The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

time2deal

By the by - did I say last time that I found out they can move your ovaries, to protect them from Radiation? So you don't also have the joy of menopause at the same time. They unhook them, and move them towards the back of your body and attach them to vessels near your kidneys. It's apparently a 20 minute laparscopic operation.

I think if that happens then I may get another go at egg collection after all the treatment.

Anyway, I was just amazed when I heard it! Just pop them over to the side for a bit. Medicine is amazing. Apparently sometimes they can make their own way back... which is just plain weird.

lilymay1

T2D - they can move your ovaries? How amazing is that! Your post seems very upbeat and positive which is nice to see. I will keep my fingers crossed for option 3 too. Surrogacy is a great option should you need it and remember it does work for some people. Just as IVF does. I hope things work out for you and that you enjoy this christmas with your family.

Just got back from the hospital. I saw the consultant for about 3 minutes inwhich time she gave me a prescription for clomid and asked me to send them a copy of OH's SA results because they didn't have them....
I tried to ask questions on several occasions and was cut off every time. Waited 5 months to see them and i now just feel very deflated and upset. My SIL thinks I should phone up and ask for a 2nd opinion. Meh

tea_lover

T2D - that's amazing that they can move your ovaries. I really hope you don't end up needing all of these things, but it's fascinating finding out what they can do these days. I hope you and your family have a lovely christmas, and we're all here for you in the new year xx.

No idea what's happening with me. By wednesday night I was in serious pain, still getting blood in urine, and I was needing to go every 30 mins. Spent 35mins on the phone to the drs on thurs morning and managed to get an appt for that morning. Got to the drs and felt fine! They dipped a sample and that was clear. They did send it off for testing so I'm waiting to hear back on that but I don't think it will show anything.

No idea how it managed to disappear within a few hours after getting worse for 5 days. Oh well, at least it went!!

Got a christmas do with OH tonight and really not in the mood. I feel christmassy, but I'd rather be festive at home than go out with people I don't know who will all be really drunk no doubt. How miserable do I sound?!

Primmer

Tealover - glad the pain improved although agree it is weird that it went before you got to gp but at least they have sent it off for testing to be sure. I hope you enjoy the do tonight, I am very much like you but sometimes when you get there and relax it can end up a good night.

T2D - you do sound positive and I do believe that is the nest way to be. Really hope that spending time with friends, family and in the sunshine helps take your mind of things until you get back.

LilMay - you got your prescription for Clomid which is what you wanted. Appointments with fs tend to be really quick particularly when a route has already been agreed which I assume it had from your previous posts. I know if it frustrating and it would be nice if fs had time to answer all our questions but sadly they have so many people to see that appointments do tend to be brief. The alternative is to go private, but having gone private for ivf they are still extremely busy and can seem like a conveyor belt system with very little time for each patient. I would see how you get on with the Clomid before trying to get second opinions etc.

Metranil_Vavin

T2D - just unlurking to say how much admiration I have for the way you seem to be coping with everything.

I hope option 3 is the one too.

x

lilymay1

Thanks Primmer.

Having thought it through, I agree that seeing how I get on with clomid first is a better idea. I just would have liked to have discussed my HSG a little more and found out what my last set of blood tests showed. She said I would be on clomid for 3 months then straight to IUI at a different hospital as mine dont do anymore than ovulation induction.

Primmer

Having a mini breakdown and hope by putting this down here, I will feel a bit better. Ever since my unsuccessful ivf in September I have been in bits, in tears several times a day at the smallest of things.
Not helped by the fact that I don't see anyway to be able to afford to try again having used all our savings and a credit card to pay for the last one.
The closer to Christmas it gets the more devastated I feel cos if ivf had worked and all had been ok we would be over the 12 week mark and been able to share our news with family and friends.
DH just says that things will get better but that's not really true is it as not going to wake up one day pregnant. I know that he is upset and doesn't know what to say but I feel so alone and sad and I hate feeling like this.
Also I have been losing an awful lot of hair in the shower and when brushing and now you can clearly see scalp at my parting which you couldn't before and having googled it, it is probably hormones from the ivf which is causing it but this is makings even more miserable.

I know I need to get over it and start getting on with my life but I don't know how. Sorry for the moan.

TTC40

Hugs Primmer - don't have much advice as I haven't been there. Hope something happens to help you fund another cycle.

Lily - welcome to the Clomid club. Hope it's the kick your body needs. Can you get funded fertility support in your area?

T2D - good to hear from you. You seem focused on kicking it's butt - well done! In the meantime, enjoy being away from a very wet UK.

Half way through 2WW - bored!

Metranil_Vavin

oh Primmer, I'm so sorry. Wish I could say something that would help.

Please accept a big hug across the internet from me though xx

lilymay1

TTC40 wrote:

Lily - welcome to the Clomid club. Hope it's the kick your body needs. Can you get funded fertility support in area?

No. My local PCT don't do anything past clomid and that's not really free is it.

Primmer - I don't have anything helpful to say and I don't know how you feel. Having said that, I have been through the 'why me' phase after my daughters death so I feel your pain with lifes injustices. It is so very unfair that infertilty plagues some and not others and I am beginning to understand the heartache. I often think "i've been through enough, why is this happening to me' and I still occasionally think I want everyone to loose a child so they know how robbed I felt. But those moments happen less often and pass more quickly so i know I am finally getting past that, frankly, irrational mindset.

My daughter would be just over 2 now and I still have the christmas presents she was supposed to have. I've put a picture of her at the top of my christmas tree - she is my angel. The first christmas was the worst, but they are getting better. Slowly.

I know it's not the same and I don't really know where I'm going with this. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.