The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

nichart20

jiblets1 wrote: »

I'm @jiblets1 on there too, so if you want to find me and see who I'm following, then you'll find quite a few ttc peeps there too. I like the links to the blogs, for a bit of extended perspective...

I found you :T

MadMac_2

Jiblets - have found you too this morning, although not sure I could bear to follow too many TTCers on there as I'm low enough as it is!

Lilo - now hun you don't yet know that will be the only (and last) resort open to you, so please please keep up the positivity (you can keep all of my PMA for now) and I'm still hoping it won't be as bad as you're preparing for. I always say to myself that if they are prepared to shift your appointment around that much, then they aren't too worried about you! And you never know, you just never know what will happen next. Huge tight hug to practically smother you being sent your way, xx

jiblets1

MadMac wrote: »

Jiblets - have found you too this morning, although not sure I could bear to follow too many TTCers on there as I'm low enough as it is!

To be fair, it can sometimes be a bit of a grump fest....
The lady who write 999reasonstolaughatinfertility is on there, full of positive affirmations, she's infertilenaomi...

kizmet106

I have just had a message from one of my friends who emailed to tell me she is is expecting in July.... thats the 8th one of my friends who has announced their pregnancy in the last year. I think I am the only one left in Northampton that isn't pregnant!! :rolleyes:

I am sooo happy for people when they tell me they are expecting but it doesn't get easier hearing it each time. Sorry for sounding a bit down but I know you all understand :A x x x

liloandstitch

Thanks for the enveloping hug Madmac, TBH I am really positive this time, I dont know why - last year I knew that it was bad (and it was) I think I know my own body pretty well by now and Im not too worried.

Kizmet, I know the feeling, although at the moment I dont know anyone - last year I had so many people at the beginning of the year and I was SO jealous and depressed. My step daughter in law and my niece have both had 2 in the time I have been ttc! I am sure it will be my turn eventually, but dread any of my other stepchildren announcing (I have 4 in total - youngest twins are 22!) impending parenthood. I do keep wondering if because my husband now has 5 (we have DS age 6) we have now exceeded his procreation limit! (And yes all the problems are mine! He is so fertile that his spermcount went back to normal after his vasectomy reversal 13 years after having it - virtually unheard of!)

Lilo

angelavdavis

Hi girls, a quick note.

Hubby and I are looking after our niece and nephew this weekend. Ages are 5 and 8. They have been really good and are currently upstairs getting ready for bed so I can't be long.

My sleeping pattern this week has been dreadful. I slept only 3 hours on two nights and then didn't sleep for a further 2 hours last night.

I am at a complete loss why I cannot sleep.

I did spend some time last night investigating alternative IVF clinics should we decide to go through it again. It looks like Tunbridge wells might be a better option for us - higher proportion of over 40 year old patients, higher proportion of male infertility patients, 7.7% success rate for age 40-42. Seems a much better option for us than the 4.9% of the last clinic we went to.

Its depressing when so many people around you (in my case, even people who had IVF within a few weeks of me) are having babies. Even worse when you find out that the baby you held when you were 20 has now just had their own baby! Makes you feel it will never happen to you!!!

Hi to all, keep positive! lots of love x

MadMac_2

Angela, so depressing to read the IVF results at our age! We look every now and again and then say very defeated that we cannot afford to spend the money for something with such a low success rate - so I hope you and your OH have more PMA than we do!

BTW have any of you found a good iPhone app for TTC? I am looking for something to take things out of my head quickly wherever I am and something I could track my mood with would be great - but there are so many to choose from! Oh well, thought it worth asking...

Hope you are all enjoying your weekend, x

nichart20

Madmac I would love an iphone just for the apps you can get

angelavdavis hope the sleeping sorts it self out nothing worse than be exhausted all the time and then still not been able to sleep

Moan warning

The clinic we were going having ivf was seperated into 2 units st james and lgi, they have centralised this into 1 unit at seacroft. They decided this in Jan 2008 the move was Dec 2009 and they still do not have the licence in place yet to be able to preform fertility treatement :eek: this has put back treatment back 4-6 weeks so ladies that had their ivf booked in are having it put back. I just can't belive it, you think that would the thing they put into place first, so I thought ivf would be March/April it will probally be May/June now. I suppose I have waited over 4 years a few more extra weeks won't hurt

liloandstitch

Sorry to hear about the delays, nichart. It does take a while to sort out the licences - mine became independent from another clinic and it took months for it to happen because of the delays in licence - although they were still using the other clinic meanwhile, so it didnt delay things (although the other clinic put their prices up 25% as they knew they were losing the business - meanies!) I am sure it wont be long, chin up!

Madmac, sorry I only get as far as drooling over the iphone, cant afford one at the mo! Hope you find a good app soon.

Angela, sorry to hear you are having sleep problems. Maybe the IVF is playing on your mind? Tunbridge Wells sounds good at 7.9%. My Consultant always gave me the odds of appx 10% at 40 if this helps. Enjoy your weekend with your nephews, precious times! Maybe you will be so worn out from entertaining them plus no sleep you will get straight off tonight.

Nighty night - lilo

alamaya

Hi all,

Wanting to introduce myself and express my worries if thats ok.

Been TTC for 3 years, last year docs finally did tests to find DH has a very low sperm count ie. 3mil. I have done blood tests, ultrasounds and everything appears ok with me. I have to go back in feb to see if i have lost enough weight to go on the IVF waiting list.

Now my worry... i just need to talk about it. The likelyhood of a couple only needing one ivf cycle are low so i have heard. If this fails i am in so much debt i could not afford to pay private. I am so worried i will have to give up my dream of a family. So upset i am in debt.

Anyways thanks for listening.