The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

jo1972

Ooooh, how exciting FUAS, good luck hunny, we all routing for you, what time's the interview?

WB, I can see you doing this one with Neil! Now that dream could only happen TO YOU I'm sure

Haven't moved off my backside yet, I am totally wasting the peace and quiet of the kids watching the film :rolleyes:

ETA: Yes have got appointment for Thursday 10am, funny thing though, keep thinking if I don't drink from tonight I will be on day 4 AF then, so I don't really 'need' to go :rolleyes:

jo1972

Yes, yes, I know, I'm still not tidying up...but I been thinking..

I decided to not take part in the August challenge to stop myself constantly thinking about drinking and making targets and failing, then not making targets but doing crap so hence feeling crap. I then attempted to quit the board from lunchtime on Saturday but was wondering what was happening with you all and had to have a look at Sunday lunchtime, then saw the message from WB asking if I was offended re the jacket so had to post to say no she hadn't. Then left again, but wanted to know what was happening with you lot this morning, so here I am back again boring the life out of the lot of you again!! I feel left out not being in the challenge even though every month so far this year I've failed

What to do

Off to ponder this whilst hoovering and making some thai chicken & basil for my lunch :drool:

I am turning this pooter off NOW!!

DEBTMONKEY1A

Jo...thanks for the kind comments! YOU HAVE NOT FAILED! Even if you're just having 1 more AF day than before it's not a fail! Camplacency for me is an issue...I last had one month of AF about 5 years ago (! ) & on looking at my diary at the time it was after the month that things started to slide.

Thing is that after 7 days or so (a bit like now!) the AF days beocome a new 'habit' (which can only be a good thing!) & after a month you are so used to being AF that you forget what is was like to be not AF! That's why for me from now on I'll keep personal 'notes' so i can remind myself. I'm certainly not saying to myself I'll never have booze again (although to be honest I'll probably end up virtually being AF & just having a few drinks when I see friends in the south or say once a month or so at home) BUT will be aware of what's happened previously when I've had some booze & the carried on the next day & the next.... etc....as long as in my mind the cycle so to speak is broken (as an example G/F away again end Aug for 5 days...friend I hope coming up for some hill walking, be nice to have a few drinks one evening with a curry/outside if hot enough), example being a few drinks with a friend then NONE next day OR significantly less-say 2 pints...the negaitive 'cycle' for me is having same ammount or more the next day & it increases from there each day after that-daily drinking i want to avoid! I think writing stuff down/keeping a diary is SO USEFULL!

jo1972

DM, keeping notes is a really good idea, I hope that it works for you x

BHB, I can't be bothered to type it all out so could you have a look here any tips greatly received

Yes, yes, I'm going!!

winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

WB, I can see you doing this one with Neil! Now that dream could only happen TO YOU I'm sure

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: perched on the edge of the piano, as you do.

Miss_Piggy_2

Here I am again (yes Jo, I should be tidying too! Ho hum!)

I can fully understand what you mean about this thread. You sometimes wonder if you would think less about alcohol if you didn't come on here? Thats what I thought and, a couple of times, I've gone off on my own only to come back a while later after having let things go and getting back to drinking as much as before.

I come on here for the people to be honest. I like you lot, identify with a lot of you and feel I can tell you all almost anything. The support is the best.Ahhh.... Time for a :grouphug::rotfl:

Miss P
xx

winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

Yes have got appointment for Thursday 10am, funny thing though, keep thinking if I don't drink from tonight I will be on day 4 AF then, so I don't really 'need' to go :rolleyes:

How much do you really want feedback on that?!! (esp from me :rolleyes:)

So be on day 4 by then, & still go. That'll show 'em!

I'm sorry you're struggling so much at the mo, I know what you mean about keeping away from here cos it can make you think EVEN MORE about alch. I find it's swings & roundabouts...when I was "away" from here (more than once) I didn't think about it so much, but I actually still kept on drinking though was relieved not to have to come on here & confess! So, I felt better cos I wasn't on here telling everyone what a failure I was & so it didn't seem to matter so much, I was drinking but nobody knew (except me of course), but in the end my behaviour didn't change so I thought I'd come back for some more self-flagellation

I hope we can help you, but will understand if you need to look elsewhere, either outside or in yourself.

Take care, x

winebox

Hi Miss P - we posted at the same time and (luckily!?) said the same thing, pretty much!

winebox

winebox wrote: »

I thought I'd come back for some more self-flagellation

Unless MP pops round with that whip of hers :eek: :rotfl:

Miss_Piggy_2

winebox wrote: »

Hi Miss P - we posted at the same time and (luckily!?) said the same thing, pretty much!

Great minds think alike!!:eek::rotfl: