Rewarding son for a good report ?

xxdeebeexx

Hi just wanted a few opinions really.

DS1 came home with his school report today and it is simply excellent. He is severly dyslexic and finds school very tricky. He has achieved the highest possible mark, for effort, in every subject and, exceeded all his predicted grades. The comments from the teachers are superb and naturally I am really proud of him.

I have told him how proud I am but was thinking whether I should 'push the boat out' and if so , how ? Also should I do the same for his brother who also had an excellent report but finds school quite easy?

Just wondered what other people do.

Dx

whitewing

Yes, reward both. Maybe a slight extra for the dyslexic.

We gave DS a playstation game when his report was majorly impressive. It was something that he'd expressed an interest in but he got it sooner than his birthday because of his report. (I know a lad who got a football kit for the same reason; he would have had it anyway but got it early and was absolutely thrilled).

Get the reward soon though so it prolongs the 'high'.

joshieg3011

Hi there,

Yes I reward my son (and now daughter) if they receive good reports - it's always something to work towards and if they know they will get a special treat for a good report, then so be it!

My son (7) received an excellent end-of-year report but is always very blase about the whole thing. We really make a big deal out of it, though. He got a Playstation game. My daughter (3) also got a great nursery report and she received a jigsaw!

Hope this helps - and well done to your son!

xxdeebeexx

Thank you both for your comments... I forgot to mention that my son is 13 years old and in Yr 9 at school.

Dx

Judith_W

What about a day trip out somewhere in the holidays? Just a thought

LucyB-Bride_to_Be

I think you should reward them both, they've both obviously been working hard at school! How about a day out at a theme park? Somewhere like Alton Towers, Pleasure beach etc. At least then it's something they would both enjoy x

ailuro2

Our DD usually gets books as her specific report card reward - she asked for the next book in the Warriors series (cat books by Erin Hunter - she's 10 but her reading age is OK for these books), but we decided since the report was good she should have the next set of 6. When I say good I mean every tick was in the very good column - could not have been a more perfect report:T

I agree- reward results as well as effort, so treat them both and make it clear it's a direct reward for a good report..

minimacka

I agree with rewarding children for doing well in there exams but to what extent do you stop, I know someone that has rewarded their child with a new bike (after getting a new one for christmas) because they did well. :eek:. I also know someone that is getting a new football strip and a day out to Man Utd ground.

I think that if these children are getting these gifts now at age 11 then by the time there "proper" exam results come through when they are 16/17 then they might just expect a new car? :rolleyes:.

Btw both of my children have always done very well in there exams and there efforts have been excellent and have never expected a present for this, surely this is something that children have to learn to do for themselves and not for the presents they can get.

anonymousie

God I'm a harsh mother I know but apart from bigging up the praise and maybe a family meal out we don't reward reports/exams as such. THat isn't to say we aren't chuffed to bits!

Effort grades/comments are always praised above the actual statistics though and I think that is vital and would apply to your case. My kids are bright and TBH As are often "where they should be" which is fine and dandy, they know I'm happy with that. BUT if they were academically average and got a C grade with a level 1 for effort I'd hope I'd be just as amazingly proud, as they would be "achieving their potential" which is what it is about.

DD1s best mate has a financial reward for her report and makes £££ they see it as "paying her for work done" but I just think that is sooo wrong- you have talents and aptitudes and (particularly at secondary) you should make the best of them- after all you are the one who benefits!

I guess in your situation when you feel one child has made heroic efforts and the other has "just coasted" it is tempting to reward the hard worker though. Perhaps as stated before, something he would have got anyway but earlier- if it was my son I guess I'd get him some shoes he is craving (normally I'd pay the "basic" and he'd top up for hte "label he wants" )

galvanizersbaby

Well done to your DS!

The day out somewhere they would like to go sounds like a good idea.

My 2 also have encouraging reports (DD has only just completed reception class) DS has tried really hard despite like your son finding literacy very difficult so according to his teacher he has had to make massive effort in this area and we are trying to keep him motivated.

I have told them they can choose something they would like as a reward and DS has chosen a recorder :eek: apparently his teacher has told him he can learn how to play in Year 2 so I am expecting the peace to be shattered over the summer hols!

mrcow

My son got a really lovely report so we all went out for dinner to say well done. The whole family really enjoyed it and it didn't cost the Earth.