The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

hamish222

Glad you saw the sun lilo it is snowing where I am and no sign of sun

jiblets1

Just thought I'd let you know (you may already know if you're with me on twitter) that I've decided to be more public about my infertility. My close friends and colleagues all know about it - I've really not kept it a secret after the first year or two. But I've refrained from joining the 999 reasons to laugh at infertility facebook group because I didn't want it put up on my updates for everyone to see. And I'm not sure why I did that, when just about everyone I see in RL knows all about it anyway. And on MSE this may be the first time I've called it infertility (which I think it officially is after a year of trying? I'm WELL past that). But I'm usually the sort to call a spade a spade and I'm fed up of allowing myself to feel like infertility is a swear word. It doesn't have to be a dirty secret. And with the amount of stuff all over f/b about every man and his dog's pregnancies, I really feel like I should be big enough and strong enough to stick up for team infertile. I honestly think the amount of "relax, it'll happen" comments and such annoying tosh comes purely from the fact that the public at large have not had enough conversations with people that tell them that random baseless affirmations are just annoying. So I am going to be more open. More conversational. And not just with anonymous fabulous online sorts. But with real people I may actually see. Maybe I'll save someone else from well meaning but thoughtless comments in the future...

liloandstitch

Well said and well done Jiblets

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nichart20

yeh well said jiblets it's always hush hush and no one talks about it

I was quite pleased to hear OH has someone at work he can talk to who is going through ivf and has unfortunatly had 2 failed ivf cycles before I wish that was not the case for his work friend but OH now has an understanding from a male point of view thts been throug it

I have just been making muffins for my nephews birthday party tomorrow he is 2 they are a bit rubbish but have no time to do a 2nd batch so they will have to do!!

ginvzt

Well done jiblets! I think my friends and family now all know that we are having problems, and I have no problem telling them what is going on. I just wish my mum would stop asking when will I know outcome every month! Also, I am really trying not to build up any hope, and I said to her something I don't think it is going to happen this month when we talked last time. She basically told me off and said I need to be more positive and be hopeful each month. But she doesn't know how much it hurts when AF comes! (I know she means well, but I wish she wouldn't say things like this).

I haven't told anything at work yet. I was going to do it after February, as our salary reviews where supposed to take place, but now they haven't finished signing them all off, and I won't know anything for a few more weeks. So, I am not going to tell anything yet.

AF hasn't showed up yet, but you can 'uncross' all your fingers and toes. Thanks everyone, but I think I am out for this month - second morning spotting, with the bbt dropping by more than half a degree, so I am expecting AF to show up anytime today or this weekend. It would be better if it waited out till Sunday, as then I might be able make a more informed decision about skipping next month on Clomid and tracking, or going on. (I still haven't got any confirmation if I have to go for that work trip or not and when exactly)

JohnnieStar

Well done and well said jiblets! Its hard speaking out about it, I definately wouldnt on FB (I have too many people just from secondary school and stuff) and nobody at my new job knows yet. At my old job about everybody knew and could actually be quite harsh about it, almost like I was making it up? I guess it could have just been the people there, none of them were perticularly nice... I'm not ready to tell my new job yet, in fact the only reason my old job knew was because of the wacky clomid side affects and crying every 5 mins. But anyway, enough rambling lol, Im glad you feel comfortable in telling people

ginvtz - Sorry you think you might be out this month

nichart - Hope your nephew likes the muffins! Nice thought and I bet they will be fine

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winnie72

Hi,

Has anyone on here been given progesterone suppositories once pregnant to help support the pregnancy. We've had 3 miscarriages and this is an option we have been offered for whenever we can get pregnant again. Did you find any benefit, what about side effects? Doctor said none but think he must've meant no irreversible ones from what I've read online.

Winnie

nottslass_2

winnie72 wrote: »

Hi,

Has anyone on here been given progesterone suppositories once pregnant to help support the pregnancy. We've had 3 miscarriages and this is an option we have been offered for whenever we can get pregnant again. Did you find any benefit, what about side effects? Doctor said none but think he must've meant no irreversible ones from what I've read online.

Winnie

Hi winnie - Fortunately I haven't suffered a MC But did have progesterone pesseries after IVF.

The only side effect that I had was a bit of bloating - so nothing too bad !!

Hope everything works out for you X

Lauralou

Evening everyone:D

Nichart thanks for that, i've ordered the figure from ebay, looks really nice thanks:).

Winnie did you have the chromosomes tests? Im having them done next month.

sarahs999

winnie72 wrote: »

Hi,

Has anyone on here been given progesterone suppositories once pregnant to help support the pregnancy. We've had 3 miscarriages and this is an option we have been offered for whenever we can get pregnant again. Did you find any benefit, what about side effects? Doctor said none but think he must've meant no irreversible ones from what I've read online.

Winnie

Hi Winnie. I've had 3 mcs too. My consultants have told me that progesterone will not help The only thing it might do is prolong a pregnancy that is doomed anyway. I went to St Mary's in London which is the wolrd leader on this sort of thing, so reluctantly I've accepted their advice. There's lots of stuff floating round onthe internet that tells you otherise, but apparently outdated.

Have you been referred to anyone or had ay tests done? Have you been taking aspirin?
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