The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

EverTheOptimist

Good luck over the weekend Primmer, hope the follies all grow well for you and wishing you luck for your next scan, it is such a nerve wracking time, because you are so out of control, but take it easy and i'll be thinking of you. xxxx

Whattodonow

Hello all

Sorry i never post on here. Finding I'm pretending nothing is going on and only start thinking about the whole crappy situation when AF appears or have an appointment coming up (tues -scan. Trying not to think about that either)

We told our parents what was going on in the last couple of weeks. OH's mom said it took her two years and my mom said it took her seven! First I'd heard of it and I wish she had told me this years ago.it might have made me start earlier.

Hey BigZ sorry to hear about how you're feeling. It sucks. I always say the wrong thing, so I'll leave it at that but xxx

Part_Mouse

Primmer Hope things are going well for you
TTC40 *hugs* for CD1 I hope you have a fab holiday.
WTDN hi only just joined myself

As for me I stopped smoking last night after starting again over a year ago after stopping for 3 years. Very silly to start again and now really feeling the cravings. If were ever to have a family I need to stay off the ciggies.

Primmer

PartMouse - well done on giving up smoking, you can do it! I gave up about 5/6 years ago it is tough but worth it.

WTDN - good luck with scan tomorrow.

AFM - scan this morning showed follies have grown nicely since Friday yay!!! So waiting on phone call this afternoon to confirm but egg collection should be on Wednesday. Getting to the scary stage now!

bigzippy

Yay Primmer.:D I'm watching your progress with interest I think I'll be following in your footsteps in spring and I know this is your first time too, so... Y'know what I mean

We got a christening (for twins) invitation through the door last night. I've no idea how these people even know our address. We don't like them particularly and dh already refused to commit to going back in may when the mother was trying to pin him down straight after his mum's funeral! The christening's only in october, so why she was harassing us about it back then, especially given the timing for us, I don't know

It felt a bit like our safe (infertility) haven of a home was intruded upon

Another acquaintance sent me a message on fb going on about how she was having "a sh*t old time" planning her wedding (for december, we've no desire to go to this either - and she's known for hyperbole and exaggeration :cool:), and I just wanted to tell her she should try comparing notes with people with real problems! She was at Mil's funeral, knew enough about the run up to her death to know how !!!! it was, and knows how long we've been unsuccessfully trying for.

I'm deciding how much I could/should lash out, before I decide whether to reply or not. (I've ignored her previous recent-ish messages for similar reasons) :cool:

I'm still trying to convince myself that I'm genuinely happy (and not just giving it lip service) for my 14wk pg friend. I want to be able to see her without just being insanely jealous

lisawood78

Great news Primmer. If they do decide on EC for Wednesday you will do your trigger shot tonight, probably quite late on in the evening (as the trigger shot is well timed and most EC's are in the morning)
Are you having it under GA or sedation?

BZ, I hate feeling my home has been intruded on also, I rarely get visitors apart from family (although 30stone of dog helps with that) If you don't want to respond and don't want to go to the event then just don't (IMHO) just RVSP to say sorry, can't make it, no elaboration needed. In fact, I tend to ignore anyone saying anything that pees me off, the mood I can be in at times makes it better for all if I say nothing, you know how the old saying goes, if you can't say something nice.....
Of course, I know how it is juggling doing something you don't want to, and keeping the general peace.
Have a good week ladies

Primmer

BZ - huge hugs, you don't have to attend either event if you don't want to and no reason is necessary you just can't make it.

Lisa - got call this afternoon and had to take trigger !!!! at 6.30pm today and EC is at 7.30am on Wednesday under sedation.

lisawood78

Oh that's an early one!
With the sedation, if it is the same as I have had previously, it works much better if you are calm. First time I was a wreck and it wasn't great, second time I was much calmer and fell asleep on the table! Third time went back to being rubbish but I have a rubbish doctor and belenophobia to thank for that.
Great thing about sedation you get to hear progress as it happens and you get to go home faster and recovery is faster, I always fall asleep on the drive home and then I'm fine!
Good luck!

chickpea

How exciting Primmer - hope it all goes well. One step closer..!

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LisaWood - hello!

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ETO - when are you testing?

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BigZ - everyone is pg in my life too! Even when I went for a quiet coffee today, the place is nearly empty...but yet this heavily pg woman decided the seat opposite mine was the place to be..

They don't know though that they are painful to look at - most people don't view the world through an infertile prism.

You are my "thinspiration" in the meantime - got to knuckle down, been far too lax recently!

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TTC40+ QQ - sorry for CD1. I had the same situation this month QQ - for the first time in ages, we missed OV - combination of staying at parents' house, illness, hangover and extreme 'couldn't be bothered'! Was still surprised at CD01 though.

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Anyway - celebrating (not!) our 3 year 'TTC-versary' this month. The CB digi test I bought optimistically has just passed its use by date. Won't be wasting my money on another one though!!

Have a good week everyone!

bigzippy

:shocked: Oh my, I've never been anyone's thinspiration before! :rotfl:

"Celebrate" with a bottle of wine...or 3?

I spoke to my mum yesterday. I asked her what dad said when she told him. Apparently he asked why they couldn't put stents in my tubes, like they do with arteries in heart patients! :rotfl:

Re the "friend" with the wedding (couldn't care less about twin-mother), I only feel guilty because she genuinely seems to be under the impression that we're close friends. Despite me ignoring every (self centred) message from her since the beginning of june! :cool:

Primmer, good luck with the EC. How have you found the injections, overall?

Ttc40, are you going to continue TTC/NTNP indefinitely, or go back and see the FS again?
I'm also wondering how they managed to clear your tubes, but they're so pessimistic about being able to clear mine...?:huh:

Lisa, how come you're waiting til january for your next ivf round? Is this your first child you're TTC? How old are you, if you don't kind me asking?

Hope everyone who's lurking is ok too