The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

:mad:Yet more bloody out-of-the-blue, bright red bleeding! :mad:

And a water infection and toothache from open root canal to top it off :mad::(

And dh is really down and we're supposed to give in the keys on mil's place on wednesday, and it's not empty by half, yet.

(((Hugs))):(.

Have you tried lunar conception?
It is supposed to make us ov early (for those of us with irregular cycles). I've tried it, and I ov'd at CD18 last cycle.

You just sleep with an eye mask from CD1 to about CD13, then 3 days without the mask, then back to the mask.

EverTheOptimist wrote: »

try another IVF before he goes.

Have you considered freezing some of your DH's sperm? That's what we did as DH is never around:o

I'm the same with you in that I've wished my days away counting towards ov, af, ec, et etc:o

sillysausage1977 wrote: »

I'm [FONT=&quot]convinced [/FONT]that I will be see AF soon. I have sore boobs but I think that is down to the prostegeon. These next few days are gonna drag..

Are you about 14DPO now? When are you testing?

EverTheOptimist

QQuaver wrote: »

Have you considered freezing some of your DH's sperm? That's what we did as DH is never around:o

I'm the same with you in that I've wished my days away counting towards ov, af, ec, et etc:o

We have got some frozen too, i am hoping we get a completely fresh cycle in before he goes, but i can then at least have another 1 -2 goes when he is away. if i can face it on my own and if we can afford it. As we are now on to paying for the treatment.

Obviously we will continue to try the natural route too. as we are unexplained so it could still happen. (wishful thinking)

sillysausage1977

Evertheoptomist - I'm really sorry xx huggss xx

I know what you mean about it ruling everything. I would like to know how you get out of this cycle of thinking.

I'm on day 11 past transfer. Time wise day 12 was the day I started to bleed so dreading tomorrow, probably daft but its the only other cycle I have to compare it to.

Primmer

EverTheOptomist - big hugs, glad you got a plan to take a break and then try again before oh goes away. I always find planning ahead helps with the disappointment of a bfn or af. Hope you can plan some nice things this week to help.

SS - keeping my fingers crossed that af doesn't show.

QQ - when are you back at the clinic ?

QQuaver

Primmer, (hugs))) for AF:(
I have a scan to check how thick my lining is tomorrow:o

SS, keeping everything crossed for you:)

chickpea

onestep wrote: »

Anyone heard from chickpea? Hope you're ok. Hope everyone in the 2ww is coping!

Hugs

Hi Onestep - not gone completely AWOL here, just getting on with it, as you do!

Sorry about the general malaise...I can't help out, my SIL has just announced the joyous news of her latest pg. My joy is unbounded. (Not really, my heart is broken all over again. I'll get over it. And of course, it's not about me...it's going to be all about her, for the next 8 months!)

Her last baby is only just one, so she's not just skipping the queue, but rubbing it in!

So there's someone else I need to avoid for 8 months or so.

There's something quite biblical (old-testament) about SILs + (in)fertility/envy.

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So to punish her, I have cracked open the Neal's yard goodies that I had been planning to give her for her birthday - lovely. She can have the cheapie lavender gift-set that my aunt bought me at Christmas instead. That'll show her! God, I'm pathetic!

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Sorry about AF, One step. I'm completely out of synch with you - I'm roughly mid-cycle, I think - but I've stopped paying really close attention. Maybe CD19/20.

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We need some good news on here. Good luck SS, hope AF stays gone.

Good luck everyone!

EverTheOptimist

Thanks for the hugs everyone, i am feeling remarkably calm about it at the moment. That said i spent Thurs night sobbing because i just knew.

Keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you sillysausage.

Sorry to hear that news chickpea, it can't be easy. Thankfully i haven't got any close friends or family that are pg. i dread it everytime a friend says they have something to tell me.

At work i am in charge of looking after the pg ladies and completing their risk assessments etc. And we have a girl that came back from maternity in Sept last year and has announced she is 3 months again. This will be her third in 5 years of working with us. I find that really hard. And i find seeing pg ladies harder than seeing kids. i don't know if thats because apart from when i MC'd earlier this year i have never been pg, and i am so envious of not knowing how that feels.

jujugaboo

So sorry ETO, sending you hugs

Still got everything crossed for you SS

Chickpea - you made me laugh (cracking open the Neals Yard stuff). Horrible when you hear pregnancy annoucements worse when its family. The thing I dread is celebrities, its all about babies whos is having one, that really gets me for some reason.

QQ - good luck with scan, hope its nice and thick.

sarahs999

ETO - so sorry, it must be awful. One question - have you been tested for natural killer cells? Might be worth getting it done before you spend more money on IVF. Apologies if you have already done this - can't keep up with everyone's story....

As for me... my body is doing very odd stufff. I am way past the date I should have seen AF, but my temps keep on rising. I'm def not pg as multiple pg tests show, but my AF is nowhere in sight. Very strange and very unlike me....

Runnerduck

(((hugs))) ever the optomist xxx

sorry chickpea, enjoy the neals yard stuff xx

good lick sillysausage xx

sorry you are having such a hard time BZ xx