The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

jo1972

fayjmck wrote: »

Dead poets society - in the square when the boys are shown to march and conformity.

'Find your own path' said the lovely Robin Williams chap.....he quoted this:

'......Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference'

Robert Frost [SIZE=-1](1874–1963).[/SIZE] Mountain Interval. [SIZE=-1]1920.[/SIZE]

Your post me me teary eyed such a lovely quote

Gotta dash, off to do some overtime at work, speak to you all when I get there

40somethingmum

Hi

Just a quick post to say helloooo to everyone. Just been catching up on last nights posts ......some really deep , thought provoking posts :T

Not feeling well. (swine flu me fears) :eek:. Heard last night that my mum has suffered from a mild stoke ... so very worried about her . Its times like this that i really hate being hundreds of miles from my family. I would love to pay her a flying visit but obviously can't at the moment as not well .Also if she caught it .... it may kill her as she has lots of underlying health problems.

Have a nice day everyone.:T

40SM

maman

:hello: Morning all.

Just popped in, only way to keep up.

Jo, are you still planning a trip to AA today, or are you feeling stronger this morning? I know overtime is good but do make sure you leave time to look out for yourself.

Thanks fay for your thoughtful post. When I'm feeling my target is too lightweight I do start to feel alienated. You're right, it's my own path (but I often meet fluffy and others when walking along!)

P.S. Was I imagining things that the huggy-type smiley has disappeared? The sort of three in a group hug which Lurky used to used that looked a bit rude? I'm rambling, things to do, catch up later.

PPS. Hope those on sick list feeling a bit better if you're up to logging on (including you and your mum 40SM)

jo1972

40SM, hugs to you, hope your mum is okay and hope your symptoms don't go into flu xx

Driving to work this morning listening to The Smiths when I heard this lyric:

"I was happy in the haze of a drunken hour
But heaven knows I'm miserable now"

Sums it all up quite nicely :undecided

I've tried to ring the substance misuse consellors that I've been under (numerous times) in the past but it's constantly engaged :mad: I know they shut for lunch between 12 and 1 so I'll call back later. I have to apologise to them first for going AWOL and thinking I was 'cured' and that the enivitble (sp?) happened. I'll let you know what they say if I finally get through to them...

Pippilongstocking

Hugs Jo

I am beginning to think I am ALWAYS mostly miserable.

Drinking just blotted it out for a couple of hours - but for me it just doesnt help - funny eh?

Trying to get to grips as to WHY I am miserable mostly - prob take me the next 40 years

Something to do I suppose

(:))

Hugs me dear

ForeverHopeful_3

[QUOTE=fayjmck;23598547
'Find your own path' said the lovely Robin Williams chap.....he quoted this:

'......Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by,And that has made all the difference'

Robert Frost [SIZE=-1](1874–1963).[/SIZE] Mountain Interval. [SIZE=-1]1920.[/SIZE]



I have my own stripey socks road to travel (stripey socks long story) so I hope we all find our own way through this....xxx

Sorry for the deepness - been a bit touched by the thread lately. xx[/QUOTE]

I love the quote, thanks. I've seen the film but many years ago and can't really recall the details. I must re-visit it.

Graeme~as I said last night, I posted in haste and regretted it moments later. Of course what you said about finding alternatives is sensible :T But I just found it harsh that you needed to tell someone they should leave this forum because it wasn't working for them. Perhaps this place can also help

It's working for me

40sm~oh dear. I hope it isn't swine flu. Aren't you on holiday now? Hope you are okay (((hugs)))

Jo~another day and a fresh start. Hope you get the guidence you are seeking X

DC~sorry my post brought back memories. Regrets we have a few eh? I am constantly trying to be a better person towards those I love. But they are the ones who wind me up the most :rotfl:

Fay~sorry about your dad. My dad choked to death but his death certificate said chronic alcoholism. It was tragic because he was on his own. Had obviously prepared a nice tea for himself. But he lay in his flat after death for days until my cousin found him. We all loved him so much but had to let him go because of the illness. It was making us all ill and my mum in particular couldn't cope anymore.

I've had a busy day so far. A bit of shopping for boys shoes (nightmare!) Then I took them to the park so they could let off some steam. Came home for lunch and give the little one a nap. We're then off to a friends house for coffee and cake

It's Friday and I can hear alarm bells. Come 5pm I can't promise AF but you never know

Much love X

40somethingmum

ForeverHopeful wrote: »

I DC~sorry my post brought back memories. Regrets we have a few eh? I am constantly trying to be a better person towards those I love. But they are the ones who wind me up the most :rotfl:


Much love X

FH . I have never met you but i just KNOW that you are a lovely caring person.

I am not on holiday......only working in the afternoons in the office and a bit at home in the mornings ( if I can) . Will try and get up to Scotland soon though to visit my wee mum:A.

Glad you had a good holiday.

40SM

BTW I am up for the group AFD huggy thingy on Monday.:rotfl:

jo1972

Looking forward to our group hug :grouphug:

Pippilongstocking

FH - hugs - my dad wasn't alone when he died (I think) as he was in a house where he drank with other 'buddies'. He was found dead in the morning sittign with a bottle of whisky.

I cut all ties with him as a young adult and absoltuley cut him out completely when my family came along as one minute he was drunk, or he never showed up or he forgot or he was in a suit but not washed/shaved/been home for days. I couldn't cope as a teenager and as an adult I didn't want my children to experience the pain I felt so I am afraid he never saw my kids.

Oddly when I had some homeopathy as an adult and felt more 'grounded' with regard to my family and meeting him I wrote him a long letter asking him to forgive me and come back into my life if he would allow it - and to take my own family perhaps later when we had healed a bit.

Don't know if he ever read the letter - he died two days later.

Odd to clear out his house it was immaculate, you would never have known he drank - except he had no food in the house and there was a pot of empty (whelks ? winkles?) shellfish collected for free from the shore - guess that way he spent less money on food.

His partner had died 8 months before and no one from our family knew. Very sad.

My aunties think I am terrrible to have cut him out - having been dealing with it my whole life (my dad drunk my mum depressed and in bed) I just couldnt cope. Two of my sibilings have still not forgiven me, but in my eyes - MY FAMILY my rules. I couldn't cope with a drunk in my life. (Probably why I normally drink very much on my own out of view)

Whoops sorry for the brain dump. Odd to confess it all outloud.

This thread is helping me so much as I am beginning to understand some of my life that has been long buried. And, making me think about my own actions.

Phew!

On a lighter note - the wieght is still off hurrah. Will shovel in the kudzu later as don't want to especially drink and need to be strong - hugs chaps.

Jo hope you manage to get hold of someone and well done on the dodgy hug emicon

DC - hugs

PS really sorry for the brain dump - dunno what's up with me these past few days - no kids ?? time to think????

Pippilongstocking

Blushes - sorry if a bit too much x