MSE Parents Club Part 4

tiamai_d

Mrs.T, have found royce so will have a look. Mothercare ones seem to be too flat and too rugby ball shaped. weird.

Carla, we've been using the bottle that came with the medela pump, tiny thin necked with a tiny teat. The wide necked ones make her choke (avent and TT). I need to find more.

MOTM, sounds like they are just being drama queens, ignore them (but deal with the language and disrespect) and they will get over it soon as you do something else embarassing

MM, I had to pop to the chemist after I had DS2, how the hell you supposed to remember to use a condom after so many years not bothering?

Got the natures nest up now, Amber loves it, all nice and cosy.

Off to bed, DS1 back to school today!!! woohoo!! hooray!!! yeehah!!! etc....

wonder if I'll get another full nights sleep or if she will be up all night to make up for the past 2 nights? Midwife and Health visitor both said I don't have to worry about her sleeping 7 hours, but I still bound out of bed to check she's still breathing! :eek:

ManOnTheMoon

3onitsway wrote: »

I was going to ask when children are able to take themselves to school these days.
I'm sure I did when I was about 6 - but that was the olden days when there wasn't any weirdos about! :rolleyes:
DD is insisting she's big enough (nearly 9, about to start Yr4), and i'm insisting she's not! Towards the end of last term, she cycled while I walked far enough behind so as not to be embarrasing mum!
Its about a 10 minute walk with just one small road which has a lollypop man.

(Is anyone picturing a George Cloony look-a-likey now, or is it just me! )

Well, when secondary school starts, I allow them to go on their own. They have friends who call in for them en route. The primary school girls have to cross a main road, so I prefer to walk them or if a friend is walking her children, just to the lollipop and watch them cross.

Sorry to disappoint, no George Clooney here Don't stop talking to me though

ManOnTheMoon

MrsTine wrote: »

MotM - nothing wrong with single dads My dad was a single dad with me for years... poor chap suffered horrendously with a girl to bring up - Like when I insisted on "making dinner" for him consisting of my favourite foods... nutella and salami... (I was 4 before anyone says anything about my lack of cooking skills! :P)
I think if he'd had more girls he might have had a nervous breakdown! :rotfl:

I do get strange looks. I even had to insist to one woman that I was a single father. Honest, no partner, not here, there or behind the fence I don't think she believed me :rotfl:

Nutella and Salami eh? Hmmmm, I see from further posts your culinary skills improved

The twins are the nutters of the family, always winding me up. I actually fell for one of their tricks once when they said their Aunt had given them a cup of gravy to drink instead of juice. I wasn't impressed, so dialed the number, before the aunt could pick the phone up, I heard giggling and knew i'd be done, but the phone was ringing by then, so couldn't hand up. I just made an excuse about something, but they can say silly things with a straight face and I have to try and work out if they are serious or not

ManOnTheMoon

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Hmmm - I think I am a bit less 'touchy feely' than you. If my 16 year old called me a loser and stomped around she would be grounded immediately - no trying to talk her round, she would be in big trouble until such time that she apologised.

As for the 11 year old - if she was using words that cannot be repeated on a forum there would be a severe talking to to be had.


But I am quite strict -thank god hubby thinks the same as I do.


Sorry if that is not particularly helpful MOTM

I'm pretty soft with them and it's always worked out. I know I always make excuses because of their mothers, but I am very careful with them. I have shouted at them, but always feel guilty. I've never thought about grounding them, not even entered my head, but may be a consideration, even if for just 24 hours.

Well, 16 year old finally talked to me. She wished I told her as soon as I started. I have told her it's only been 2 or 3 days and that sometimes I need to talk to people that aren't their auntie or family friends. I need an outsiders perspective and I would never speak badly of them. She seems to have accepted that. I've told her I will decide what to do about her tantrum tomorrow, but I don't want to be hard on her. I know, i'm a wimp :rolleyes:

The 11 year old I haven't seen as she stayed in bed. She called me a twit (change the vowel) I thought i'd never heard the word used in the house. I never swear in front of the girls and she wouldn't see any TV with swearing. I thought maybe someone at school may have said it. It wasn't until my 16 year old pointed out much later, that her Mother (11yo ) was a dirty potty mouth, that it clicked, but then that was nearly 3 years ago

I'll deal with her tomorrow too. No idea how, and yes, probably like a wimp again :rolleyes:

It's helpful to hear another view. No rights or wrongs and all that and grounding is something I strangely never thought of, so thanks.

ManOnTheMoon

MrsTine wrote: »

Oh dear MotM I'm sure they'll calm down soon enough Have you explained to them that no-one knows who you or they are? Other than you're a single dad with some on the whole pretty sensible girls
And maybe try and explain to them that sometimes it's nice being able to bounce ideas off other parents just to make sure you're doing the right thing :)It's not that you value their oppinion less, just that sometimes people from outside can have some good ideas that you all might not have thought about?

I've explained to 16yo that I have not divulged any info and that I do need to sometimes ask for advice. I can't ask friends all the time, I feel a plum and want to look like i'm doing okay. After talking to her, she was more accepting, but wanted to see what I am writing sometimes. Remind me, who is the parent here?

I'm still upset with her. She apologised for being rude and calling me a name, but I told her that i'll have to sleep on it and see if she will get a small punishment tomorrow.

11yo was in bed, will get what's for tomorrow. Again, something wimpy like washing up probably :rolleyes: There is the danger they could walk all over me, but they don't.

I'm scared if I do the wrong punishment they won't respect, love or trust me anymore. Like I say, wimp :rolleyes:

ManOnTheMoon

searching_me wrote: »

im only 24 so being 16 wasnt that long ago motm and i called my mother and step father worse at smaller things ... although im a little suprised at the reactions ... you need an out let to but i supose teenagers dont get that .. i'll be honest took me awhile to understand ... typical teenager thinking they know the world i was .. hope its all ok x

Ooh you little trouble maker How were you punished? What is your relationship with them now? I suppose this is part of growing up?

I was a little pain when I was younger, but that was because of my parents.

searching_me

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Ooh you little trouble maker How were you punished? What is your relationship with them now? I suppose this is part of growing up?

I was a little pain when I was younger, but that was because of my parents.

it was apart of growing up but i dont speak to my parents anymore and havent for nearly 2 years just because my mother is a using gambling addict and belames everything on my dead nan and my step father is an abusive a hole who tried to beat or hurt me on many occasions .. i know your nothing like that so dont worry they'll come round ... you love your girls and they know that x

ManOnTheMoon

Glamazon wrote: »

My Dad's got 5 girls and he always refers to us by Numbers! I've often had birthday cards 'To, Number 1. Love Dad'
Just his sense of humour - he always used to try and hold my hand to cross the road when I was about 12 to try and embarrass me.
Hope your girls are Ok about things in the morning.

I don't think i'll start calling them numbers. I think they may find it an insult :rotfl:

Not that I don't tease them, jokingly of course.

They'll be fine, just depends on the punishment.

ManOnTheMoon

tiamai_d wrote: »

MOTM, sounds like they are just being drama queens, ignore them (but deal with the language and disrespect) and they will get over it soon as you do something else embarassing

Off to bed, DS1 back to school today!!! woohoo!! hooray!!! yeehah!!! etc....

Possibly. I know i'm repeating myself, but when we fall out, I feel like poo

Sorry for not knowing your circumstances, but your boy is back to school? Mine don't go back until September, why are yours so early?

ManOnTheMoon

searching_me wrote: »

it was apart of growing up but i dont speak to my parents anymore and havent for nearly 2 years just because my mother is a using gambling addict and belames everything on my dead nan and my step father is an abusive a hole who tried to beat or hurt me on many occasions .. i know your nothing like that so dont worry they'll come round ... you love your girls and they know that x

Sorry you don't speak to your parents. Mine are long gone, not that this is a bad thing, but that's another story for another thread. I've had bad parents and partners, so i'm determined the kids will be different.

They'll come around, but as I say, fallouts with the girls upset me and them, so it's lose lose.

I'm okay if anyone else abuses me, I think it's funny, but them, it's a different story :rolleyes:

I don't suppose anyone knows how to multi-quote different posts and reply in one post, like many do here. I feel i'm taking up too much thread space with all these replies, and I really can type and type and type...