Alcohol self help thread II

elantan

hey micheleen, after his last incident he said he had hit rock botton ..i gave him it's the drink or me talk...he said never again ..but time heals memories and he started back on it ..he then went between the i just want to cut back as i still enjoy a drink to the no not having any more ever again ...i dont think he wants to give up ..i dont think he has hit rock bottom yet....but when he manages a full day without drink he expects a circus to perform in the living room to celebrate...sorry i'm probably not in the best of moods today to either talk to or listen... he got wrecked again last night and came out with all the old promises ...got that bad he couldn't walk or talk does this atleast 3 times a week the rest he is just a happy drunk

feelinggood_2

Hey Guys, me again
In the library in Manchester, decided to spend some time up here by myself.
Things are pretty rough at the moment, sorta decided that I should leave my husband, but don't know if I can
Right now I'm not really strong enough to do anything. Not drinking much tho, Saturday night I got very very drunk, nothing on sunday, monday I had 4 bacardi breezers, half a large bottle snirnoff ice and a bottle of tia maria. Nothing since. So I'm drinking a bit, but not much - don't think its bad drinking either, not drank alone. Not been alone, had a friend staying with me, which was brilliant, I was happy, and I mean really happy. Now he's gone and I'm alone, and I can't think of anything to do to make the pain go away. I've got so much going thru my head, wish there was an easy option, a way out, just wish I could feel better to be honest. Really wanting a drink now, I might have some when I get home. Not much, just want to take the edge of, y'know?
I'm scared at the moment, I've been trying to hide it, but I think family and OH have twigged them I'm not all together at the moment. I can't talk to them about this, it will just make things worse. I don't want them making a bit deal, telling me what to do, what not to do etc. I just want to be left alone, but I need someone. Just wish my mate was still here. When I say mate, you know what I mean don't you. Yes, its wrong, and its stupid and its nasty and evil of me, but I don't know what to do about it. I'd leave if I could, but it would mean throwing away everything, and that isn't a good idea is it? I don't want to be totally alone. Would be alright If I could work, rent a place, make a future for myself, but right now I don't think I could work.
I felt so great a while back, after the breakdown. I swore I'd never let this happen again, I swore I wouldn't go back to that dark, lonely place, but I seem to be heading that way, and I don't know if there is anything that I can do to stop it
I don't know why I can admit this stuff to you guys, I don't feel welcome here really, I don't think you guys like me, but hell, I haven't got anyone else who understands.
Sorry for a bit ramble, didn't want to go on like this, does feel a bit better to get it out tho.
Is it possible for me to be happy? Or am I stuck with depression for ever? No panic attacks yet, almost had one the other day.
I'm around for a little bit, so if you guys are out there, I'm reaching out to you, please post back

feelinggood_2

And there is no one here
I'm off now, gonna go home and get in to bed, try and sleep till this craving passes
On a happy note, a homeless guy offererd to share his lambrini with me, but I declined
Take care all of ya's
I might come back and bother you when I'm home next week if I go back, or whatever
Good luck

brodev

Hi FG, I don't know if you are like me or not, but, if you ARE like me then I can tell you what I have done to get rid of the feelings of being alone and unloved and depressed and frightened .................... etc. I had to admit to myself that I was and am an alcoholic. This means that I cannot drink with safety. It also means that there is no recovery for me until I stop drinking absolutely. It also means,for me,that stopping drinking by itself will not solve my problems. I also recognised that I could not do this by myself. I joined AA, stopped drinking one day at a time, and I have had one almighty struggle getting my head sorted out. I have had a measure of success with my head as I no longer am fearful, lonely, unloved or depressed. I have been married for 41 years have brought up 4 children who love me dearly and I have the love and affection of many friends. All of this I believe is down to the decision
I made 42 years ago to stop drinking and join AA. I have had unbelievable support from fellow AAs(also some letdowns) and I have come to accept the help of God (a Being who, if He existed at all was out to get me)
I do not kinow if this will work for you but I would highly reccommend that you try it. After all what have you to lose other than your insanity

