The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

teaandcakeordeath

Bigzippy have you tried mefanamic (sp?) acid for your endo pains? I used to use it all the time and it really helped me- I can't take tramadol as I don't react well to opiates (I scratch like a meth junkie!)

I have endo and will be having HSG this upcoming cycle to see if tubes affected by it (it was diagnosed then treated with mirena coil as I wasn't TTC at the time- 5 years ago now). How did you find the HSG?

bigzippy

Teacake, the tramadol makes me itch on the come down too, so puts me off taking it too often. I have been on mefanmenic acid before and asked doc about taking it again, but doc said my diclofenac (prescribed for other pain issues) would do the same job, so left it at that. I've had tranexamic acid before for the bleeding too, but don't like the idea of taking it when ttc.

The hsg, other than showing there was no way through my tubes, was fine. I worked myself up for nothing. As I said in a previous post, the most painful bit was when I coughed/laughed with the speculum inside still, and them giving me IV muscle relaxant (not usual to have). You'll be fine. They were all really respectful and considering I was lay there spread eagle, it was pretty dignified I wouldn't particularly be phased if I needed another - certainly not from a pain perspective.


Becca, I tried to reply to you earlier, but it lost the post :cool: The FS clinic I go to seems to be able to fit you in quite quick for the initial consultation, but then don't see you again for 6 months, til you've have all your tests done (the Hsg seems to take the longest to arrange). I'm vaguely surprised they haven't done this test on you prior to prescribing clomid (as there's not much point popping an egg if the tubes it goes through are blocked), but I'm definitely surprised at how quickly you got to the clomid stage though. I've been ttc over 2 years and I'm only just on clomid, for comparison - in fact I think it took a year from first seeing the fs (because we'd been ttc a year) to getting the clomid actually prescribed. I think it'll take another year from that point to actually seeing the Assisted Conception Unit re IVF. :cool:


Ttc40, me personally, I'd take a break from the super controlled cycle situation, while you're gonna be going away. Like VS said, the effects of the clomid will probably be in your system anyway and there's nothing to stop you trying "the old fashioned way".

I think I'm not gonna bother with sticks and monitors and all that, for this cycle, and just try to bd every couple of days or so. I have no faith in it working (for me) anyway, so I don't see the point in stressing about when ov is Like dh said the other night, it's like we're waiting for one thing to fail so we can move on to the next thing. Obviously we're not hoping it'll fail, but it's slightly easier to bear that way, I think. :cool:


How you doing Runner? One step? Chickpea? :wave:

onestep

:wave: hi BZ
Waiting for AF here. Temps were really good this month - so much so that I POAS'd two days ago. Don't know why I still hope really. Bfn of course. & today my temp has nosedived. Ah well. I inadvertently caught the first 5 minutes of that midwife programme last night, & had to turn it off. Still absurdly sensitive about watching anything to do with pregnancy or babies, even tho I am realistic about our chances now.
I'm going to start doing all those things I've put on hold

becca0417

Bz I didn't need a hsg as I had my tubes checked during a laparoscopy & they are fine
I've had lots of tests done (and with my FS as he also does gynae work) in the past few years for various issues.
Sorry to hear its been such a long slog for you it really is utter crap x

tea_lover

Afternoon ladies, how's everyone doing today? Big hugs where needed!

Had a crappy weekend. Had a HUGE falling out with OH in the early hours of sunday morning. The argument lasted until 7am - not impressed! I saw some stuff on his phone (by accident, I could explain the details but just take my word for it lol) which really made me worried. He's got previous for cheating, so it's not like I should even be surprised if there was something going on again.

He swears blind there isn't, but he also said he wasn't happy, that we have nothing in common, that I deserve better, etc, etc. He also said there was no point even trying ICSI as he knows for certain it won't work as his results were so low. He was pretty drunk at the time and by yesterday daytime was saying he didn't mean any of it, he's sorry, he loves me, he is happy with us, he doesn't want to leave. He says the messages I saw were just banter that got out of hand and he realises how out of order it was, but it went no further than that. All the usual. *rollseyes*

I have a stinking cold and feel like poo anyway - so a night of no sleep followed by a night of worrying about it all has not helped!

ETA: oh, and he also said he hates all the hobbies/interests I have, he's not keen on any of my friends, he hates if I make him wash up, he refuses to compromise on any housework issues etc. Again, all of this he's now saying he can't even remember saying and he didn't mean any of it.

TeamLowe

oh Tea Lover lots of love, hope he's sucking up to you massively now. i hate it when DH says things in the heat of the moment that hurt then says 'but i didn't mean it' like it's meant to make everything ok again. it still hurt whether you meant it or not x

tea_lover

TeamLowe wrote: »

oh Tea Lover lots of love, hope he's sucking up to you massively now. i hate it when DH says things in the heat of the moment that hurt then says 'but i didn't mean it' like it's meant to make everything ok again. it still hurt whether you meant it or not x

Exactly! He was bringing up things I'd said and done literally years ago, which he'd clearly been silently seething about for years. But if I try and mention anything he said on sunday morning he just says he was drunk, didn't mean it, and there's no point going over it again. :mad:

Peonie

Hi Tea lover, I'm sending you a dodgy hug. :grouphug:

I hope the two of you sort out your problems soon.

Px

tea_lover

And the best bit?? He said that once (this must have been at least 6 months ago, probably much longer) we'd been arguing about DTD and general TTC stuff but I said we should BD anyway, even though we weren't exactly the best of friends at the time. He said he felt like he'd been attacked!! He certainly didn't say anything like that at the time, and clearly went along with things without too much (if any) persuading.

Nice. So now of course I can't go anywhere near him (not that I want to atm!) in case he accuses me of being a sex pest.

Ok, will stop ranting now, promise! Am just mightily hacked off by it all and needed to vent.

lilymay1

Hi everyone,

Just nipping in to say I think of you all often and am keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP for everyone very soon.

CD13 for me and nothing has changed this cycle. Ov could be imminent or it could be a week away. I don't think my body really knows what to do anymore.
I can't remember if I said, but I spoke with my consultants secretary last week and she confirmed that I have 1 more cycle of clomid then that's it for NHS help and I will be discharged. That really took the wind out of my sales and I have been quite low since then. I feel like they are giving up on me without ever really getting started. What was the point in the multiple SA's, HSG and all the blood tests if they were only ever going to give me 3 cycles of clomid. *sigh*

Anyway, staying off MSE is really helping my state of mind and I only cry occasionally now Sad that isn't it.

Wishing you all lots and lots of luck for some November and December babies.

Lily xxx