The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

staffiecat

ginvzt wrote: »

Adoption: yes, we discussed it many times, and it is an option for us.

I am at the end of my 'month', and I am feeling horrible today. It must have been that late meal last night, as I woke up feeling sick this morning at 4am and couldn't sleep much anymore. I am still having pains, etc. The problem with me is, that if I just had it all 'come up', I would probably be back to normal pretty soon, or as my OH has, it just goes down the 'other end', but in my case, my body just struggles giving me pains and nausea, but nothing changes at the either end!

I guess i had my share of throwing up as a teenager (I used to be physically sick every time AF arrived).

On ttc front, I think our ttc plans are going to go on hold until autumn - I think I've almost decided that I am going to take the new job offer. It will mean longer commute, less holiday, slightly higher pay, but maybe I will enjoy my job once more and have some colleagues to learn from/talk to. I was waiting for 'hook' from my company to stay, but I haven't seen one that would hook me yet. My boss is just 'non-communicating' as always, they have given me a promotion (he asked for it the week before I had my interview, but didn't tell me anything before it was approved), and they upped the salary to £1k below the new offer. I don't like my job, I don't like the office, but then they don't bother me, and if I slack off one day, I can catch-up later on with no problem. In short - I don't want to leave, but I don't think I have another option anymore!

So, if I change, there is 6 months probation, so we wouldn't be going for another IVF cycle until it is over.

Hi Gin, hope your feeling better soon hun. From what you have said about your current job I would leave - life is too short to be in a job that you don't like particularly when you have the opportunity to get out of there! Go for the new job and take a break from the IVF, you both will probably benefit from that!

OH and I haven't been TTC lately and life feels good, we have always been close but I didn't realise until stopping that practically every conversation referred to babies/IVF/upset over AF arriving etc and it was definitely a strain on us. We are having fun again now and life is happy

Chocolate_Cookie_Monster

QQuaver wrote: »

In that case, we better get on with making babies for ourselves:cool:

My plan exactly Qquaver.:p

When we had OH results we had a very emotional evening (albeit a bit tipsy) talking through what our options were, what we were willing to do, how we felt if we had to face worse case scenarios and we decided to try anything and everything. To be honest a year ago I didn't think I would still be in this position and in the cold light of day its hard to get your head around it all. But I refuse to be beaten - yet - I know that this road is still very much at the beginning for me (and OH).

sarahs999

YEs, I remember my sil saying how annoyed she felt that 'normal' people could just have their baby and no one came round to see if they were fit for purpose. I know they have to do it but it did go a bit far, in my opinion.

chickpea

QQ - sorry IUI didn't work this time.

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Adoption woud take serious thought anyway. I think I'd only want to adopt a child younger than my own. Maybe I'll revisit that option this summer, if DH won't go for giving IUI a go.

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FS has suggested upping my dose of Clomid - too late for this month, I'm CD8 now, but maybe next month. She wants the Progesterone test at CD24 this month. I'm pleased at least they haven't just given me the Clomid and left me to it.

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I did something wonderful yesterday - had a fish spa! It was amazing. I got my hands in there too, and my hands and feet are as soft as a baby's bottom!

I can only recommend it for relaxation purposes - unless that kind of thing would freak you out more than relax you!!

QQuaver

chickpea wrote: »

I did something wonderful yesterday - had a fish spa! It was amazing. I got my hands in there too, and my hands and feet are as soft as a baby's bottom!

I can only recommend it for relaxation purposes - unless that kind of thing would freak you out more than relax you!!

Really?
I've seen it, and thought it might tickle:D

QQuaver

chickpea wrote: »

FS has suggested upping my dose of Clomid - too late for this month, I'm CD8 now, but maybe next month. She wants the Progesterone test at CD24 this month. I'm pleased at least they haven't just given me the Clomid and left me to it.

Why do they want to up the dose?
What's been done these days is, if they find you aren't growing follicles fast enough, they'll continue with more Clomid (150mg?) until ov.

That's what I'm doing, but instead of Clomid, I'm using injectables. It's a lot more expensive than Clomid, but no side effects:o

So Clomid 50mg CD2-6 then Puregon injections 100iu on CD6, 8, 10 and maybe 12 & 14. Didn't get pg, but produced 2 follicles on 2 occasions:cool:

chickpea

Hi QQ - mmm, when I said I was pleased they were taking an interest that's as far as it goes really - mine are not as proactive as your doctors I don't think.

I'd have to pay for that! (Which I'd have no problem doing but DH is reluctant at best to get over-involved with anything that smacks of ART. I aim to push some more in the summer if nothing has changed.)

I imagine it occurred to the FS to up the dose because the last Progesterone test I did was iffy - but I reckon that was because I did the test on CD21 - and only got a +ve OPK that evening, so I hadn't OV'd by the time I did it.

I don't mind the Clomid. I don't feel I have any side effects to talk of, except for being over-emotional in the run-up to AF. When I turn into a basket case..

chickpea

QQuaver wrote: »

Really?
I've seen it, and thought it might tickle:D

For the first minute, it tickles like hell, and just feels...wrong! But you get used to it and after a bit it just feels like a Tens machine on a low setting.

I paid £15 for 20 mins (and they gave us a coffee). I reckon that's not bad.

I felt like a hippo being pecked by little birds.

QQuaver

chickpea wrote: »

I imagine it occurred to the FS to up the dose because the last Progesterone test I did was iffy - but I reckon that was because I did the test on CD21 - and only got a +ve OPK that evening, so I hadn't OV'd by the time I did it.

So they thought you haven't ov'd:think:

chickpea wrote: »

For the first minute, it tickles like hell, and just feels...wrong! But you get used to it and after a bit it just feels like a Tens machine on a low setting.

I paid £15 for 20 mins (and they gave us a coffee). I reckon that's not bad.

I felt like a hippo being pecked by little birds.

Lovely, I think I may like that:rotfl:

gettingthereslowly

Hi Ladies,

Hope everyone is well. Sorry im not that good at keeping up tp date on here at the moment but really need and want to get back into it.

Just a little update from me. Had my drs app yesterday. Waited for 50 mins to go in and was there for 5 mins but went ok. Having an initial blood test to check for any issues with kidney, liver, thyroid, iron, B12, folate, blood count, cholestrol and who knows what else! Dr explained that any issues with any of these could cause issues conceiving. DH has to book and see about his swimmers. Going for blood test a wk monday. Depending on results will determine what happens next.

Feeling so much better and kicking myself for letting it go on for so long but I've started the ball now so fingers crossed. Dr was really nice and enthusiastic to, just hope that continues.

Promise to come back and catch up soon. Just getting ready to go out for rugby and belated birthday celebrations

GTS xxx