The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

onestep

Chickpea and ttc40 ((hugs)). I know that feeling well ..

Primmer

Chickpea and Ttc40 - sending huge hugs to you both.

tea_lover

BZ - glad the pre-op went well. When's the big day?? I haven't had a hysteroscopy but I've had lots of laps and they've all been fine. Hope it all goes well and you get some good news from it.
primmer - big hugs, so sorry it didn't work for you xx.

Can anyone help me with a clomid question please? This is my second cycle of taking it. First cycle was monitored and I ov'd on CD27 (later than without any medication). I'm not being monitored this cycle so relying on temps and OPKs. I'm not sure I've ever had a +ve OPK so mostly going on temps. Looking back at last month's chart, my temp hardly went up after ov (I know I ov'd then as I was being scanned all the time). So I guess there's a chance I have ov'd this time, but there hasn't been much of a temp shift again.

Does clomid affect BBT like this? My temps are always pretty low anyway, but last month even after ov. they stayed below 36.20.

Not sure why I'm even bothering. OH's second SA results were even worse than the first lot. Really low count and motility, and not enough there to even test morphology.

Whattodonow

AF got me today too

What also bugs me is, preseed, supplements, cbfm, cbfm sticks, ov sticks... I've spent a bloody fortune on this non existent baby over the past year an a half! And now I'm thinking I getting a basal thermometer (?) only other proactive thing I can think of doing at the moment.

Harrumph. Moneysaving my @rse!

Whattodonow

Facebook rage on cd1. Should just stay away. Argh!!

bigzippy

Tealover, it's on friday. I'm more relaxed about the idea of it now, but still very eager to get it over with now. I just want some solid answers now, tbh. I had to reiterate to my mum, again, today that's it's a diagnostic op, they're not going to be able to fix my tubes etc. Explained why and it seemed to sink in better this time. She sounded crestfallen tbh so I was right when I thought she was putting too much hope in the op. :cool:

I can't help you, re clomid, and I gave up with BBT and opks etc ages ago, so can't help there either!

I'm on cd2, too. Even after almost a week of spotting (it concerns me that so much of my LP has spotting, but I don't know if that's blocked tube related? I'm assuming over eager endo for now tbh ...) and cramps and full knowledge of blocked tubes, I still had a split second of "ooh...maybe...?" when I started feeling sick. :doh: As if I'm still that stupid!:o

Hoping the tranexamic acid does it's thing before the op, so the hysteroscopy isn't an issue... Of course then they'll probably give me clexane to prevent blood clots from lying on an operating table for all of 40mins! (when she told me about their blood clot risk reduction strategy I almost laughed. Does she know how much I sit on my fat a$$ normally? )

onestep

Well.. After last months lateness (think it was cd 34 or something when AF finally showed).. This month she arrives - on cd 23!!! Grrrr! Oh well.

BZ - hope it goes smoothly for you.
Primmer - how are you doing?

Primmer

BZ - good luck for Friday, will be thinking if you.

Onestep - our bodies and cycles know how to mess is about (hugs)

AFM - still not doing good after failed ivf, still feeling really upset and not great physically either. The clinic were going to send me a review letter but still not heard anything from them. Want to get the letter so I can decide with to have a review consultation. Also thinking about taking up the one free counselling session the clinic offers but again want my review letter first.

fluffnutter

Primmer wrote: »

BZ - good luck for Friday, will be thinking if you.

Onestep - our bodies and cycles know how to mess is about (hugs)

AFM - still not doing good after failed ivf, still feeling really upset and not great physically either. The clinic were going to send me a review letter but still not heard anything from them. Want to get the letter so I can decide with to have a review consultation. Also thinking about taking up the one free counselling session the clinic offers but again want my review letter first.

Can you face giving them a quick ring or email? Perhaps that will prompt them to send the letter. Do have the review consultation - it really helped me after my failed attempts. It brings back hope again

chickpea

Hi everyone!

Primmer - don't blame you for feeling down. I'd hassle the clinic, why not? What are you thinking of doing next?

Onestep - is it definitely AF, is it heavy? I only ask because as you knowm random bleeding does happen and can mean different things. (Not that I wish to be giving false hope, obviously - it prob is AF..in which case, sorry!)

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A while back, when I was more emotional about this whole business, I had taken to occasionally weeping quietly at my desk, esp when the conversation around me was about pregnancies and babies (there was a lot of that for a short while.)

The only conversation I ever had with my boss was 'are you happy in your job?' 'Yes, but I have had other issues distracting me, outside of work. I have had fertility treatment that hasn't worked..' 'Whoa I don't want to know about any of that'.

I felt like such an idiot. Men just really don't want to know..

Out tonight with (different) work folk. I have my answers ready if anyone asks 'do you want any more'. (Ranging from: 'I'm too old' 'no you're not!' 'Tell that to my ovaries!' to 'I can't, I'm infertile.' One way to stop a conversation.)

Have a good day!