The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jujugaboo

Thanks chickpea for the support. This is my second ICSI so I hoping this time its going to work, they have double my stim drugs so hopefully I will have more eggs than last time (only had 3 and only one took).

Gin, families are hard!! My Mum is very dependant on me so I see her at least once a week and she always asks about stuff its hard to shut her out without up setting her, so I don't think I can tell her not to ask me anything. Hopefully I have put her in her place for now.

QQuaver

chickpea wrote: »

I've lost another pound!! Five in five days!! Only 7 to go to get a sub-30 BMI. I might just do this..

CD23 for me. No early testing this month, I can't take the crushing disappointment - I'll wait until AF or I'm late I think. We'll see.

Your diet is going amazing well, congratulations!:T
Your testing policy is the same as mine, it's a pity I usually give in:p

VK-2008 wrote: »

i got to specialists tomoz i wonder what the next step will be

Good luck:)

kairi wrote: »

Doc said I should take the drug to bring on AF if not here by 18th which would be CD32. should i wait with testing till then ??

Yes, CD32 would be ideal, if you can resist the urge:)

alamaya

Thanks ladies.
Still very much in shock.
Took another test this morning as clinic said i would get a true response within one day of OTD which is tomorrow and its still a BFP so its a keeper lol.
Its so surreal. Been together 8 years, trying/not trying for 4 of those years and actively trying 4 years and all it takes is a clinic to do it first go :O.

Also wanted to say i recommend NURTURE Nottingham. On my thread on fertilityfriends.co.uk. I dont believe we have had a negative in aggggges. Most ladies on it have children from Nuture that are a year old plus. Me and another lady both having treatment last month have both got positives. They are excellent blastocyst transfers.

I wish you all the luck in the world that your dreams come true one day like mine have. I am so full of emotion right now i could cry all the time

chickpea

Sounds like the clinic is excellent - and they obviously picked a first-rate specimen - that's now a tiny, tiny baby - so weird to think about it..

A book I recommend is 'Your pregnancy Day by Day' if you can get it - it has photos of what's happening every single day from conception to birth - it's fascinating and fun to look at a page a day while you're pregnant.

++++++++

It is surreal when you get a bfp after all those years of nothing.

I remember getting my one and only bfp, it was 18 June 2008.

I'd taken the day off work because I was so depressed about the infertility thing. As far as I was aware I was on CD18 so no reason to assume I could be pg. I'd just had some ICs arrive though and wanted to see how they worked, so just to kill some time I P'd OAS.

I didn't understand the result - the instructions showed either one line for no or two strong lines for yes - I didn't know what one strong line and one really, really faint line meant - I presumed nothing, and carried on about my day.

Later though, I got to wondering, and looked out a CB test - and there it was clear as day - bfp. He's now the cutest, curly-haired blondie, wriggly-bottomed 18 month old ever!!

I hope I get another one..!

++++++++

CD24 today, symptomless. Having an Atkins day. I didn't weigh myself today because I did a modified ABD-day yesterday and had rice - rice! - in the evening, which the scales may have punished me for this AM. So I went to the gym this morning, and I'll be on eggs, cheese and smoked salmon for the rest of the day - back on the scales tomorrow!

Sorry for the long post. I'm rambling.

Shut me up.

OK.

nottslass_2

alamaya wrote: »

Thanks ladies.
Still very much in shock.
Took another test this morning as clinic said i would get a true response within one day of OTD which is tomorrow and its still a BFP so its a keeper lol.
Its so surreal. Been together 8 years, trying/not trying for 4 of those years and actively trying 4 years and all it takes is a clinic to do it first go :O.

Also wanted to say i recommend NURTURE Nottingham. On my thread on fertilityfriends.co.uk. I dont believe we have had a negative in aggggges. Most ladies on it have children from Nuture that are a year old plus. Me and another lady both having treatment last month have both got positives. They are excellent blastocyst transfers.

I wish you all the luck in the world that your dreams come true one day like mine have. I am so full of emotion right now i could cry all the time

Congratulations :j

I also have Nurture to thank for my little bloke who's now 7 months old.

VK-2008

BIG TEARS AT MY END!!!!

just back from specialist and since my weight has increased ever so slightly she wants me to wait another !!!!!!! 5 months before i come back and see her! honestly could hardly drive the car for the tears. i think i may need to scream!!!!

its always something with the docs, they wouldnt give me the ovulation drugs the last time as i had an arm injury and now they say this. its one things after another.

i mean its a frustrating enough time as it is and then you have some stupid doctor going on and on and on at you

why cant i just have a break in life????

everyone around me just thinks of bd'ing and the are pg.

aaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELP!!!!!!!!!!

QQuaver

VK-2008 wrote: »

BIG TEARS AT MY END!!!!

just back from specialist and since my weight has increased ever so slightly she wants me to wait another !!!!!!! 5 months before i come back and see her!!

I'm so sorry VK (((Hugs)))).
Why not try Soy Isoflavones in the meantime? You may not need FS

Alamaya, if I know I'd get pg with just the one IVF, then I'd be on in:o
I'm still at Clomid stage, soon to be IUI.

chickpea

VK-2008 wrote: »

BIG TEARS AT MY END!!!!

just back from specialist and since my weight has increased ever so slightly she wants me to wait another !!!!!!! 5 months before i come back and see her! honestly could hardly drive the car for the tears. i think i may need to scream!!!!

Hi VK - deep breaths, and ....calm!!

It is frustrating.

Tough as it is, I guess you have 3 choices:

1 - carry on as you are and hope for the best, maybe do as much reading up as you can on ways to enhance your fertility

2 - Go private - they're usually less fussy about your weight because of the ££££s

3 - Concentrate on losing weight, so when you do go back (assuming no bfp in the meantime), that at least is not the issue. What's your BMI at the moment? Fertility friends have a brilliant BMI calculator if you aren't sure.

++++++++

Other people can and do get pg whenever they decide to (or not) but some of us have to struggle. It isn't fair, but you just have to suck it up.

And that BFP will be all the sweeter when it comes (which I hope and pray it does...soon!).

Sorry the appointment wasn't very satisfactory, good luck with your next steps.

sexki11en

Congrats Alamaya - heres to a healthy 8 months!

Hugs VK - it sometimes feels like the universe is against us doesn't it?

For me, 11DPO, POAS and of course it was -. I've just scared myself by reading about the effects of smoking and alcohol when TTC and have decided that DH & I are going tee total as from now (although DH rarely drinks at all) and I will definately give up my smoking. I'm 2/3 of the way through the Allen Carr easy way to stop smoking book at the moment.

I've known at the back of my mind for ages I should have given both up but somehow convinced myself it was OK. After what i've read today, they're both going! It's all we have left to try.

Please wish me luck ladies - i'll need it giving both up at once!

SK x

chickpea

sexki11en wrote: »

Congrats Alamaya - heres to a healthy 8 months!

Hugs VK - it sometimes feels like the universe is against us doesn't it?

For me, 11DPO, POAS and of course it was -. I've just scared myself by reading about the effects of smoking and alcohol when TTC and have decided that DH & I are going tee total as from now (although DH rarely drinks at all) and I will definately give up my smoking. I'm 2/3 of the way through the Allen Carr easy way to stop smoking book at the moment.

I've known at the back of my mind for ages I should have given both up but somehow convinced myself it was OK. After what i've read today, they're both going! It's all we have left to try.

Please wish me luck ladies - i'll need it giving both up at once!

SK x

Good luck! And don't stop with 2 vices - give up caffeine too, if you haven't already!

(I don't smoke and I'm more or less teetotal - now and again I have a lapse, usually when AF strikes! I've lapsed a bit on caffeine at the mo, while trying to lose weight - hard enough to get through an afternoon at work, but when I'm hungry I need coffee or sugarfree red bull to get me through it..mostly my coffee is caffeine free tho.)

It helps to have a fake drink, like non-alcoholic beer or sth similar - slimline tonic with a tiny drop of gin.

sorry about bfn..