The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

barshamhillbilly

maman wrote: »

BHB hope your lunch isn't too horrific, is it a duty thing or do they invite themselves?

Nope - just a 'duty thing' I guess .... :rolleyes:

They were coming over anyway so Mrs BHB said (oddly ) invite them for lunch too :rolleyes:

Pippilongstocking

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Thanks Fay - I was thinking of something more permanent .... like a needle and thread

Fishing line and a good strong needle handed to BHB

The only nice thing about bieng a single parent is NO outlaws they have decided they are allergic to me - which suits us just fine

Maman cheers for the lovely - excellent debt busting comment - as they say in some musical or other

on this thread 'anything goes....'

Miss_Piggy_2

Afternoon all!

Fay - good to "see" you!! Hope you've been having a lovely time!

BHB - you have my complete and utter sympathy about parents coming to dinner. I didn't even SEE my in-laws today and they have managed to wind me up...I will be calm...I will be calm...

Well no wobbles for me today, thankfully. Was so pleased to get to bed last night and finish the day. Can't believe that a bottle of beer nearly scuppered me after all my good intentions! :eek:

My mum has cheered up slightly after the greenhouse incident. Dad took her out for a lovely meal last night to a nice pub and she rang this morning to say it would be a good place for me and OH to go as they do lots of nice non-alcoholic cocktails etc. Bless her. She is SO pleased I'm not drinking that thats another reason to keep going!

Hope everyone is ok and having lovely weekends. Piglets busy soaking the garden with the hose (and the fence....and the cars...and OH!!:rotfl:) so I'd best go and see what chaos he's caused!

Miss P
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eselt

Hi all

FUAS- so sorry to hear about your dog, loads of hugs to you, you poor thing.

BB- been wandering for a while why you'd lost a bit of your sparkle, now I know. It goes without saying that your OH must be very depressed, as you are such a positive and loving person it would take a serious depression for someone who lives with you to be down. But it must be taking its toll on you. I think a trip to the GP (perhaps you can go in with him, or talk to your GP before?) is in order here-depression is a serious illness and there are treatments and therapies out there to help-its very rare for someone to stay depressed for ever, its often a case of finding something that helps and your GP is the gatekeeper for that stuff. I don't have a problem taking medication for depression, if it works and I can function OK why not? There are a couple of NHS websites to try which offer CBT, not sure of there full addresses but if you search:
living life to the full
beating the blues
e-couch
These might help. As does the usual-more exercise, cut down smoking/drinking, eat properly, try and work out what motivates you and have a daily goal (however small-might just be washing up, getting dressed etc). From my experience I know its very difficult for other people to understand-that first 15 minutes of the day when you would rather just pull the duvet over, not wanting to answer phone calls, see friends or family, interact in everyday life, the lack of mental and physical energy, the loss of confidence and the feeling of hopelessness, and the brain fog that stops you from thinking, reasoning and problem solving. I know its frustrating to watch this happen to someone you love. Please try and ride this BB, 25 yrs is a long time and your OH will get better if he gets the right treatment things will be good again. Most of all take care of yourself, you are a sweetie and we all love you here, your OH is very lucky to have you looking after him, many people with depression don't have anyone at all. Theres a good book by Gillian Butler called Overcoming Depression which is practical and has useful tips in it.

BHB- hope the lunch went well and the beef was good- good to know you and mrs b live your life and don't take too much notice of what others think!!

Fay-great to have you back, you sound good!!

Jo and others struggling, best of luck today

40somethingmum

Eselt,

Thanks for your wonderful post. You have just expressed ( again) what I want to say but I just can't put it into words like you do. So thank you . You are such an inspirational part of this thread . We all appreciate your comments.

((hugs)) to you

40SM

budget_babe

Hi guys :hello:

Thankyou so much for you kind words and wishes, it is very much appreciated. :A I don't think that I shall be about much next week as I have things to sort at home but I shall of course be thinking of you all.

Darling Jo if you need anything then please email me, I do so worry about you and I so want this to work out for you Angel. I keep thinking of the pic that you posted and that beautiful, young face with such a lovely smile. You need to smile more and be happy, giving up the drink will I know make all of the difference to you. I hope all is going well this weekend and I hope you are staying strong. Thankyou for your support and for being you, Take care and stay positive. :A xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Eselt thankyou so much for your post and for taking the time to think of me, I shall look up what you have said. It just reinforces to me how absolutely fantastic you are going to be in your new job role, what date is it you start in September? I know it wasn't the exact job you wanted but I see it as a stepping stone to where you want to be. It means alot that you have taken the time to think of me and I know what a dreadful time you have had in your past also. Still you have got through this and you are now an inspiration to us all. I for one think you are fab and I am so glad that you are on here. I do hope you and your family are feeling much better now? Oh and btw I just can't wait until the next grand prix, Schumi's back and as someone said previously, re: the Ferarri years when Schumi and Ross Brawn were together, was it the driver or the strategist that got the wins? Oh I can't wait :j Hugs Eselt and thankyou again :A xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Fedup hugs sweetheart and I am so sorry to hear of your little dog, mine is also getting older and has to take daily medication for bronchitis. I worry about him as they are so much more that pets, he is a very important member of our family as I am sure yours was too. The only good thing to think is that your little dog had a wonderful life with you, though I know it is still so very upsetting. I hope work is a little better for you? Big hugs and take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Geranuim thankyou sweetheart for the virtual hug and yes I am tying to research depression and look at forums etc. Thankyou again and I hope that you are having a lovely weekend? Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Molly Polly thankyou so much for your post and your offer to meet up which I shall bear in mind, I shall be off work after Thursday this week for 2 whole weeks :T So I am hoping to get sometime to sort a few things out. Work has also been a pain lately and I just need to not have the worry of that as well. So thankyou again and my oh my don't we have nice weather today Seriously it means alot and I shan't forget it. Much love and hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ttgu hugs sweetheart and thankyou :A I hope you are having a lovely Sunday? Hope all is well, take care. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Lovely Maman thankyou also for your post you are so caring and a real treasure :A I hope all is well with you and you have the sun wherever you are today? Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

