The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

BHB and JO - surely you should have thought of a house swap??

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Doubt anyone would want to come here

40somethingmum

fayjmck wrote: »

We have an icecream parlour here - does all that stuff and sassperilla and dandielion and burdock and does licquorice sticks etc

Very 1950's its ace. ONly local icecream too

Am home - woo hoo - fires on - crackling away - movie on the wall (Bugsy malone - DD choice) and life is ticking nicely
Waves to all

Happy Birthday WB !! xx

Fay . The ice cream parlour sounds fab. Sounds like you are having a lovely time tonight:T. Only one day to go on your Hairy/fluffy loan - :T_party_:dance::dance: . Well done .... bonnie lass:D


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glasgowgirl

Evening,

Caz - you're doing absolutely brilliantly, well done you! :j

Miss P - likewise! :j

Have to 'fess up to a stray glass of wine last night . Mixed feelings, it was just the 1 but felt like a failure after declaring myself AF for life. Guess it's like a few people on here have said - a few stumbles before you get there. At least it wasn't a proper mulligan, but just felt so incredibly guilty.

Onwards and upwards...

xx

eyeopener2

Hi

had a major wobble tonight. The monster jumped on my back and demanded beer!

It was one of those trigger points people talk about. I play in a rock band and normally take a few cans to drink whilst rehearsing but tonight was the first night without.

Driving down I was getting edgy and walking in the room I kept looking at the spot where my beer would normally be sitting. weird, weird weird.

After about an hour though the feeling passed but it was a close run thing.

God ,this freedom from drink is hard work sometimes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

Hi everyone :hello:

Managed to get through this evening AF. So another one to add, please, Miss P and Piglet. Not as good a score as the previous months, but been on holiday and allowed myself an AF holiday too - although did not go over the top at any time.

Hope everyone is doing well. Nice, shiny, unhungovered Saturday to look forward to! Just right for all the ironing I've still to do from holidays (groan). And then I've starting decorating DD2's bedroom to look forward to - oh gawd.

Night night xx

Miss_Piggy_2

Evening all!

Glasgowgirl - don't feel like a failure - you are doing brilliantly! I suppose the "Constant Vigilence" thing is very true.

I had a close shave tonight as well - went to Sainsbugs and a bottle of wine was in and out of my trolley like a yoyo. Looked like a right mental case. But in the end it ended back up on the shelf. Not the RIGHT shelf, but at least it wasn't in my trolley (so if you are ever in sainsbugs in Swindon and find bottles of wine lurking in odd places you know I've been there!!:rotfl:Todays was in amongst the condiments!!!)

Miss P
xx

eselt

Ok Guys- sorry to do this, but I'm just having a bit of a bad day hating alcohol because although it only takes a short while to get a reputation, it seems like forever, if ever to get through it. Briefly, I bought my kids up as a single parent for 11 yrs, working full time, paying all the bills etc. Then my mum died suddenly, my partner got hospitalised for psychosis, whilst he was in hospital we lost our house, I started drinking heavily, ended up in hospital with alcohol induced hepatitis, and kids dads took over and looked after little ones whilst I recovered.

Sounds great, but the fallout has been massive:
1) Teenagers friends are not allowed to sleep over because there parents know I have had/have a drink problem
2) Booked to go to a music festival last week, one of the kids I was due to take said his mother had just found out I was an alcoholic and wouldn't let her kid travel in a car driven by me as planned-my kids were devastated, I just handed my ticket over to my sons dad and he took them- it was supposed to be the treat of the year for me and my teenagers, but other people just didn't trust me and I haven't got a leg to stand on.
3) I don't know how long I am going to have to pay for my alcoholism, I was the perfect wife and mother for years, and noone seems to remember any of that, they only remember (and love gossiping about) the 9-12 months when I really lost it and I'm trying so hard to make amends but everyone just assumes I'll fail because thats what people with drink problems do- they let people down and you have to work twice as hard as anyone else to gain back the respect you've lost.

But I've lost too much because of alcohol, I know that, and its going to take me a lifetime to get back to square one- if I'd just nipped it in the bud like so many of you have the chance to do I know my life, and my childrens life, would have been so much better.

Take care everyone.

Bismarck

beachbeth wrote: »

How do you AF people deal with this? Do you just not cook with alcohol?

YUP

I have come to the conclusion though that I don't really like alcohol any more.

YUP



My worry is that:

a) My liver is fine and it will make me think "Great, it doesn't matter if I have a few drinks"
b) My liver is not fine!

So it's a no-win and you'll be tempted to twist the outcome to what you want.

Figure out what you most want to do and do it. With all your heart and soul. Some can set their limits and be fine about it and I hope my kids are like that - I know where I stand.

Had a huge craving for a bout 10 seconds tonight where if I'd had a bottle of wine in front of me, it would have been VERY tough not to empty it.








Sorry to waffle on this morning but I just seem to spend most of my life thinking about alcohol and whether Im having any today and I don't want to have to think about it any more.:rolleyes:

I often recall GCs tip ages ago - look at your reasons...bored? tired? actually thirsty.....etc...and it's knowledge of how to deal with yourself that is critical when the urge comes....take care everyone...special thoughts to those in need....

RecoveringAlcoholic

Eselt.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

40somethingmum

Hi Eselt

If only these people could see what a wondeful person you are now. :A

Sending you lots & losts of (((hugs))


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