Linguistic_Chimp

Hi everyone,
I am new to this thread but it seems like you are a friendly and welcoming bunch who might be able to advise me. My problem, which is actually way down near the bottom of this post, is really a minor one, but I hope you don't mind if I tell you my recent drinking stories and I hope you don't think my issue is too small to bother with. I have put it in bold too, so if you want you can skip my story and go straight to the little problem.
I am 25 years old and a sociable, lively person. A few weeks ago, me and a couple of guys I know (I shall call them Pete and Bob) started going out drinking A LOT. At first it was once a week but it quickly turned into 3 times a week, mostly on week nights. We would on average drink a few pints of beer/cider and many many cocktails. We spent between 70 and 100 quid on drinks each on these nights out.
On our last night out, the three of us met in a sports bar and started on the beer until Bob announced he was determined to get very drunk that night. In the spirit of things, I decided I would too and went to the bar to order a cocktail to get things rolling. They didn't have their usual selection so I took a 'dangerous' one instead which was vodka, gin, rum, whisky, amaretto, southern comfort, tequila and cointreau mixed with a cherry soft drink. Against the odds it was very drinkable but since the barman had advised me on its danger, I took it slow and only had a couple. However, Bob had LOADS. The place closed and we all decided to go to another bar. Our usual end of night place was about 15 mins drive across town, near my house, and Bob decided he would drive. Me and Pete tried to talk him out of it but to no avail. In the end, we got in the car and Bob drove us to this bar. Everything was fine, but me and Pete knew we shouldn't have let that happen. At this new place, Bob started being quite sleazy and after me and Pete had something to eat and Pete decided he would just stay by himself in the bar, Bob insisted on taking me driving around town. I put my foot down as he was clearly too wasted to be doing that. He begged and begged and I didn't even feel safe anymore with him. So after trying to talk him out of going driving at all and failing, I walked home. That was at 2h30am (we had been out since 7pm).
At 5am I got a text message from Bob saying that after 2 hours of driving around drunk out of his skull and almost killing himself twice - I think he was exaggerating slightly - he was home.
This whole thing was a big wake up call for me and I decided to stop drinking temporarily and not see those guys for a while. It has a lot of benefits, I feel better, I'm not as broke all the time and I'm not hungover at work anymore. I am in control more. And I don't get in cars with people who are too hammered to drive.
Now here's the minor problem which given everything I've said so far, now seems quite insignificant: since I stopped drinking I have developed quite a lot of spots on my face. This is highly unusual for me and there must be a cause to it all. I was wondering if you think it's possibly an alcohol withdrawal symptom?

ac

hi welcome and thanks for your post LC :T

as for answering your question... i think a few of us went through
a various and wounderful collection of all sorts of
rashes and other various symptoms at all stages of our journey

xx

Linguistic_Chimp

Thanks ac - it's nice to know it's not just me!
:j

ac

hold on tight...

your stuffs only just begun :j

micheleen

Be very careful LC, I've been banned from driving twice. The first was a head-on into an artic :rolleyes: so if your mate Bob wants to die he's going the right way about it

Get a taxi if you want to go somewhere, it's not worth the risk

micheleen

elantan wrote:

hey micheleen, after his last incident he said he had hit rock botton ..i gave him it's the drink or me talk...he said never again ..but time heals memories and he started back on it ..he then went between the i just want to cut back as i still enjoy a drink to the no not having any more ever again ...i dont think he wants to give up ..i dont think he has hit rock bottom yet....but when he manages a full day without drink he expects a circus to perform in the living room to celebrate...sorry i'm probably not in the best of moods today to either talk to or listen... he got wrecked again last night and came out with all the old promises ...got that bad he couldn't walk or talk does this atleast 3 times a week the rest he is just a happy drunk

He hasn't hit rock bottom yet then, I doubt you'll be able to have any influence till he does unfortunately