and be scared by it and won't admit to herself, let alone you.

gf
but is really getting to me and can i hell talk her round, a bottle a night everynight is what gets me would not mind if it was just the weekends.

beer2006

Up to you then if shes your girlfriend. How well you know her etc.
How long has she been drinking like this?

I will tell you, that alcohol dependant people, will get away with it, only as long as they are allowed to. But she may decide alcohol is more important than you.
Sorry its a difficult one.

loates123

been with her ages know her well, been drinking like this i say 7-8 years.
i am only 31 and dont want to carry on like this tho
any advice would be fab

Al_Mac

She has to know she has a problem and has to want to do something about it.

I hit rock bottom in April, I was just so fed up with myself and my life.

Hitting rock bottom seems to be a major factor in deciding to do something.

Talk to her. As beer says, if she finds drink more important than you, you have toput you first.

beer2006

loates123 wrote:

i am only 31 and dont want to carry on like this tho

Honestly? I would tell HER that, but I don't know what she will do

lewt

loates123 wrote:

been with her ages know her well, been drinking like this i say 7-8 years.
i am only 31 and dont want to carry on like this tho
any advice would be fab

Hello. this is what the programm that me and thousands of others like me well has to say on the matter, its the chapter "working with others" http://www.recovery.org/aa/bigbook/ww/chapter_7.html also try to read "to wives" http://www.recovery.org/aa/bigbook/ww/chapter_8.html its written in a way that looks as if the man in the house is a drinker, just change that word for gf and it will still apply. well the whole thing is wicked i think.

(Lewt flops out is big book puts it away agian then leaves whistling):whistle:

lewt

feelie i'd like to say nothing any person can do can come between me and my recovery today. i have a higher power and program in my life to help me deal with life and to guide me you can have this too. its all there just waiting for you. but only you can do it. not your mum not me (we can offer surgestions,advice and guidence) but you have to want it. you posts today have been hard for me to read here and on the depression thread as i feel you are looking for an easy way just as i did and just as many others have done. should you choose to take the steps required i promise you you will have a life beyond your wildesst dreams. we do recover! http://www.recovery.org/aa/bigbook/ww/chapter_5.html read this when sober babe....