Alcohol self help thread II

ac

blondie21 wrote:

any ideas from those of you who have managed to get drinking under control

hi ...............

theres is no such thing as an alcoholic in control of alcohol thats why
we are alcoholics.. the alcohol controls us.. (and no im not saying your an alcoholic.. im using the word 'we' as a collective of people who have admitted to being)

i have accepted i have no control over alcohol....... thats halve of step one.... of the 12 step program..... i have also accepted that my life is unmanageable with or without alcohol if im in the drivin seat (thats my version of the second part to step one)

Al_Mac

Just been to the pub for a meal, with friends, just waiting for Mrs Mac to accuse me of having had a drink, kept giving me looks after I'd been to the bar:eek:

Haven't:D Did want one:o But I haven't:T

elantan

thanks for your reply al mac he really didn't like this woman at all i could go on and on about it ..but i would only be telling you what he told me which (although i don;t think my husband would intentionally lie) may be coloured for his justification ..i know about the panic attack one and the choice of tipple as i went into his first meeting with him ..he had asked me to as he isn't very good at meeting people and has suffered panic attacks before ....because of the outcome of the counselling he is point blank refusing any other help i've tried explaining that not everyone is like that and at aa they are just the same type of people that he is but he's not interested...last night he had 6 cans of super lager and a half bottle of vodka which seems to be a new vice for him as before he would make a bottle of vodka last a full year ..he's going through his third in as many weeks ...i am feeling useless and i have to admit my love for him is starting to die ..but as micheleen pointed out i can't help him just now and have to face the fact i may never be able to ...but it hurts ...thanks again

Al_Mac

I was up to a litre a day:o Driving drunk, looking after the children drunk:o Just seemed to be able to get away with it somehow

Do you need to get drastic. Threaten to leave him or even leave him. Shop him to the police.

Can you go talk to his doctor on your own and get you some advice.

I think it is so hard from the OHs side. As a drunk you do have to make the decision yourself, even if you are forced.

One thing my counsellor did was get me to check out the units I was drinking. A weeks worth or more a day:eek: Fortunately my doctor thinks my internals are OK. But I am aware of others who still have tests:eek:

Edinburghlass_2

Good morning people and welcome to those new to this thread. As its Sunday morning we usually have a little community hymn singing, you will be spared any prayers but I would like to say that I think all who post on this thread are very brave and are in the thoughts of many people who may not post to say so.

I was at a wedding recently of a very good friend of mine who a few years ago had a bad health scare (not alcohol related) but the wedding was especially joyous because of this and the following hymn was sung with great gusto

One more step along the world I go
one more step along the world I go
from the old things to the new
keep me travelling along with you

And its from the old I travel to the new
keep me travelling along with you

Round the corners of the world I turn
more and more about the world I lean
all the new things that I see
you'll be looking at along with me

And its from the old I travel to the new
keep me travelling along with you

As I travel through the bad and good
keep me travelling the way I should
where I see no way to go
you'll be telling me the way I know

And its from the old I travel to the new
keep me travelling along with you

Give me courage when the world is rough
keep me loving though the world is tough
leap and sing in all I do
keep me travelling along with you

And its from the old I travel to the new
keep me travelling along with you

You are older than the world can be
you are younger than the life in me
ever old and ever new
keep me travelling along with you

May your God (whoever it may be) go with you on this journey, it won't be easy but then life never is.

ac

o wow.....

that one brought back some childhood memories

Al_Mac

Al_Mac wrote:

Did want one:o

Apparently she guessed that.

Al_Mac wrote:

But I haven't:T

And assumed correctly that:D

Edinburghlass_2

Al_Mac wrote:

Apparently she guessed that.



And assumed correctly that:D

You're a lucky man, Al, she knows you well

elantan

luckily he hasn't ever driven whilst under the influence...he went to the doctors but found out it has to go his record so he wont go back ....but i never did think that i could go and speak to the doctor thanks almac i will try it

Al_Mac

elantan wrote:

luckily he hasn't ever driven whilst under the influence...he went to the doctors but found out it has to go his record so he wont go back ....but i never did think that i could go and speak to the doctor thanks almac i will try it

I went to the doc to ask to have it on my records, just in case. If Mrs Mac needed to get them in to back her up.

She has to put the children first, then her, then me.

Any signs of me going bad again, plans have been discussed. Everyone has places to go. This was suggested in case I get violent, I never did:o

These are just things you can talk to him about. That's assuming he's willing to talk.

Acceptance is the key thing, he has to, then he's going to need you to work through it with him. Assuming he doesn't loose you first:eek:

I do hope you can get through to him:cool: