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The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

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  • time2deal
    time2deal Posts: 2,099 Forumite
    My AMH level is 2.0, which is pants by any definition. I'm going to hold off on complete panic till I speak to the specialist.

    Really having a tough day today though. It feels like a massive blow, and I am scared it feels like the end of our chances. I know it probably isn't, but it's going to take a while for this all to really settle in.

    I was looking at soy isoflavones, but the information out there is mixed. It seems like some say if you period is regular and you ovulate (which I believe I do) then don't risk it, but... we have to do something as we've spent years trying with no success, so have to try something different.

    I know 2ba2c had success with soy - has anyone else?
  • mrshappy
    mrshappy Posts: 982 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    time2deal wrote: »
    Anyway - hello to everyone! As a first thing, can anyway tell me if there are any options with a low SA result. Is it possible to 'extract' the little swimmers surgically? Silly question I am sure, but I'm new to this next medicalised step of ttc.

    :)
    bigzippy wrote: »
    From what I've gathered it's a bit more tricky to address male infertility issues than female factors, in some ways. If the s'perm isn't getting through then they can go in to retrieve it (like I think MrsHappy's fella's going to need?). I think QQ's fella had a small dose of clomid prescribed, at one point, to try and help with his production..? If it's a low count I think they try to boost it with meds/work out why/introduce it to the egg more directly. In any case, hopefully that won't be a problem for you guys :)


    Good morning-I should be getting ready for work, but can't be bothered this morning!

    Hi TDD, hope you're well, BZ is totally correct :D -mrh is about to go in to hospital for a PESA (sperm removal from the epididymis-the wee bit where sperm are stored between being made and being ejaculated)-he has "congenital bilateral absence of vas deferens" This means that he has no tubing to take the sperm to where it needs to go and his SA results are zero. We are private for all of this, so I am not sure about the conditions for PESA on the NHS-we were told that there was a 42 week waiting list to see an Urology consultant, that will probably vary from area to area.
    Hope everyone has a good Monday x
  • time2deal
    time2deal Posts: 2,099 Forumite
    Thanks MrsHappy. I am resigned to it being a problem with me now that I have discovered the AMH level.I suppose something had to be wrong - those 85% get pregnant in 1 year, and 99% in 2 year stats that get bandied about must come from somewhere - but I am pretty down about it being me.

    I am going private so no worry on timing, but lots on cost.

    I'm actually really struggling today, but one more week and we will have a few more answers, as well as hopefully a plan of action.
  • fluffnutter
    fluffnutter Posts: 23,179 Forumite
    time2deal wrote: »
    Thanks MrsHappy. I am resigned to it being a problem with me now that I have discovered the AMH level.I suppose something had to be wrong - those 85% get pregnant in 1 year, and 99% in 2 year stats that get bandied about must come from somewhere - but I am pretty down about it being me.

    I am going private so no worry on timing, but lots on cost.

    I'm actually really struggling today, but one more week and we will have a few more answers, as well as hopefully a plan of action.

    .. and that plan of action will make you feel so much better. It's a difficult time when you realise that you'll need some help if you're ever to get pregnant; resigning yourself to it can be really quite painful.

    But... IME, once you're over that hump and have a plan in place you get your hope back. It might still be a long journey but knowing that things are moving forwards keeps your spirits up. :)
    "Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.
  • time2deal
    time2deal Posts: 2,099 Forumite
    .. and that plan of action will make you feel so much better. It's a difficult time when you realise that you'll need some help if you're ever to get pregnant; resigning yourself to it can be really quite painful.

    But... IME, once you're over that hump and have a plan in place you get your hope back. It might still be a long journey but knowing that things are moving forwards keeps your spirits up. :)

    Thanks - my head knows that, but at the same time I can't help but get a little teary whenever I think about it.

    I read back what I wrote, I didn't mean to sound like I had hoped something was wrong with DH - I sort of assumed they would say 'we can't see a problem, but will give you a few herbs, or enforce more BD'ing (which I would welcome!)'. In some ways it's better if it's me as I will do something, and I'm not sure DH would be as proactive.

    The FS I went to included a counselling session. I wasn't going to use it, but I think I will once we know some answers and work out where we are likely to be going.

    What scares me is that this may mean the end of the road now, but I don't think it is. Just the end of the easy road - hopefully!
  • onestep
    onestep Posts: 893 Forumite
    500 Posts
    Just been for a cuddle with my neighbour's 8 hour old baby girl. Managed to hold it together while I was there (congratulated myself on how well I did) except that now I'm home & in floods. :(. It'll pass, I know, but I'm so sad it's not happened for us.
    When people show you who they are, believe them the first time
  • TeamLowe
    TeamLowe Posts: 2,406 Forumite
    8 hours old! gosh that's teeny tiny! hugs for the tears but I always think well, it just shows how much I want this and that if I am lucky enough to be blessed I will always truly apprciate it x x

    T2D i hope the FS gives you the plan you want. i'm ok with mine for now, just worried about his SA coming back as bad news :(
    i think we decided that if we couldn't conceive naturally then we would give it a couple of years to get properly sorted before paying for treatment.
    and i still think i would be ok with that, just as long as i knew what was happening. it's all this uncertainty that's killing me x x
    Little Lowe born January 2014 at 36+6

    Completed on house September 2013

    Got Married April 2011
  • fluffnutter
    fluffnutter Posts: 23,179 Forumite
    time2deal wrote: »
    Thanks - my head knows that, but at the same time I can't help but get a little teary whenever I think about it.

    I read back what I wrote, I didn't mean to sound like I had hoped something was wrong with DH - I sort of assumed they would say 'we can't see a problem, but will give you a few herbs, or enforce more BD'ing (which I would welcome!)'. In some ways it's better if it's me as I will do something, and I'm not sure DH would be as proactive.

    The FS I went to included a counselling session. I wasn't going to use it, but I think I will once we know some answers and work out where we are likely to be going.

    What scares me is that this may mean the end of the road now, but I don't think it is. Just the end of the easy road - hopefully!

    You have a long way to go before you're anywhere near the end of the road, sweetheart. It's always darkest just before dawn. You will feel happier in the not too distant future, I promise.
    "Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.
  • fluffnutter
    fluffnutter Posts: 23,179 Forumite
    onestep wrote: »
    Just been for a cuddle with my neighbour's 8 hour old baby girl. Managed to hold it together while I was there (congratulated myself on how well I did) except that now I'm home & in floods. :(. It'll pass, I know, but I'm so sad it's not happened for us yet.

    Corrected for you :)
    "Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.
  • TeamLowe
    TeamLowe Posts: 2,406 Forumite
    just saw this and thought it might be of interest to someone...
    http://www.manchesterfertility.com/blog/item/endometrial-scratch-procedure-available/
    Little Lowe born January 2014 at 36+6

    Completed on house September 2013

    Got Married April 2011
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