The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

ForeverHopeful_3

I think I'm about all caught up.

Jo, I really feel for you. Seems like you are having a tough time. I think we all relate, I certainly do.

I remember SOME of the awful nights I've had with Mr FH and know for absolute fact that they were arguments about nothing much and only fuelled by my drinking.

I have so many regrets. I'm having them tonight actually. Mr FH is back offshore and starting a new job. He's sacrificing so much for us as a family to be out there earning money. I had just put my eldest to bed and was walking down the stairs and thought to myself, not once have I said "thank you" What a nice gesture it would have been to put a Good Luck card in his offshore bag with a little note inside. But instead I'm often so self absorbed that I don't 'think'. I have been trying harder. But yesterday was a typical example of me being a little bit hung over, not communicating with him and just expecting him to pick up the pieces. It wasn't until he went away this morning that it hit me and I cried. He is such a lovely man and tries so hard. But I often don't give anything back.

Anyhow.....holidays turned out good. The caravanning weather was not too bad. Had the inevitable rainy days when we considered packing up and going home! I even managed 4 AF days. They were kind of pushed upon me, but I managed none the less

So I think that's 6 please Jo.

I can do the Group Hug type AF day on the 27th. Or whatever day you all choose. It would be nice to share a special day if we can all manage.

Much love All X

jo1972

Hugs to you FH, you are such a lovely person

I'm seeking out AA meetings tomorrow, I've had enough.

TIME2GROWUP_2

ForeverHopeful wrote: »

I can do the Group Hug type AF day on the 27th.

Love the name... Monday 27th July.. Group Hug Day...!!! :grouphug:

Up for it so far are... Jo1972, Fay, 69chick, YM, ForeverHopeful and me.. I'm sure we can rustle up a few more takers before Monday.... apologies maman, maybe you could pick the next Group Hug Day....!

Come on everyone.. that's the idea.. everyone joins in.... all you giver uppers are probably doing it anyway and its a good start to the week for the cutter downers...xx

TIME2GROWUP_2

jo1972 wrote: »

I'm seeking out AA meetings tomorrow, I've had enough.

I can't offer any advice, but can offer a hug. xx

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Hi all- 27th sounds a great idea for a group AFD.

Hope poorly people are feeling a bit better, and no one else is suffering- I suppose we are well prepared for this as most people really notice how awful they feel when they've got the flu, but I felt like that every morning with hangovers for years!

GP- I am so impressed that you've found something that motivates you like this!!! Wow-42 miles!!!! I'm lucky if I drive that in a week!!!! let alone do it under my own steam!!! I remember cycling with the kids when they were little and we had no money in the holidays and took the bikes out and had a picnic-it was great, and we all used to get home tired but happy. Might just dust my old carrera down this weekend and give it a go myself.

Jo-wildlife park looks fab, I love days out like these and your little one is sooo cute!!! (what happened to the mohican?).

Catch you all later, nice to see people back from hols safe and sound, looking forward to my weekend next week (I think)- taking DS and mate to Knebworth to see Metallica and Linkin Park, have promised them (this time) I will keep well away from the mosh pit-baah.

Pippilongstocking

GP wow - Jo hugs me dear always on the end of a text if you need me

Foreva - dont beat yourself up send him a nice email - something unexpected is always good xx

Waves to the rest of you

Miss_Piggy_2

Evening all

FH - good to have you back. Missed you! I think we all take our OH's for granted sometimes. You can still tell him how much you appreciate him - ring him up or text him. He'll appreciate it.

Jo - What can I say? ((hugs)). You do what you have to do. We are all here for you.

Fay - Hiking!?! I don't DO hiking. I barely do walking!:rotfl:Me and Jo can wait at the end with a lemonade for everyone!

T2GU - count me in for Group Hug AF Monday 27th July (blimey thats a long title!)

GP - I feel shattered just reading about how far you've cycled!!! Shall look forward to you rejoining the challenge in August

Budgie - know you're not on here on Thursdays but hope you are feeling ok?

69 Chick - feel better soon!!


Its been a nice evening in the Piggy household. Had home made stew and dumplings for tea (although my dumplings were like boulders - in weight AND texture!!:rotfl:) and had a nice relaxing evening. Piglet had a nice time at nursery. Apparently they had puddle races. Not sure what they were but involved him coming home very wet!! Friday tomorrow - busy day for me.

((hugs)) to all that need them. **waves"" to everyone else!

Miss P
xx

ForeverHopeful_3

jo1972 wrote: »

Hugs to you FH, you are such a lovely person

I'm seeking out AA meetings tomorrow, I've had enough.

Hugs back Jo. I hope you feel better about everything tomorrow. Give them a call X They are such nice people. I have only had contact with AA through Al-Anon (because of my dad) and without the support network neither myself or my mum would have got through all the turmoil and drama. Funny how I find myself repeating old patterns if not to the same extent I often went to open AA meetings on my own to hear their stories. Uplifting and inspiring as they often were, there were also such sad stories of loss.

I read Graeme's posts with interest. But I don't always agree whole heartedly with his advice to some. Patricularly those who are struggling but trying. Surely we have all recognised we have a problem but don't necessarily have alcoholism. By my age (36 ) my father was an alcoholic. By 44 years old he was dead. He was drinking bottles of spirits every day and was known to every off licence in the area. I don't think the majority of us are at that stage? A bottle of wine a night is too much! It isn't healthy and we've got ourselves into a bad habit. But drinking ourselves into oblivion it is not!

Drink dependency can lead to a bigger problem and hopefully by recognising the problem we can deal with it. I find the hopeful nature of this forum so lovely. But when I read GC's posts I get a little depressed. Sorry Graeme X. I know you only speak fact and from your own experience. But telling someone to go seek help elsewhere if this forum isn't helping.......isn't really helping?

It's 10pm now and I'm off to bed. Notched up another AF day, so that makes 7 Jo.

Much Love X

ForeverHopeful_3

I've just read back on my post and I think I maybe posted in haste

Sorry Graeme, although I know you won't mind what I said. I was taking it all a bit personally I think, as if your reply was directed at me.

Once again, apologies. No malice intended (((hugs)))

Pippilongstocking

ForeverHopeful wrote: »

I've just read back on my post and I think I maybe posted in haste

Sorry Graeme, although I know you won't mind what I said. I was taking it all a bit personally I think, as if your reply was directed at me.

Once again, apologies. No malice intended (((hugs)))

The best thing about this little space is the honesty the opinions and no one taking anything too personally. I liked your post.

I find it sad (but interesting) to hear that your father died of alcoholism as well.

Mine died age 57 alcohol poisioning drank himself literally to death. Its one of the things that I keep thinkinng about - its only 16 years older than I am now.
Uncle died of the same thing - guess its in my family on both sides.

Scary - perhaps many of us have more in common than it might seem

AND MAYBE I MEANT A NICE STROLL RATHER THAN HIKING:rotfl:but Miss P knew that already....:)

Although I do have rather alot of fileld work that you can all help with if you are keen

GP - you can always cycle up to me when you get to doing those crazy distances

Well done by the way