The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

Miss_Piggy_2

samandsheryl wrote: »

What a weekend! Drank Friday, Saturday & Sunday, fell out with 4 very good friends (Totally my fault) and also started a fight with another friend resulting in me having to be thrown out of the house and the door locked. What an idiot, i can't believe how badly i've let myself down. I've apologised to everyone and all except one of them have said don't worry about it 'It was the drink'. Things will never be how they were before though, i said / did some really bad things. I also feel like i've let you guys down given my opening few posts stated i would never drink again. I have to stop this time, i'm slowly destroying everything i have. Feel absolutely gutted.

Sorry for bringing down the mood.

Sam

Sam, we've all been there. Don't beat yourself up over this too much. Today is a brand new day and you can learn from this experience? You haven't let us all down at all. I posted exactly the same sort of message a couple of months ago. Its very hard to do this - thats why we are all here...to help in a non-judgmental way!

((Hugs))

Miss P
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graemecarter

samandsheryl wrote: »

What a weekend! Drank Friday, Saturday & Sunday, fell out with 4 very good friends (Totally my fault) and also started a fight with another friend resulting in me having to be thrown out of the house and the door locked. What an idiot, i can't believe how badly i've let myself down. I've apologised to everyone and all except one of them have said don't worry about it 'It was the drink'. Things will never be how they were before though, i said / did some really bad things. I also feel like i've let you guys down given my opening few posts stated i would never drink again. I have to stop this time, i'm slowly destroying everything i have. Feel absolutely gutted.

Sorry for bringing down the mood.

Sam

It was the drink, as I am sure you would not have behaved like that when sober.
Drink often brings out the worst in us, and then the sober you has to deal with the consequences and feeling angry and upset with yourself.
As you say, you are destroying everything you have, and feel gutted.

That's a horrible feeling - when I quit drinking I was so full of despair and felt so empty I thought that things would never get better. That was my rock bottom, and I haven't had a drink in over 2 years.
Many people need a rock bottom to become willing to do anything to stop drinking.

People judge you on your actions, not intentions. It's no good telling your friends that 'that was the last time' and 'I won't drink again' if you fail to follow that through. You need to do what you tell them.
Most importantly, if you want to stop drinking, you will do it for yourself, not for others.

Don't beat yourself up - the past is the past. You can change the present and now (by not drinking) but not the past.

Good luck

cazzasmazza

Fay - we have no alcohol in the house, well, none that I will be drinking anyway! The only thing we have is one small bottle of raspberry liqueur which my OH uses for cooking/baking e.g. a splash in a summer pudding. However I persuaded her not to put any in the last Summer pudding and it was still delicious!

Sam, I won't judge you and no-one on here will. You haven't let anyone down here. I personally can really identify with your post and how awful and self-loathing you must be feeling.

Your post reminded me of many a drunken argument I've had and I'm ashamed to say, even a few fights, all due to my going on a bender with drink. It's been several years since any physical incidents, but I've still had a few stupid and pointless arguments and said things in the heat of the moment that I bitterly regret. Alcohol can consume the best of us with such vitriol and make us behave so irrationally.

I don't mean to sound harsh Sam, but sometimes you have to reach rock bottom to start the climb back to being sober, living the life you want and treating people how you would like to be treated yourself.

I'm sure there are many amends you have to make and you must believe that you CAN make amends, however perhaps not now. You need to focus on yourself and on tackling your drinking in a positive way.

It's hard not to hate yourself after a horrendous night - goodness knows I've wasted an inordinate amount of time over the years, hating myself for a myriad of reasons, but all of them connected to my alcohol-fuelled behaviour in one way or another.

So what I am trying to say, (in this waffly way) is that there is a way out, you CAN deal with your alcohol problem. You have to accept you cannot drink first and foremost, which you appear to have done. Then you have to take whatever steps work for you, to stop drinking. As you know, I sought the help of AA when I reached my rock bottom and that support and help the Fellowship of AA offers me is working already.

You can do this Sam. And we're all here to help and support you through it.

Hugs,
Caz
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Marthasdad

Hi all - not been on here over the BH weekend as busy with kids etc.

Bit disappointed in myself really - I knew I would have a drink Friday, Saturday and Sunday, but I found myself having a drink yesterday as well "because it was a bank holiday"!:mad: What's even more annoying is that I didn't really enjoy it - I'm coming down with a cold and I was just having a drink for the sake of it really..!

Anyway - that was August, this is September and I've got 20 days pledged (that's every week Monday to Thursday as AF days) - I can still achieve a milestone this week cos I haven't done 3 AF days in a row for years (did 2 in a row for the first time last week) so no drinks for me until Friday night - got to do it (and want to do it).

Well done to everyone for getting through August - the vibe on here seems really positive for the new month - let's stick together and I'm sure we'll achieve whatever goals we want:T:T:T

samandsheryl

Thanks for your responses. Today will be a new beginning for me. It has to be. I can't continue like this.

miamoo

Well after me saying I would be AF yesterday I ended up drinking a bottle of wine. I woke up today feeling awful and I've got a headache.
Today is a fresh start though, could you add me to the AFS please YM I will aim for 22 out of 30 so thats no drinking on week nights.
I need to keep busy, especially in the evenings!

yellowmonkey

miamoo wrote: »

Well after me saying I would be AF yesterday I ended up drinking a bottle of wine. I woke up today feeling awful and I've got a headache.
Today is a fresh start though, could you add me to the AFS please YM I will aim for 22 out of 30 so thats no drinking on week nights.
I need to keep busy, especially in the evenings!

You are now on the list

ym

jo1972

Sam, hugs to you, I hope you get things sorted with the other friend and don't beat yourself up too much, I think we've all been there at some point.

Just got back from 2 trips down to the dump, got rid of so much clutter. But now I stink :mad: just about to chuck a bag in and the big tractor thing was scooping up and it must've touched something with a bottle or jar in which smashed and we were all drowned in some kind of liquid _pale_ and then a bag of shredding (which shouldn't have been chucked in that part anyway cos there's a special bin for paper) burst and it was like it was snowing, we all got totally covered in shredded paper they constantly shower the rubbish with water to minimise dust and it was windy so I got covered in wet dust _pale_. Shall not be going back there today :eek: yuck!

I'm exhausted now and need a bath, even though I only had one earlier :rolleyes: off to mum's for lunch then me and DD1 are off to the hairdressers for a smarten up :cool:

I hope you all have a lovely day

xx

TIME2GROWUP_2

OK Question - how many of us have NO alcohol in the house today?

Morning all, I'm glad the postive mood has stayed with us in the main..

As for the answer to the above question, I have 2 lovely bottles of vodka that I won last year.. shall host a vodka cocktail party one day......... probably after receiving the vodka cocktail kit I won last month...!! I also have cans of fosters.. yuk.. beer.. and some pink wine.. double yuk.... so I shall be af until friday, tea, soft drinks and hot choc for me...

Good Luck everyone, and thank you for scoring us ym... i'm sure we will all try to be very good....

jo1972

Crabtree's very quiet this morning, wonder if he's spying on us all :eek: