Alcohol self help thread II

elantan

thanks micheleen i appreciate it ...need a good dose of reality every now and then

micheleen

You may still not have any influence when he hits rock-bottom elantan, it depends on how bad the craving is.

You said he came out of counselling worse than when he went in, are there other problems he's hiding
AA was no use to me because of social-phobia, the meetings were worse than being p1ssed :rolleyes:

micheleen

No idea about the spots LC, it may be wise to consult your gp.

blondie21

Been reading this thread for ages , unsure whether to post. i think i have a problem with alcohol. i wouldnt say im an alcoholic but i am dependent.i can go a day without a drink but by day two i am really craving it and i seem to drink friday even,sat evening and at least 3-4 glasses on sunday.i could miss maybe the next day but tuesday anything from half a bottle to the whole bottle of wine then at least a few glasses wed and thur.
the more i try not to drink during the week i crave it even if i go till 9.30 i still would open at bottle at that time of the night.
the thought of giving up completey i just couldnt do it. i have put a lot of weight on which is prob due to the sugar content in wine.is it better to try and cut down first or go cold turkey ?
I feel better for writing this down now

Al_Mac

Hi guys, I'm back, just spent a week in the Durdoigne (?) region of France. No drink, two flights. Not bad for me.

Had an email from my brother asking me to be his best man, at his sort of wedding. Took awhile to work out how to say I'm a recovering alcoholic with a social phobia problem. NO I WONT STAND UP IN FRONT OF LOTS OF PEOPLE! Family, think they understand:rolleyes:

elatan, no idea what rock bottom is, for me it was sat at my PC with Mrs Mac and the little Macs away, crying my eyes out and realising it was do something. That something was either face up to how !!!!!! I was or die. I can see how counselling may not work for some. You have to be very honest with yourself and if you're hiding, it wont work. Good luck.

LG, all sorts of things happen when you stop drinking. Try a healthy diet for a few weeks:D

Al_Mac

Blondie, each to their own. Me, I've had to go cold turkey.

Do you drink alone? That isn't good:eek: Exercise instead of is a good idea. I need to do more. It's one of the things everyone has told me I need to do. I'm not particularly over weight;)

Sorry go to go and down some washing/ironing:o

blondie21

Al_Mac wrote:

Blondie, each to their own. Me, I've had to go cold turkey.

Do you drink alone? That isn't good:eek: Exercise instead of is a good idea. I need to do more. It's one of the things everyone has told me I need to do. I'm not particularly over weight;)

Sorry go to go and down some washing/ironing:o

yeah i do drink alone during the week i feel guilty when the kids come in the room and im yet again sitting drinking wine.
if they want a lift any where during the week they will say are you haveing a drink tonight or can you run me to ......etc.
i feel awful but its just so hard to stop
any ideas from those of you who have managed to get drinking under control

Al_Mac

Feelinggood,

Good to see you around hun.

You are going to have to do what you think is right. If it means ending your marriage, so be it:eek: Are you sure you can't talk to him? Might be a starting point, could be good, but could also be bad:o Is there no one in your family you can talk to? No maiden aunt, no red nosed uncle. Really think you need to talk and get an objective view. Hate to say it, don't really;) Does your GP have counsellors? Just a thought.

Glad you didn't deprive the homeless fella of his warming drink;)

Might be back later, more washing an ironing to do. Mrs Mac has run off to her mums for a chat:eek: Should take about three days to catch up the week:D Women:rolleyes:

elantan

i think when it came to the counselling...she firstly said hi i'm ch and i'm here to counsell you with your alcohol, this is a confidential place i will only discuss your case with other counsellors, but i have to tell you that if i find out that you have abused any children including your own i will be reporting it..hubby went into a panic attack at that point and got his back up ..i tried explaining to him that she has to say that ..she has a duty to protect children ...but he felt she had judged him as soon as he had walked through the door ...she then went on to discuss his choice of tipple (super lager) and said that's what homeless winos drink and again he felt she was judging him..i think it was a clash of personalities more than anything..she just got his back up ..and i think she knew that he didn't trust her ...but i do also think that he has something he needs to deal with

Al_Mac

I know mine was through work, so maybe not the same, but I would have thought they all had a duty to protect. But this did sound a bit cpnfrontational. How did he find this wonderful woman? Can he try another route?