The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

How did your Dh react about the eggs, QQ?

Things were looking pretty grim after the egg collection, so he was not surprised. He wanted me to do another egg collection straight away though:shocked:

Tbh, I'm kinda getting tired of this. Maybe it might be time to let nature take its course? I've had 5 egg collections and 2 egg transfers in a little over a year. Maybe it's trying to say something:o

Primmer & Evertheoptimist, good luck with down regging:wave:

jujugaboo

Well I am 35 today and feel like life is passing me by. No signs or symptons was even hoping for some spotting but nothing, just feel the same as usual and I am 6dpt. I am convinced that its not worked again and mow thinking about where to head to next.

To top it all one of best friends had a baby girl called Annie this moring, 10lb she her by c-section. I am chuffed for her but still can't help thinking when is it my turn.

Hugs to all who need them and good luck to everyone else.

QQuaver

jujugaboo wrote: »

Well I am 35 today and feel like life is passing me by.

Happy Birthday!
:bdaycake:
You still have at least 10 more fertile years:o

I am 6dpt. I am convinced that its not worked again and mow thinking about where to head to next.

When will you be testing?

To top it all one of best friends had a baby girl called Annie this moring, 10lb she her by c-section. I am chuffed for her but still can't help thinking when is it my turn.

(((hugs))).

Cake4brains

Thanks QQuaver, was asking if anyone was using Soya Isoflavones cos I bought some but chickened out of using it!

Happy Birthday Juju

And hugs to all who need them xx

bigzippy

QQuaver wrote: »

Things were looking pretty grim after the egg collection, so he was not surprised. He wanted me to do another egg collection straight away though:shocked:

Tbh, I'm kinda getting tired of this. Maybe it might be time to let nature take its course? I've had 5 egg collections and 2 egg transfers in a little over a year. Maybe it's trying to say something:o

Primmer & Evertheoptimist, good luck with down regging:wave:

I can understand that. I think this work-enforced break til december will give you both some 'time off' from it all - well, from the regime of medicated ttc. Hopefully you'll both get chance to reconnect (in the same country! ) and discuss your feelings about it all. Would you consider any other options, if it came to it? Donors? Surrogates? Adoptions?

jujugaboo wrote: »

Well I am 35 today and feel like life is passing me by. No signs or symptons was even hoping for some spotting but nothing, just feel the same as usual and I am 6dpt. I am convinced that its not worked again and mow thinking about where to head to next.

To top it all one of best friends had a baby girl called Annie this moring, 10lb she her by c-section. I am chuffed for her but still can't help thinking when is it my turn.

Hugs to all who need them and good luck to everyone else.

I have an appreciation of how you feel. I recently turned 30 and dreaded it. I thought I'd've done my childbearing by this age, and be revelling in the family life with (almost) white picket fence life style.( I understand that 35 is different again though, and it would be another milestone type age for me, I think.)

Sometimes life really is un-bloody-fair.

But, happy birthday! :j
And hopefully this transfer was the last you needed to get your baby!

thanks ETO, good luck with your treatment

Good luck primmer, will do

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

Would you consider any other options, if it came to it? Donors? Surrogates? Adoptions?

I'd consider adoption, but DH doesn't fancy that.
In which case I think we'll leave it:o

bigzippy

QQuaver wrote: »

I'd consider adoption, but DH doesn't fancy that.
In which case I think we'll leave it:o

How would you feel about leaving it? Maybe this break is the time to discuss it all again with dh? (I know I get worried my hormones are affecting what I'm feeling/thinking/saying to dh, so I can imagine medicated cycles might be worse for that...?)

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

How would you feel about leaving it?

I never had a child, so it's not like I'm missing anything:p
None of my siblings (2 sisters) has a child, although it could change if my younger sister decides to have one after all.

Neither of us really wanted a child, we both married late.
It changed when I had a mc. (Hormones are to blame:o)
I desperately wanted a baby that I lost, but since I couldn't, I pushed for fertility treatments and IVFs when DH was not keen.

Now for some unknown reason, he decides he wants a baby too.
Now I know what DH felt like:o

Maybe this break is the time to discuss it all again with dh? (I know I get worried my hormones are affecting what I'm feeling/thinking/saying to dh, so I can imagine medicated cycles might be worse for that...?)

Could be that. I'm 10DPO, I usually get depressed around now:p

tea_lover

BZ - hope it goes ok at your appt this afternoon. Thinking of you and your OH, it's been a sh*tty year so far so fingers crossed this is the start of a better end to the year x.
QQ - sounds like you need a hug. It's so hard even thinking about what to do next. I won't let OH even start a conversation about what we do if it doesn't work as I feel that would be jinxing things. Mad I know. Hope the little break from IVF does you both good.
juju - happy birthday!

Can anyone pls reassure me that clomid is not going to turn me into an axe-murderer! Am really nervous about it. Tbh I've always had some anger management issues (not something I'm proud of) and I know that my hormones don't help at certain points in my cycle. After screaming and shouting at OH yet again last week I'm now even more worried about whether clomid is even a good idea. Am scared of what I might do!

jujugaboo

QQuaver wrote: »

Happy Birthday!
:bdaycake:
You still have at least 10 more fertile years:o

When will you be testing?

(((hugs))).

I can test from day 13 which is the 1st Aug but might put it off for a few days till the weekend so i can have a good cry but who knows. We have considered adoption and think it might be the best solution for us. I can never ever imagine myself not ever having children, I have always wanted them just didn't realise it would be this hard.

Sorry tealover i've never had clomid but hope you don't suffer too bad with it.

Good luck BZ