The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

jiblets1

Hi dusty - nice to "meet" you. Ask all you like, we tend to know most things between us all. We're an experienced bunch.

Huge congrats Alex, fabulous news. Your body was in control - it knew you were ovulating, and made sure you DTD. Yeay for your body!

liloandstitch

Brilliant news Alex - let me know in due course your vital statistics and I will add you to the graduates list!

Welcome to the thread Dusty - post as little or as much as you want to - between us we have been through or tried most things so can hopefully help you with any questions - nothing is to small or silly - and good luck on your journey.

Lilo XX

Giles23

Hello ladies, I only just found your thread - did not know this type of place existed.. still trying to come to terms with all the abbreviations! I am a guy and thought i share my story. let me briefly introduce myself. I am 33 years old, my now fianc!e turned 40 this year. we are proud and happy parents of a five year old and have been trying for number two for the last 4 years. We have done all fertility tests and everything always came back clear.
Almost two years ago now we did finally fall pregnant, the happiest days ever. But at the three months scan it became apparent that something was not ok with the baby. The nucal fold (sorry if I mis-spelled it) was many times as thick as it was supposed to be, all signs said that the baby would suffer from sever chromosome disorders, 'downs syndrom if you are lucky' the doctor told us so we made a decision to terminate there and then. I don't need to tell you what a terrible, terrible decision that was to make. We would have both been more than happy to have a child with downs syndrom but they could not guarantee anything..
Well, after about 5 months we started trying again but unfortunately in vain. Because we already have one healthy child we cannot get any IVF treatment unless we pay the full price ourselves which we simply cannot afford. We now decided to take the pressure off a bit, be happy with what we have got and see what the future brings. But so far that 'new' approach did not change anything either. We are very grateful for what we have got and I am not sure we will push on with this as we both find it emotionally wearing, not to talk about the almost mechanical routine our sexlife has turned into.
I believe that sometimes, and for some reason, some things are not meant to be. And just because we are in control of pretty much anything that happens under the sun, we think that we should be in control of giving live when we want too.. I cannot say how I will feel in three months time but we both feel like giving up on the idea which is really really sad on one hand but a big relief at the same time. 'The Alchemist' - by Paolo Coelho is one of my all time favourite books which teaches us that while we travel the world looking for what makes us happy it was at home in front of us all the time but we had to make the journey to come home and appreciate what we've got. Well, that pretty much sums it up for us at the moment.
Hope I did not bore you, I wish you the strength and belief you need to follow your path but if you decide to change the direction, do not feel like you are giving up. If it's meant to be it will happen!
All the best to all of you.
Giles

liloandstitch

Thank you Giles for posting, I hope you find peace xxxxx

dustystar02

Hi ladies, thanks for making me feel so welcome.
Just got my 1st appointment at the fertility clinic at St Mary's in Manchester through.
8th September - eek! So I guess I'll be back here on the 9th asking you all to translate what they tell me !

crickett1234

Can I join please?

Hubby and I have been trying to get pregnant for 7.5 years. I have PCOS and according to the doctors, rarely ovulate, so charting and stuff like that is difficult if not impossible. Every month I think that I might be pregnant because although I don't ovulate, my hormones surge and mimick early stages of pregnancy. I usally end up POAS and then find I'm not. Sigh. This month feels different than I have before, so hoping that I am actually pregnant this time and its not my hormonal imbalances playing silly beggars with me. But who knows? I haven't read the whole thread, but I am going back to do that now.

After all these years, I can understand so much of what you guys are going through. It is so tough not being able to do something that loads and loads of others seem to be able to do right away.

liloandstitch

Welcome Cricket, thank you for sharing your story. Have the docs given you anything to stimulate ovulation?

Lilo

QQuaver

dustystar02 wrote: »

Hi ladies, thanks for making me feel so welcome.
Just got my 1st appointment at the fertility clinic at St Mary's in Manchester through.
8th September - eek! So I guess I'll be back here on the 9th asking you all to translate what they tell me !

I've heard of a lot of people getting pg after booking fs appointment. You may be one of those:D

crickett1234 wrote: »

I have PCOS and according to the doctors, rarely ovulate, so charting and stuff like that is difficult if not impossible.

Welcome fellow PCOSer:beer:
I got diagnosed early this month (first FS appointment), although I had an inkling since my sister also have it:o
I got something to induce AF & Clomid to induce ov. Hope it'll work:), if not, will just have to ask for a higher dose:o

jiblets1

Welcome to all the newbies, it's lovely to have new people to help and to learn from.

I'm 6 days into my downregging. Becoming quite adept with the needle (the main trick seems to be to push it in quickly - it's the entry that hurts, so if that only lasts a milisecond, then the pain only lasts a milisecond.) Apart from one or two minor wobbles it's been fine so far. A couple of emotional overloads, but no rants to speak of, so that's good. A couple of migraines - apparently I can take paracetamol or or cocodamol, but not ibuprofen, but I'm keeping drinking and that helps. I hope the second week goes so well!

liloandstitch

Glad its going well jibs, thinking of you - lilo xxx