Rewarding son for a good report ?

xmaslolly76

My two both got glowing reports and we went out for a family meal to celabratei dont think gifts are needed at all a family fuss is far more rewarding so they know how proud you are off them and they won't learn to expect bigger and better every year that way :-)

Congratulations to them both x

Idiophreak

I'd probably get something physcal each for the children, rather than a day out as a family - it will make it seem more like something they wanted that *they earnt* and will last as a reminder of what happens when you work hard.

I know some of my friends parents used to either give a certain amount (ie you get £5 for every "excellent" you get, or something - or, as we got older, we'd have "level" based rewards (ie, you get a mobile phone if you get 5 Excellents or more..)

Money_maker

I never normally reward my boys (13 and 12) but after hearing their mentors gushing over them I gave them extra pocket money which they are well chuffed about.

I might have bought them a new game were they still heavily into them however I think a new games console is a bit OTT.

We do days out in the summer anyway but the meal out is a nice idea.

NoAngel

I think a meal out will be nice, I never got gifts as such, but a meal out with me as the centre of attention was really special. Well done to your sons too, you must be very proud :-)

bulchy

Well done to your sons for there good reports. We usually treat our kids to a takeaway for getting good reports, also when dd got good exam results we got her a bottle of bubbly and an album we knew she wanted. Doesnt have to be anything expensive, just has to be a token gift to say 'well done'
Sue

elljay20

mrcow wrote: »

My son got a really lovely report so we all went out for dinner to say well done. The whole family really enjoyed it and it didn't cost the Earth.

we did this too. she got to pick the resteraunt!

Pee

Day out at Warwick Castle?

And how about a connected present, like buying him a book related to the day trip either whilst you are there or before, something suitable for his abilities but something to encourage his interest? Obviously, that is not a reward at all but hopefully he wouldn't realise!!!

dora37

I think that recognising the acheivement is just the same as rewarding....maybe just not as expensive.

We always recognise acheivements and make a fuss, however that doesn't necessarily mean that we buy expensive rewards......however it still pleases the children and that is the point.

Well done to the OPs boys. :T

pollypenny

I'd allow each to pick a treat, or choose a joint treat such as a day out. Develops
co-operation and negotiating skills.

I would never give one a greater treat, as advised by one poster. What a way to fuel rivalry and resentment between your boys.

Lunar_Eclipse

Well done to your son. I'm not sure what I'd do tbh since I was wondering about this very matter myself this morning.

My children have just received excellent reports, I am extremely proud of them. They excelled themselves in their end of year tests/SATS, but also/more importantly had glowing behavioural reports and teacher feedback.

We have told them how proud of them we are and given them oral praise. DH is not a fan of material gifts for such things. I'm unsure. I'd like to treat them and there are a couple of things they'd really like (we don't buy them toys outside Birthdays/Xmas but they do have pocket money), but firstly I don't want to create a precedent and also I'm very keen for them to know that they are achieving (or otherwise) in life for themselves - and not for me/us. It's one of the only things I can recall from my parenting reading and worked well for me in my own childhood.

Anyone else feel torn in this way? I have thought about buying them roller skates for the holidays, so am wondering whether to say they are "for trying and behaving their best at school", or just buy them as a holiday gift. Although the downside to their exemplary, role model behaviour at school is it doesn't/can't continue all the time at home!