The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

vseviour

MrsDavo wrote: »

I would like to read how people learnt to move on with their lives after never becoming parents?

In hotel so can't check author but try 'Pink for a girl' on Amazon. I sent a copy to my family.

Hugs Littleme x

tea_lover

Fluff, you could never upset me. Your billy ballbags post still has me laughing now

Part_Mouse

Little me so sorry the witch got you huge hugs to you.

Mrs davo thanks, starting to feel quite old and very infertile.

Need to try to sleep before the tears start night all.

fannyanna

Hi All,

Hope you're all well. Sorry, I've not read back yet - hope to do that later.

My monster cycle is finally over. I think it lasted 150 days but AF arrived on Monday. I've now got my HSG appointment. It's next month but at least it's booked.

Not sure what's wrong with me today (actually I do - I'm stressed with work, tired and feeling very uncomfortable because of AF) but I'm having one of those "I'm infertile, I'm never going to have a baby" days. I've already convinced myself that both my tubes are blocked and that I'm never going to be able to lose the shed loads of weight that I need to lose in order to go down the IVF route. So I'll end up being a bitter, infertile hag and will not be able to deal with the fact that my Husband has children from a previous relationship and our marriage will be destroyed. So then I'll have no child and no Husband. I'll also have no friends as I'll be jealous of fertile people so I'll be a complete joy to be around - not.

P.S. Yes, I do realise that I am catastrophising and I need to shake it off

Part_Mouse

Hugs fannyanna.
Had my scan not great news no change from tuesdsy and no follies so uped the dose.wil have to up again in a week if still no change.

Smookle

Hugs to everyone!

tea - I'd forgotten about that, and now its started me laughing all over again now! Thanks for that!

LittleMe - that witch is freaking evil like that, just when you let yourself start to get your hopes up, there she is! Hope you're ok, sending you hugs!

Part Mouse - Happy Birthday! Sending you growing vibes for your little follies.

Fannyanna - Know exactly where you are coming from.

Recieved a copy of my clinic letter today that my FS had sent to my GP. Among the outline of the appointment, she adds on the end, with no explanation, that my AMH is really low. I didn't have a clue what an AMH was, let alone that I'd been tested for it, so have just spent the last few hours on google, cause there's no answer at the fertility clinic. My understanding of it is, that I've only got a few years left of fertility, and that I'm running out of eggs, and that going to all this effort of injecting myself probably won't work because I won't produce enough eggs for treatment. I'm holding on to the hope that it is all about quality not quantity, and that it only takes one egg to make a baby, but stilll feeling totally gutted right now. Is it just me that thinks this is a poor way to tell someone their AMH result? Or am I just feeling over sensitive and hormonal?

teaandcakeordeath

Just as a note of reassurance smookle. My FS at the Hewitt Centre told me when I asked about my AMH levels that I was one of the last to be tested for it through their clinic as they found that it bore no relation on how many eggs/ quality a woman produced during IVF. They were assuming that low AMH meant that they needed to increase the dosage of drugs- then they realised that they were over stimulating women and running the risk of OHSS. In summation she basically said low AMH in her opinion meant diddly squat when it came to IVF. It doesn't necessarily mean that your eggs are poor quality or that you won't produce enough. Hope that helps a little..

time2deal

Hi Smookle,

Don't freak out about AMH results. It is one indicator of a few about egg reserve, and while it can sometimes be used to indicate the likelihood of response to fertility drugs, it is increasingly being ignored. I believe someone on here said that the large fertility hospital in Liverpool have stopped testing it as it isn't a good indicator, and they have ended up giving some women too much stimulation by relying on the results.

I have v low AMH, but also low FSH. Low FSH indicates that I have a good egg reserve, and low AMH means the opposite! And I responded very well to IVF drugs. So, it may mean something, or it may not. Regardless, you can't change it, so focus on what you can control - which is stress levels, diet, injections etc.

They wouldn't be treating you if it was a lost cause!

time2deal

TCD beat me to it!

tea_lover

Hey smookle, like some of the other ladies here I've also heard that AMH isn't necessarily thought of that highly as a test anymore. But I do agree that it's a rubbish way to find out anything.

You still have eggs, and they can get them out - don't worry about how many are in there or how many you might produce. Anyway, you really, really, don't want to mess with OHSS. Oh my days, it's awful.