The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

ForeverHopeful_3

Sorry I haven't been on today. It was a lovely day and I spent most of the day at the beach with the boys

Mumofboys~welcome (((hugs))) I have two boys myself and of course it can be hard with kids. The easiest 'out' is a glass of wine to chill out. So many of us are trying to break the bottle of wine a night habit, so you are in the right place.

Jo~well done on keeping the appointment. I really hope you are okay and everything goes well tonight. I don't envy you one bit, bit know I should confess to Mr FH too!

I've hidden wine bottles in my handbag to dispose of the next day too How sad and pathetic!!!! Oh well, at least I realise how stupid it is. It isn't something I do all the time.

I remember the first bottle of vodka my mum found of my dads. It was hidden under his jumpers in the wardrobe. We also had a loft that was accessible through my bedroom. He used to hide drink in there too and pretend to be looking for something

I'm off to put No1 son to bed. The youngest has been asleep for about an hour, but I promised the eldest that he could stay up and watch Robotboy

Much love x

budget_babe

winebox wrote: »

:eek: I can understand BB driving anyone to drink!

Ok guys I will get me coat as I guess it just ain't working.:eek:

I had wanted to do a light hearted post but to be honest Jo is so on my mind that being light hearted just doesn't seem appropriate.

So no I am not usually around on a Thursday but as I am not well I have just stayed at home tonight. Thankyou for your get well messages. Hopefully I shall start to feel better soon,

Miss P I am on 5 af days please and thankyou so much for doing the scores. You are doing so well and I am just so pleased for you and I would like to give you and our adorable piglet a very big hug. ((())) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So to everyone I am thinking of you, hi and good luck to all of our new members. I shall hopefully get to know you all better soon.

Gc you did a lovely post earlier and I would like to send you a very big hug (()) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

So I have been listening to this song tonight:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BK_RGNs8s6w

That is for you our Darling Jo because:
"Sometimes we can't make it on our own"

But you have all of us who are here for you and I these few lines I think say such alot?

Tough, you think you've got the stuff
You're telling me and anyone
You're hard enough

You don't have to put up a fight
You don't have to always be right
Let me take some of the punches
For you tonight

Listen to me now
I need to let you know
You don't have to go it alone

So Darling Jo please don't go it alone and I hope you have found the courage to tell your OH tonight? Drink makes us feel tough but none of us in reality are.

Underneath it all when the mask is lifted lies some very frightened and scared people, who are good and kind but so very afraid to face upto the truth and what needs to be done.

Gc I come back to you again, but you are so very kind and such a lovely bloke :A As is Ra, Eselt, Bis, Mp etc. The list goes on of lovely and kind people who are just here trying to help others on their way :A

I am going now as I do feel so very emotional.
God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

69chick

Hi all, I am not really able to get on here much at the moment, kids holidays are a sooo hard and I just have to get my 3 out of the house as much as poss or they drive me insane, then I am just too cream crackered to concentrate on anything...

anyway have managed 1 day af (yesterday) please Miss P today should have been but there was one spare bottle of beer in the fridge so I drank that earlier on shame to waste a drinking day on one bottle but then again I am trying to take the route of it not being 1 drink leading to 20!!

I just scanned through the last posts though and went back to read Jo's post so had to come on here and send all my bestest hugs to you Jo, I really hope your oh supports you and that you can finally get the life you really want chick xxxxxx

Also sending get well hugs to the lovely Budgie (do you have swine flu, soz as I havn't been keeping up to date, if so I know how you feel hun xxx

Hi to all the newbies xxx

Off to bed now..zzzzzzzzzzz

maman

Off to bed early tonight, trying to get in a few hours before driving DD1 to Luton airport at 5.00.a.m.:eek: She's off to a friend's wedding in the Czech Republic.

Jo, my thoughts ae very much with you this evening. I do hope you are having the conversation with OH and that he is being understanding and supportive. You deserve it. :grouphug:

4AF please Miss P.

'night all :A

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

I'm not normally up so early :eek: but I have to go and do mrs Mop job this morning. Have to get everything ready before piglet gets up as he dawdles so much. I have been known to plonk him in the car WITH his bowl of weetabix!!:rotfl:That wasn't repeated mind you....do you know when weetabix dries it sets like concrete? Not good news when its on your windscreen..........

Jo - have been thinking of you. I hope it all went ok last night.

Budgie - lots of ((hugs)). I hope you are feeling better soon. We don't like it when our Budgie is down or poorly!

Maman - poor you - 5am!? Thats just an ungodly hour - shouldn't be allowed!:D Hope your DD has a lovely time.

69chick - You don't have to apologise for having a bottle of beer! You are cutting down, so to just drink the one bottle is great! Wish I could do that.....:o

It seems very quiet too without Fay! Hope she's having a lovely time.

