The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

TeamLowe

so much love to you T2D if there's anything us internet strangers could do except say that you're in our thoughts. hope you're soon on the road to recovery x x

jujugaboo

Congrats Winky - fantastic news, heres to a healthy 9 months. x

mrshappy

T2D, thinking of you x
Lilymay, also thinking of you x

betsie

Hi
sorry I haven't read all the thread but thought I would share my story incase it helps someone (sorry if someone else has said the same thing).
I fell pregnant with my first child after 3 months, however with the second it just wasn't happening. I was very stressed at work which I believe was a major contributor. I had Bupa with work and had some hormone blood tests done (all ok ). Then had camera put in to have a look round and tubes flushed out (laperoscopy). The following week I had another blood test and they thought I hadn't ovulated but I became pregnant the week after (ovulated in week 4 of cycle). I think the Dr was surprised it had happened so quickly but said the flush through of the dye for the camera procedure clears the tubes of any little bits which might hinder the eggs journey.
This was all done under Bupa as gyni problems.
I would also add I decided to stop work the day after my laparoscopy so the stress was over as well which probably helped.

lilymay1

T2D - Big big hugs and as everyone else has said, I hope there are lots of people around you to give you some support.

I just don't know what else to say, although I feel guilty for complaining so much about my appointment being moved 2 weeks. Hardly the end of the world is it. Sorry

Primmer

T2D - so sorry Hun, sending the biggest hug your way. You know that we are all here for you x

Whattodonow

Hugs t2d x

time2deal

Cross posting for those that don't read the other thread:

Hey ladies,

Thanks for the hugs, I thought I would give a quick update as many of you have been with me on this journey for a long time.

OK - as a warning. This is not a happy post, and not really TTC anymore, so be ready! I know we are all just strangers on the internet, but I've shared so much (possibly too much!) on this thread, it does feel strange to simply disappear. Some people may feel this is inappropriate here, but I can't bring myself yet to walk away from you ladies here who have become a strangely large part of my life.

So.. some may know that I got a bad smear result a few weeks ago, while doing some routine tests prior to starting IVF. We had been trying for 2.5 years on and off - seriously for 1 year at least. With low SA and AMH it was the natural next step. I'm 36. I was due a smear anyway.

The result was severe dyskaryosis - which I knew nothing about. Things quickly progressed to a colposcopy, then a cone excision (it was actually a LLETZ in the end) and we got the results yesterday from the tissue that was removed. Apparently the abnormal cells were visible on all the margins, which moves me officially into a diagnosis of cervical cancer. Or whatever is takes to confirm the diagnoses, the appointment is a bit of a blur, but he was clear on the diagnosis. It's really hard to write... and is proving very hard to say as well.

FYI: http://www.patient.co.uk/health/Colposcopy.htm

It's been about 3-4 weeks since the initial smear, so it's been terrifyingly fast. We don't know how bad it is, and can't do a scan (MRI) for a few weeks as the lymph nodes will still be swollen from the op this week. That, plus a CAT scan and chest X-Ray, will find out if it's spread to the lymph nodes and/or into a nearby blood vessel it is very close to (or further). The next choices are each worse than each other - probable removal of the cervix, possibly womb, possibly radiation. They have allowed me to take the time for 1 quick cycle of IVF drugs to hopefully take a few eggs, to be fertilized and frozen - to hopefully get a chance to use in the future. It will only delay treatment by a few weeks, and will be my last chance, so I'm doing it.

I have always had regular smears, the last exactly three years ago, which came back normal. So all the stats say this is impossible, but it's where I am. I have always hated stats, and never really understood them. Things either happen or they don't.

We are heartbroken, and terrified, and still in shock. I'm a bit lost, and have told family, but we still don't have lots of answers to questions that people keep asking me. I'll post from time to time on the +12m thread, but not here as it's not really the right place (not that the +12m is), but thought I would let you know, and I'll still lurk. Next real step is the MRI and CAT scans on 31 December (delayed for a variety of reasons which are my choice), and then start IVF drugs asap. Plan is for operations and things in mid Jan. !!!!!!... it's insane.. and terrifying, and un-believable (as in, we simply can't believe it - you can't take it in), and just so heartbreaking... I'm fine and healthy and no symptoms.

Me being me, I'll probably set up a blog at some stage. It's easier than answering everyone's questions a thousand times. Especially when I don't know the answers, and can't seem to talk without tears. I'll put up a link for those that are interested. Just click thanks and I'll PM you if I do it. On the off chance anyone here can identify me in real life, please pretend you can't. Happy to answer what questions i can, but in reality we are just now waiting for tests, and starting (ironically) the pill next week.

Star1

I'm sure you don't remember me as I'm a very old graduate from this thread and only ever posted a few times anyway. However, I still lurk occasionally to see how everyone's getting on

I just wanted to come out of hiding to say how sorry I am to hear your news t2d. I really can't imagine what you're going through but I hope with all my heart that you will be telling your kids on a few years about how they are so special you delayed cancer treatment to bring them into the world

Massive hugs x

jennys_mum

Hi, I haven't read all of the the posts but I just wanted to add my story.

I started my periods late at 16 but they were few and far between, sometimes 6-8 months apart. I got married at 20 and at 21 I collapsed at work and was taken into hospital where it was found I had an ectopic pregnancy. I had surgery and lost one of my fallopian tubes. I then had a series of scans, tests and procedures which showed I had severe endometriosis, polyscystic ovarian syndrome and one tube. I was told at the time that due to these complications the chances of me ever having children were practically nil.

I was fine with that as at that moment in time, myself and my husband were rising in our careers and a child was the last thing on our minds.

A good friend of mine at work however had been trying for 2yrs without success so we sort of banded together in our childless worlds.

One day I woke up and felt so tired I could have got back in bed and slept all day, my nipples were really tender and for the first time in my life I was constipated. This went on for about a week and I went to the docs who suggested I might be pregnant. I just laughed at him but did the test anyway. 3 days later I went back and was told I was pregnant. I was stunned as was my husband but my main concern believe it or not was telling my dear friend at work that against all odds I was pregnant when her and her husband, both healthy, couldn't get caught. So I went to work the following day and I'm ashamed to say I tried my best to avoid my friend which was surprisingly easy. As the day wore on it became apparent that she was in fact avoiding me too. I kept thinking how could she know? Then as we sat in the nurses station having lunch she burst into tears and said I'm so sorry but I have to tell you I'm pregnant! I couldn't believe it! Both of us had been scared to tell the other our news for fear of upsetting them. We had our babies within days of each other and have all stayed friends.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is this. Never ever give up hope.