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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

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  • maman wrote: »
    BHB, I've heard some great excuses for drinking (most of them on here :rotfl:) but the one about a sewage pump is a load of carp!


    just spat my tea out all over the keyboard then :eek: :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
    :) Embrace your inner Hillbilly :)
  • jo1972
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    edited 21 August 2009 at 8:42AM
    Morning all, i am unhungovered and feel like utter crap!

    40SM, i hope all goes well today x

    ETA: Snowy, your not alone on the hiding booze. Also re. the smelling it on the breath, i buy non alcoholic beer and drink the openly whilst secretly drinking the real stuff, im like a child.
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  • honeybear_2
    honeybear_2 Posts: 3,914 Forumite
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    Blockbusters "Can I have a P please Bob" How we did laugh.:D

    Them were the days :D

    Morning all :) I also only some of a bottle of red wine last night & have freezed some as ice cubes for cooking purposes. Baby steps, I guess :)

    Not even going to attempt AF over the weekend cos of long-standing commitments so I'll be away but good luck to all who are & I'll catch you all soon :)

    xx
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  • I am feeling a bit low this morning - I'd say a 5 out of 10 on "Cazza's scale of emotional wellbeing" ;)

    Don't really know why. Have kept up the AFD - today will be my 12th consecutive AFD.

    I'm going to see one of my good friends in Manchester in mid-September and we have always been really big drinkers together. My friend drinks a lot and has done for years. So our good times were made ever better as we could both drink for England and we approved of the other drinking more!!! Drink has always been at the centre of everything we have ever done.

    So I emailed her yesterday as a sort of pre-empted warning that I might be driving (I don't have to drive, I could stay at her place like I've always done, but I need an excuse not to drink) so I said we could get a take-away and watch a film and gossip......... and she was really sad about it.

    She said she really loves getting p*ssed with me because we always have such a great laugh. And I agree with her wholeheartedly. I feel sad about it too (which is sad in itself, I know) because we have a top laugh and drinking makes it sooo much fun. And I don't see her very often either - maybe once every 6 months or so, as I don't live in Mancs any more.

    I know she'll be drinking regardless of whether I drink too. I know how it's going to be really, in my heart. I just know that when I get there and we start gossiping and she is on the vodka, I will relent and say "sod it, give me a drink, I'll stop over". I just know I will. Even if I go there with the best resolve ever and I prepare myself for saying no to having a drink - I am still pretty sure that I will only last an hour or 2 and then I will have a drink.

    So maybe that is what has made me feel sad today. I'm doing really well and I feel good about that. But I also know this particular night is likely to be my downfall. And that disturbs me a lot.

    Hugs and thanks for listening.

    Caz
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  • graemecarter
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    I am feeling a bit low this morning - I'd say a 5 out of 10 on "Cazza's scale of emotional wellbeing" ;)

    Don't really know why. Have kept up the AFD - today will be my 12th consecutive AFD.

    I'm going to see one of my good friends in Manchester in mid-September and we have always been really big drinkers together. My friend drinks a lot and has done for years. So our good times were made ever better as we could both drink for England and we approved of the other drinking more!!! Drink has always been at the centre of everything we have ever done.

    So I emailed her yesterday as a sort of pre-empted warning that I might be driving (I don't have to drive, I could stay at her place like I've always done, but I need an excuse not to drink) so I said we could get a take-away and watch a film and gossip......... and she was really sad about it.

    She said she really loves getting p*ssed with me because we always have such a great laugh. And I agree with her wholeheartedly. I feel sad about it too (which is sad in itself, I know) because we have a top laugh and drinking makes it sooo much fun. And I don't see her very often either - maybe once every 6 months or so, as I don't live in Mancs any more.

    I know she'll be drinking regardless of whether I drink too. I know how it's going to be really, in my heart. I just know that when I get there and we start gossiping and she is on the vodka, I will relent and say "sod it, give me a drink, I'll stop over". I just know I will. Even if I go there with the best resolve ever and I prepare myself for saying no to having a drink - I am still pretty sure that I will only last an hour or 2 and then I will have a drink.

    So maybe that is what has made me feel sad today. I'm doing really well and I feel good about that. But I also know this particular night is likely to be my downfall. And that disturbs me a lot.

    Hugs and thanks for listening.

    Caz
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    That's the alcoholic in you telling you that you have to drink to have fun.
    It is saying that you HAVE to drink.
    You need to ignore it

    Remember what they say - one day at a time.
    You are projecting into the future, and this is making you feel bad. You don't have to do this. Just don't drink today. You can worry about your trip to Manchester later on. Stay AF today and get to a meeting as soon as you can, and share this fear with everyone. They will be able to help you.

    Let's turn the tables here.
    If your friend was not drinking and struggling with an alcohol addiction, would you consider yourself to be a good friend if you were p1ssed off that they couldn't drink? Would you (as a good friend) push a vodka into her hand?

    Or would a good friend be happy for them that they were trying to sort themselves out and help and support them?

    I know my real friends were happy when I stopped drinking, and even though it meant I wasn't then up for mad nights out on the slash, they were happy for me as it was good for me. Those are real friends
  • gargrave50
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    I'm going to Tesco in a moment - not only cos it's relatively quiet at 7.00 a.m., but you physically can't buy booze before 9.00. Makes that side of shopping a lot easier to deal with.

    I've taken this as a top tip - will from now on be doing my shopping outwith alcohol buying hours. Should make things a bit easier.

    Last night was not AF although it so easily could have been :mad:.

    A bottle of wine last night (again), tonight WILL be alcohol free.:o
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  • gargrave50
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    For September aiming for 14 AF days, its going to be a difficult month as I won't have my shifts to keep me occupied. My final placement finishes on 3rd September and my registration won't be through until around 10th October so I can't practice in between therefore will need to find some temp work.
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  • Thanks Graeme,

    You've given me some positivity about this situation. I will air my fears within AA meetings, as I badly need to talk about it a lot more.

    I appreciate that I need to take things one day at a time, which I am trying my best to do, but it's so hard not to worry about social situations which are looming, as I have to treat them differently now.

    I feel almost compelled to plan for them, otherwise they will take me by surprise and I'll starting drinking again and then I'll be doomed. It's all very scary to me.

    I can't stop thinking about the practical reality of staying sober forever and I suddenly feel like it is a massive struggle and it's overwhelming me. This feeling has only come over me in the last day or so.

    AHHHH! I could really do with going to a meeting tonight, but I have friends over for dinner all evening. There is no way I can get to a meeting tonight. Partly because I work with both of them and there is no way I am admitting my alcoholism to them - it will get round work like wildfire and that's another headache I am NOT prepared to deal with!

    The evening will be fun, I am not drinking and hopefully it will relax me aswell.

    Hugs,
    Caz
    xxx
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  • yellowmonkey
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    gargrave50 wrote: »
    For September aiming for 14 AF days, its going to be a difficult month as I won't have my shifts to keep me occupied. My final placement finishes on 3rd September and my registration won't be through until around 10th October so I can't practice in between therefore will need to find some temp work.


    Got you down for 14 :D

    Thought I would change avie as I was feeling in that sort of mood yesterday after a thread involving Bankrupt bashing :rolleyes:.

    I quite like it :confused: Installs a bit of fear...Yaaaaaaaa Huggggghhhhh haaaaaaaaaaaaa

    Will be AF again today as I start nights :D

    Take care

    ym
  • I quite like it :confused: Installs a bit of fear...Yaaaaaaaa Huggggghhhhh haaaaaaaaaaaaa

    YM - I think you've lost it :D

    Not buying any beer today but have some of that girly vermouth stuff for later, to have with fizzy water. Its a baby step of not having the beer but still having a tiny bit of alcohol. Its the beer that's got me - have no inkling at all for spirits or anything like that. So am planning to have that as it won't go down as quick as what a few beers would.

    Sad isn't it ? planning your evenings drink before lunch ........ though I have just had my second breakfast (full english :D) .

    Best Wishes

    BHB
    xx
    :) Embrace your inner Hillbilly :)
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