I woke up this morning and lay there thinking "Yay, its Friday!". Usually on a Friday I would go and get a couple of bottles of wine. This morning I was thinking about how I used to do that and I realised that I don't actually WANT any. Or, more accurately, I don't want he hangover, the poor nights sleep, the thirst in the middle of the night, the several trips to the loo (which by the way have stopped. I used to blame it on having had a baby but think now it was just down to drinking gallons of wine before bed!:rotfl:). Feeling quite chuffed with the "not wanting" feeling. Don't get me wrong, bells still toll every now and then but I'm learning to battle my way through them. Hard work sometimes, easier others. Just the way of things I suppose.

Better get on. Piglet is bound to be up soon. Have good fridays everyone!!

Miss P
xx

winebox

Hi - got into all sorts of trouble with laptop last night & my post wouldn't submit; saved it as a doc so will post it now...sorry it'sall out of order but was wot I wrote yest. evening (then gotta run this is not scheduled pooter time!!)

Jo:
hey all,

Jo, your post really got to me; & you know (coming from a sarky b*tch) that says something....
1. (that's the sort of person I am....) your counsellor sounds great actually; I've never been to one but I'm latching on to what she says.
2. So, you need to speak to OH. I think, I HOPE, he will appreciate your honesty. I hope he won't freak....I can understand (well, not, I've not been there so who am I to say) his mindset ref his mum & "seeing it all again" but he isn't is he? You haven't got to that point yet. You've recognised you might, possibly, one day, & you're doing your best to not go there & you need his support.
3. erm, what was 3? I do agree to share; I pick up from your posts that you're a pretty close family, I sincerely hope he won't react the "wrong" way.
4. Don't be defensive! There are loads of us out here! Show him the thread & tell him your user id is.......Budgie! (?) erm, def not wb, be you!



and as a p.s. ( to newbies me & OH live in our own houses I'm at his at weekends.......) ref the secrecy...I have hidden empty wine bottles in my bag to take home after a weekend when he informed

DEBTMONKEY1A

Morning!

Well had BEST nightts sleep ever yesterday! Had maybe 2 big glasses of wine (did not buy it but G/F had left it in fridge) & I figured after 7 AF DAYS I deserved it! Must admit it felt great! good thing was we had more wine i house (admittedly wrappped up as a pressie for G/F'S nurse but in the bad old days would have unwrapped, drank & replaced!) & I did not have it! I guess maybe there were say 4 units of booze in my glasses so as had at 6-30 pm would be 'burned off' (1 unit an hr!) by body so sleep at 11pm would not be disrupted!

Well...turned lights off at 10-45 (normally midnight!) & slept soundly till 6am. Ohter 1/2 slept much better too.

It really is a job & a 1/2 & is so stressfull looking after someone with 'issues' (I'm so glad it's nothing like bi-polar or schizophrenia) & I'm really pleased with myself for not drinking heavily-& ENJOYING 2 glasses of wine without having more! Luckily her 'blips' don't last long & she goets better fast-she's much more positive today!

Both up early so gym at 9am! Good luck all today!

Miss piggy....the 'not wanting' bit (or in my case if I have a fleeting thought of buying a bottle of spirits I very quickly now process the 'pros & cons' & decide against it) is GREAT isn't it? Comes After the 'habit' of NOT drinking daily becomes a new habit...if that makes sense!

cazzasmazza

Morning everyone.

Reading the posts over the last few days and re-reading my own posts has really got me looking deep inside myself and asking myself some serious questions. As has been said by lots of you already, Jo's brave decision to seek more help and confess to her OH is incredible and inspiring.

Despite my posts that I will try harder not to drink and to have some AFDs, it just hasn't happened. I've got drunk every night this week except Monday. I really do need some help - I hate to say it, but I don't think I can give up on my own.

So I'm going to my first AA meeting on Monday evening :eek: I'm scared s*tless and I'm upset just typing this and having to admit that I need to attend an AA meeting, but I am going to do it. It's in my diary now! :rolleyes:

There are 4 meetings local to me, so I can get to any one of them quite easily, so on most days, even on a Sunday, I can go along if I am feeling weak. I hope I get on ok with the meetings - I know they aren't for everyone, but I've got to try.

Hugs,
Cazza "feeling pretty miserable" Smazza
xxxxx

40somethingmum

cazzasmazza wrote: »

Morning everyone.


So I'm going to my first AA meeting on Monday evening :eek: I'm scared s*tless and I'm upset just typing this and having to admit that I need to attend an AA meeting, but I am going to do it. It's in my diary now! :rolleyes:

There are 4 meetings local to me, so I can get to any one of them quite easily, so on most days, even on a Sunday, I can go along if I am feeling weak. I hope I get on ok with the meetings - I know they aren't for everyone, but I've got to try.

Hugs,
Cazza "feeling pretty miserable" Smazza
xxxxx

Hi Cazza,

Well done on admitting/realising that you need to go to AA meetings. This is a very brave decision and hopefully will be the 1st step to a new you.:T:T

Lots of (((hugs)))

40SMx

barshamhillbilly

40somethingmum wrote: »

Hi Cazza,

Well done on admitting/realising that you need to go to AA meetings. This is a very brave decision and hopefully will be the 1st step to a new you.:T:T

Lots of (((hugs)))

40SMx

Wish I was brave enough to give it a go