40sm hugs sweetheart and thankyou for your post, my Dh has suffered in the past though for years he has hidden it and managed to carry on. His mother died 2 years ago and to be honest they had a very difficult realationship but he seemed to go downhill after her death. He did have some counselling but that didn't really help. I think he has some issues in his past (from childhood) that he needs to talk about. I am going to go to the doctor and say this as well. Don't get me wrong he is a very good bloke and kind its just gotten to me lately, and I think I am feeling the strain of being the only wage earner. We don't really say much to our Ds as he is doing so well and as his parents we want to protect him, I hope our trip to see him will help? I am sure it will, my Ds thinks the world of his father as he has been a very good one. As I say he is a good person, he is though very ill and I am hoping as Eselt says that we can get through this time. Hugs hunny and thankyou for caring :A xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

115K thankyou for your post and I am sorry that you too suffer from depression, it is such an awful illness to have. I am still worried about you and the other Monday when you had something important to do? You then drank afterwards which makes me think that it was a very traumatic time for you. I hope you are ok and I know at the moment you are struggling but we are all here and we do care. So please do look after yourself and take care. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss P and our adorable piglet :A thankyou so much for your message (I have replied). You are both wonderful and Miss P I am so glad you didn't have the beer last night :T You are doing so well and we are all so proud of you. So big hugs and I am now on 8af days please, As I have said previously I won't be about much this week but you are all on my minds. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Winebox hunny hugs and you are such a tonic you know if I could bottle you I would, (in a nice way ). You are great and please do keep posting whether your day is good or bad? Thanks again and hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bhb I do hope that you get through today, but more importantly this next week. I am thinking of you mate and of course your lovely family. Big hugs and take care. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

FAY :j so pleased to hear from you and very pleased to hear that your darling children will be coming home :j Thankyou for the: Stripey hug, it has made all the difference. Big hugs and lovely to hear from you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ok hugs to everyone else, I hope you are all treating yourself kindly? I will be awol I think for a few days but you all are always on my mind.

So take care,
God Bless and lots of Budgie love
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Pippilongstocking

Waves a paint splatters stripey foot at budgie and all - hope you can see me in Cornwall Eslet - great words - might check out some of those sites myself - I think TBH it might help.

Still at OH's (SOOTH as we say in Orkney) and I am still decorating like a frenzied decorating person. One whole room completed and two curtains hemmed and one up (waiting for the paint to dry around the other frame - woo hoo - OH bed is made and the room does look pretty damn splendid.

Edged and started the other bedroom which WILL be finished by the time the younglings arrive in the Burg of Edin from their Hairyplane. You will no doubt here the screams all over the UK as I meet my now newly 13 year old and her very teenage brother

I have to find a bowler hat before 7pm tomorrow - it was on her birthday list - this child is I fear infected with much stripey madness. No idea where she gets it from I blame her father entirely - well I would except for his lack of a sense of humour and stripes.

Off to a BBQ for a peedie blink (driving - NO wine) and then to the land of the shops that don't seem to close with the green logo rhymes with Mazda - why is it that shops 'stay open 24hours' - don't folks get tired having to shop that much??????????

Waves to you all - BB I think I need to send you a box like the one you sent me - I still read the peedie book everyday thank you lovely you are a star.

Holds up a painty hand and says good luck tonight chaps.

Jo am definately joining you for AFMonday tomorrow - I might even practise tonight

OH away up a mountain chucking himself down it on a bike - so will cook him something nice later.

He likes having his slave back. I am being PAID for the decorating - long story don't ask - but I can cook him up something nice for the weary boned boy that will returneth to the land of Fife ce soir.

Yup I do seem to be in one of those 'moods' - sorry for the silliness - I love decorating - and weeding - saddo that I am sorted the garden out whilst waiting for some paint to dry - double grinning going on here.

budget_babe

Fay,

Hugs sweetheart and I am waving a stripey hand back to you

But I have just had to post, you said I am a little star, at the very same time I am listening to this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWzrr__wYMQ

You know how truthful I am but don't you think that is a bit of a coincidence?

I just thought it was odd

Hugs and I am so glad your children are on their way back to their lovely Mum :j:j

Trisha xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss_Piggy_2

:hello:to Fay!! When you've finished there can you come down and do mine. I hate decorating (painting and stuff) but love putting in fluffy cushions and the like!

:grouphug:for Budgie as I think she needs one.

All quiet here. OH gone to collect his daughter as we have her now till Thursday night. His son is on cadets camp so we won't be having him. So I'm left here to bath Piglet and put him to bed. I don't get to do it too often as I'm usually at work in the weekday evenings so I do love doing it at the weekend.

I'm in work Monday and Friday this week as we have a few days off. On Wednesday am off with Mum to Buckingham Palace and Windsor. Looking forward to that (think Queenie will make me a cuppa!?)

Miss P
xx

cazzasmazza

OMG my first AA meeting is tomorrow!!!!!!

I know exactly where it is, but there is no parking close by, so I will have to get OH to drop me off...... EEEK!

Slight hitch, I haven't actually told my OH that I am going yet........ :eek:

I think that bit is going to be much harder than the actual meeting.

In myself, I am really looking forward to the meeting. It's a massive, huge turning point just to go. I've talked about going before, but I haven't ever gone.

I don't know when I am going to broach the subject.

I think it will be 5 mins before I have to leave......;)

Cazza "feeling extreme intrepidation" Smazza