The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

QQuaver

sexki11en wrote: »

Ahhhhhh, I forgot - am also using conceive plus since last month - am like some of the other girls - too MSE to buy pre seed until the conceive plus is gone :rotfl:

They are the same:beer:

jujugaboo

ginvzt wrote: »

Apparently this has been changed in our clinic in the last 6 weeks. I guess it saves me a trip there, which is quite a bit 80+ miles return journey, 1hr each way plus parking fees.

Tell me about it, my trip is at least 50 mins and its all country roads.

Runnerduck, hope your drugs get delivered to as your trip sounds alot worse than mine and Gin.

chickpea

Hello everyone!

SK - I hope all the supplements work for you. I went through the rattling like a pill box phase, but nothing worked so I've jacked in everything except 'Fertilaid' multivit.

In fact, Evening Primrose Oil, Agnus Castus and Soy Isaflavones seemd to do more harm than good.

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I'm feeling quite negative today. So much for the PMA. Bit of a positivity failure today.

Getting woken at 5am by OH who had an early train to London didn't help.

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I just think if it's going to happen, it's going to happen. It annoys me so much, the world is full of pg women (half of them teenagers) and none of them need to bother with any of this nonsense. It's not fair.

Sorry, I just spent the morning with a bunch of pg women/new mums sharing their gripes about how awful it is being pg and it's left me feeling quite lonely and depressed. I've even eaten a Fruit and Nut, which isn't exactly Atkins. (I would type 'twelve stone 11' here but I managed to spill a cup of coffee on the laptop earlier and now the 'two' button doesn't seem to be working. Brilliant.)

It doesn't help that I know of no-one in real life with similar issues. There are a few people that I've moaned about it to, but in general, who wants to hear it? No-one.

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Anyway - hope you are all feeling more cheerful!

Good luck to all.

jujugaboo

Chickpea, don't feel down we want to hear all about it!!

It is frustrating when you see teenagers getting pregnant and everyone is talking babies.

What sort of places are you going to full of pg women!! Keep away, keep well away.

QQuaver

chickpea wrote: »

It doesn't help that I know of no-one in real life with similar issues. There are a few people that I've moaned about it to, but in general, who wants to hear it? No-one.

Similar situation here.

I have people to talk to, but none of them went through what I'm going through, so can't really understand. One of my friend (never been pg, has PCOS) even said she'd conceive quickly if she wanted to. Why would she know that? And why would she say that? Probably true though:o

Maddie

Sorry you feel down today chickpea

I don't really have anyone in real life in the same situation either. I know people who have been through similar, but are now pregnant or have given birth. With some of my single friends I get the feeling that they see themselves as being in a much worse situation to me since they still need to meet the right person, spend a few years in a relationship...and then start trying and maybe have problems. I guess in a way they are right.

Well we had our first appointment at the gynaecology ward today. I told the nurse about my painful periods IBS etc etc and she immediately said i should have a laparoscopy. Was pretty happy with this since i had worried about endometriosis before we even started ttcing, but had been given a load of drugs and been told to put up with the pain when I last saw a consultant about it.

So had a few swabs taken and an internal investigation, and have an appointment for a week on fri for a scan. Then am on a waiting list for a lap and dye. Eek - never had a general anaesphetic (sp?) before - although I do kind of like the idea of having to be really well looked after once its done and some time off work to recover.

ginvzt

Hey, everyone- chin up!

I am nearly done for today at work and I am having the rest of the week. Tomorrow morning I am flying home for a surprise visit - my parents don't know I am coming. The plan is to make my way from the airport by train/bus/taxi, and just knock on the door with some flowers. It my mum's birthday tomorrow, so hopefully she won't be too upset with me for appearing like this!

I will be back home Monday, so will try and login then. Keep all smiling, and lilo - if you are around, let us know how you are doing...

Runnerduck

chickpea hope you feel better soon

people don't think, we were at a wedding party saturday and a lad we are friends with started showing us pictures of his little daughter on his phone and saying to my OH that he dosent know what he is missing and how she has changed his life for the better, he would be mortified if he knew how upsetting his words were, i just gripped his hand and we smiled at the pictures.

i have started to tell a few close friends this week, and i think it does help to have a chat, but no-one really understands as they haven't been through the same thing

chickpea

Sorry for moaning - I've been doing quite a lot of that recently!! There just seems to be a baby boom around here recently. I'll get over it. I just sort of want to join in with the chat chat..and can't.

'I'm having terrible morning sickness and I need to wee all the time'

'Yes well I'm still infertile, but maybe I'll get a Lap and Dye, maybe that'll help. Maybe Clomid will help. Maybe...etc'

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To top it all off it looks like this laptop is stuffed. My husband is going to kill me - it was £800, even if it is a few years old in the meantime..

liloandstitch

Hi everyone sorry I have not been posting - I have been reading but have been a bit on a downer and didnt want to bring the thread down. Lots of good news going on with peoples appointments etc progressing.

I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, (Chronic fatigue syndrome with pain!) and is the cause of all the problems I have been having since the surgery. Basically I cannot take any of the drugs if I want to get pregnant. End of consultation. !!!!!!. No support, no help to live with it, nothing. So am a bit peeved. I have contacted the support group (found it myself) and they are going to see what they can do so that is at least something. Plus have had the letter through from the fertility clinic and I will be totally self funding, tests, everything - do they think I am made of money. I cant even see them without paying. We have tried to discuss it with them, but they havent returned our calls.

And AF turned up 2 days late, told you I wasnt - as it is a MSE site, at least it saved me the cost of a test! am on day 9 now so all set for a sh*gathon!!!!!!!!!! (again!)

Love and babydust to all - lilo