Alcohol self help thread II

feelinggood_2

I'm pretty sure I know the root causes, just need to figure out how to stop them affecting my life - gotta try and keep the demons from the past in the past.
I think things are just pretty bad at the moment as I've got a few things on my mind, that I can't really make sense of. Only option is thinking, thinking and more thinking - hopefully one day I'll be able to figure out what I want

suffolkb

Feelinggood - a closed meeting is simply one in which you can attend if you have a desire to stop drinking.It`s not a private members club.An open meeting is different in that anyone can attend - i.e on behalf of a friend or relative.
You want to stop drinking,so you will be very welcome at either kind.

feelinggood_2

Thanks for the info suffolkb.
I just wish I could make up my mind you know, work out wether I have a prblem or not, then I could tackle it!
Wish I could talk to my Mum about it, but somehow I don't think she'd understand (shes a recovering alcoholic - 18 years sober)

Al_Mac

I don't know you mum, obviously, butI have a sneeking suspicion, that she may understand, she might be angry, but it would be a start.

feelinggood_2

Al_Mac wrote:

I don't know you mum, obviously, butI have a sneeking suspicion, that she may understand, she might be angry, but it would be a start.

I would talk to her, if I didn't have the fear that I'm going to be the one who pushes her over the edge and makes her drink again.

Al_Mac

feelinggood wrote:

I would talk to her, if I didn't have the fear that I'm going to be the one who pushes her over the edge and makes her drink again.

She's 18 years sober! She probably knows you've got problems. How many times can you be told to do something?

feelinggood_2

Al_Mac wrote:

She's 18 years sober! She probably knows you've got problems. How many times can you be told to do something?

Not enough times it would seem! I'm almost there, would go to a meeting if OH would understand. Basically, our relationship is right on the brink of ending, and I'm trying not to do anything that might make him end it. Have you been to many meetings Al Mac?

Al_Mac

feelinggood wrote:

Have you been to many meetings Al Mac?

Me, not one. I don't do crowds:o Tends to make me panic:eek: If I had my life again, I'd have an outside job:D

I can do one on ones, OKish, but I get easily claustrophobic, I need to be free to move about:rolleyes:

I saw a counsellor, helped me out of the drinking, didn't find my route cause, still looking. More likely to find it sober:D

OHs are an interesting thing. Mine would have kicked me out, eventually. So sorting myself out has done wonders for us. You need to work out if the OH is happy with you as a drunk, in which case he isn't good for you.

Do it.

feelinggood_2

Al_Mac wrote:

OHs are an interesting thing. Mine would have kicked me out, eventually. So sorting myself out has done wonders for us. You need to work out if the OH is happy with you as a drunk, in which case he isn't good for you.
Do it.

But I'm not a drunk. If I was a full-blown alcoholic, he'd support me. He just sees it as I like to have a good time but get carried away sometimes. I've tried explaining to him how it affects me, but then I get accused of being dramatic hehe. Hopefully when I move back up north, I'll be able to find one during the day. I can't really see a way of getting him to understand.
But I've still not drunk today, despite me getting some bad news this morning, and it having been a very hard day.

feelinggood_2

Another one from me.
I'm gonna try and not think about the alcohol problem, it probably is more of a symptom than a cause.
Going to try and get back to being on top of things tomorrow, will look into starting work again and back to the gym 7 times a week Also back on diet, eek! Why does chocolate have to be so tasty