The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

It's the bluddy rubbish man's fault that my bells are tinkling, if I hadn't seen the cans of my fav tipple I wouldn't have thought about it.

OH just rung and asked me to pick him up from the station a bit later, bout 4.30pm (prime bell time :eek:), which means I will have to sit at the lights at a nice local pub where just about everybody that lives within a mile radius will be sat outside of at the nice circular outside tables, the massive resident old english sheepdog sleeping on top of one of them (tables not people), and drinking cold pints of beer (people not dog). When I was away last week and we were out and about, everytime I walked past a pub there were people drinking outside it cos of the weather the the smoking ban and I found myself staring intently at their beers, I want to walk up to them and rip their drinks out of their hands and down it and shove the empty glass back into their hands and walk off......is this odd behaviour

Odd for normal people, but for us alkies that crave drink, then it is normal.
The key is getting to a point where you no longer crave drink at all

graemecarter

beachbeth wrote: »

Had some red wine last night followed by some malibu's and lemonade because it was our anniversary. I have no get up and go today though and think its the drink that is at fault. So Im abstaining today. Well done everyone else who is managing their AF days. Don't beat yourself up though if you slip - this is what alcohol does.

Exactly - it promises a lot but never delivers.
The other thing is that it tells you that one drink will be ok, and you haven't got a problem. Even though there is was so much evidence of alcoholism in me, I ignored it and drank (until nearly 2 yrs ago)
I would promise myself I would be AF, and then drink.
Or I would promise myself and others I would only have one drink after work, and stay for more.
This is alcoholism.
I would plan not to drink, and then instead of changing my behaviour to stick to my plan, I would change my plan to suit my behaviour.
I know if I was pledging AF days on this thread and still drinking, I would make excuses, and change my target. Changing a target down is alcoholic behaviour.
There is no shame in alcoholism - it is very common. Problem is that we alkies find it hard to admit it to ourselves, even though to others it is apparent.
Tangochick's dead husband is a classic case in point of this. Dying of alcoholism, and still he thought he didn't have a problem. This is a killer disease, and an exceptionally cunning and powerful one too.

Miss_Piggy_2

Beachbeth....just made me cry . What a lovely poem.

Feeling more together this evening. My Mum and Dad seem ok. The dogs are so important to them and a huge part of their lives that I think they will really miss Drew. Mind you, we miss all of them (we've had 6 others in my lifetime and each loss has been a huge blow....we're a soppy bunch:o) They have one left so think he's going to be spoiled from now on!

Well, dinners in the oven...then I'm off for a bath and an early night. Thanks all for giving me a laugh this afternoon (YM, you are your tupperware:rotfl:)

Miss P
xx

Wanna_Bee_Free

40somethingmum wrote: »

I am pleased to say that I have not yet resorted to having "slush puppy wine" when I have changed my mind later:rotfl:

40SM:D

Thanks 40sm, that made me laugh. And think!
As predicted I'm not racking up the AFDs here. For various reasons I'd seen coming last month. Not too bad though drink wise. Mostly moderate levels, just the odd day or two I did overdo it. I just need to squeeze one more AFD in between now and Monday to hit target.

YM, Please put me down for 12 in September.

Off back to page 97... Send a search party if you haven't heard by mid next week. Computer access might be a bit iffy.

Hugs all and well done to everyone who's totting up their days booze free. And good luck for the rest of the month to everyone.

glasgowgirl

Had a glass of wine last night. Was on bus home desperately craving more and thinking about stopping by the offie for a bottle when a drunk guy walked from the back of the bus to the front. OMG, the stench as he walked past was unbelievable and I was thinking - surely not? Then the bloke in front of me said out loud in a voice of complete and utter disbelief "He's s**t himself!".

Needless to say I didn't stop by the offie and had fizzy water instead.

xx

PS Sorry for lowering the tone!

Kilmaley01

Hey GG, thank god I've never got myself that bad. Poor bloke probably didnt even realise!

I knew someone once who was such a pretty lovely girl, always a bit alusive but a nice person. Then as her drinking progressed she started to sit out in the town centre with the wino's - unable to afford to get as drunk as she liked on bar prices. As time went on I could see her deteriate, loose weight, skin sagging on her face. She refused help from so many people. I remember meeting her once and getting that same 'stench' and thinking oh my god, what has happened to this person. She was found not long later, in a doorway. Initially I think passers by thought she was just sleeping, as she had taken to sleeping in doorways of recent. Turns out she died in the night, choked! What a sad end to someone that once had everything going for her.

Sorry, thats a real down beat story. Something just made me think of her and felt like posting it.

xx

115K

^ Oh dear that's terrible. I sometimes think when you see winos in the park how they got to that stage. Sad really what alcohol can do to certain people. Then I suppose lots of people just drink inside their house rather than out in public places. I have alcoholics in my family but they have never been park drinkers.

I am AF again tonight. I have had half a bottle of white wine in the fridge for the past two days but I haven't felt like drinking.10 days AF for me Miss Piggy.

glasgowgirl

115K wrote: »

^ I have had half a bottle of white wine in the fridge for the past two days but I haven't felt like drinking.

That's great. :T xx

Kilmaley01

115K - Fantastically well done. You have better Will Power than me! Good on you. xx:T:T:T

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

Also just wanted to apologise to all that will be popping on to catch up with the thread later and find that there are god knows how many pages as I've had verbal diahorrea today with lots of pictures

You're not wrong:D:D:D
I've been reading for about half an hour and havn't got to the end yet.:cool:

And Giraffes are my favourite animals too.:j
Hope everyone's good.
Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx