The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

eyeopener2

Thank you Jo.

This is turning into quite a journey!

geranium72

well done everyone who stuck to their guns!

Out last night at a friend's barby - so was always planned as a drinking night

What I will say is that I drunk much less than usual - and kept count and was consciously drinking more slowly

No hangover today - hurrah and have gone from drinking nearly every night to 4AF days this week.

Back off the wine now until at least wednesday when I have my post SW treat of 1 glass

BlueNose

Aghhh already I can feel the cravings for a drink tonight. I am going over to my apartment later today to do some work on it. I've been looking after my 93 year old mother for quite some time and been staying at her place for a long time as she has not been well. Yesterday I just about had enough as I was in a foul mood and screaming and crying (getting really angry) Away from my mother I must admit!

Today I feel better but must really get away - so going over to the flat but I know when I get there I will want a drink.

I keep telling myself I feel better (well except for last night) I am sleeping better and I am losing weight - something I have been wanting to do. Then I tell myself having a drink one night will be OK. Is this normal??? And I have only stopped drinking since last Tuesday! Also just stopped the anti-depressants (slowly) so don't know if its that or just the craving!!

Pippilongstocking

Morning all

SOrry been a bit awol - no internet well limited times when I can actually get on the computer.

Madly decorating OH house as am down soooooooth - hey ho lots of catching up with chums and lots of driving up and down to Aberdeen.

Its not been entirely AF - but I have only had drinks when with folks - although I can feel the bells creeping up on me everyday now......so I need to be more firm wiht myself.

Waves to all and off for a catch up

Miss P will update my days later on - need to get my fingers out and have a think.

Hope you are all well - Bluenose don't give yourself a hard time, it does sound pretty normal - I have insane moments of wrestling with myself (mostly everyday) looking very stupid and having mad wild conversations in my head that sound just like that.

I woke up at 3am this morning having had quite a few glasses of wine last night - and thought - OH GOD - I hate this kind of sleeping cos of alcohol. BLEUGH.

Also gave myself a good talking too this am whilst walking the dogs wondering why on earth I had a few glasses of wine and reminded myself that if I hadn't had the first one then i wouldn't have had the others - no brainer huh??

Waves to all - sorry for being absent from the wagon for a bit - finally caught up with you all again

Pippilongstocking

BHB just sellotape the parents gobs shut - think of hte food saving you will make and you won't need to listen to them - more dinner for you.

Or give them some really sticky toffees to chew

Seriously though - good luck.

eyeopener2

BlueNose wrote: »

I keep telling myself I feel better (well except for last night) I am sleeping better and I am losing weight - something I have been wanting to do. Then I tell myself having a drink one night will be OK. Is this normal??? And I have only stopped drinking since last Tuesday! Also just stopped the anti-depressants (slowly) so don't know if its that or just the craving!!

Maybe you have to look at the positives of what you have done a bit more. Push them to a higher plane, so to speak, rather than looking at having a drink to cheer you up, which is a negative thought. And only you know if one drink will lead to another and so on. I know it would with me and i'd be back at square one.

You are sleeping better (good isn't it) your losing weight (which you want to do). These things are fantastic, your achieving your goals, the goals you set yourself when you decided to quit.

The cravings will come and go. Allen Carr refers to it as a monster on your back which your have to ignore. its not easy, the monster is very persuasive!!!! Everybody on here knows that.

Keep strong and keep in the forefront of your mind WHY you quit.

Pippilongstocking

Jo me dear - you have made me spit my coffee out

'my boat has no bottom'

and cry with the post you made days ago about the visit with your lady etc - hugs to you me dear.

Sounds like a roller coaster and a half - - I have still got 5 pages ot catch up on but wanted to say a huge hug to you me dear.

You are amazing - xx -

Sorry just a blurt out - am just so blown away as always by the honesty on this thread.

My kids come home tomorrow - thank god - I feel like I have been going insane - another year of summer holiday kidlessness gone - some one told me once it would get better but it SOOOOOO doesn't

Waves morning and hello to you all - must read some more and off to wield a paint brush much to do

MISS P - what a nusiance

BUDGIE - I so need to give you a big stripey hug - please me dear do look after yourself xx

Waves to the rest of you mad mad mad people - and hello to lots of new faces.

Quite alot to catch up on.....blimey

BlueNose

Hi eyeopener

Many thanks for these words!! Cheered me up a bit.. yes i am quite hard on myself at times..
ie.. think I don't do enough for my mum.. (almost here about 24/7..??)

i get angry and frustrated at times (thats probably normal considering what I am doing)- not enough time for me! Last nights anger was a bit abnormal but think it may have had something to do with stopping the anti-depressants. I will see how I get on this week before I rush back to the doctors!

You're right - its only me that can change things.. and if it means getting rid of that "thing" on my shoulder... its worth it for all the positive benefits.

I am away over to my flat just now and if I avoid the supermarket on the way there then that will be very POSITIVE.

PS You are right ... one drink leads to another and then a bottle!

Have a good day... all

maman

:hello: Just made it for Good Morning!

EyeO - you just boast away as much as you like, it's a great feeling!

Bluenose, I think the cravings you feel are just sometimes just because wine (or whatever your favourite tipple) is something that's been part of your life for a long time and you miss it when it's gone. Plus you've been having a hard time with your mother so it all gets too much but as E says you'll feel good if you can surf that urge.

BHB hope your lunch isn't too horrific, is it a duty thing or do they invite themselves?

Debmonkey, well done on your total so far. Seems that your OH needs a lot of support.

Jo, hope you get your few days away. Having OH close will be 'good' for you (won't it??)

Fay, glad you're back in circulation and (I know it's the wrong thread but anything goes on here) well done on the debt busting!

I'm drinking today with my roast lamb but plan a couple of AF days in this week.

Enjoy the afternoon everyone!

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

BHB just sellotape the parents gobs shut - think of hte food saving you will make and you won't need to listen to them - more dinner for you.

Or give them some really sticky toffees to chew

Seriously though - good luck.

Thanks Fay - I was thinking of something more permanent .... like a needle and thread