The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

QQuaver

Congratulations Chickpea!:j:j:j
Amazing news! :beer:

tea_lover

hi lucy - been thinking about you too! Great news about trying again, will have everything so tightly crossed for you xx.

AFM... still angry at the world lol. Am getting SO bitter about everything, I really don't feel like a very nice person at the moment!

Metranil_Vavin

Q!!! How are you? Hope things are better for you now xx

Congrats to chickpea. As a long-time lurker on this thread it's so nice to see a long-timer get some good news

time2deal

fluffnutter wrote: »

Without a regular cycle an antagonist IVF cycle is probably unlikely (these are the short protocol ones that work with your natural hormones). However, you could probably still do a long protocol where they artificially create a cycle by downregging you before stimulating. So if you want to do a fresh, then I think that would be within your reach too.

Obviously it's entirely up to you, but with 9 embryos in the freezer (one assumes you don't actually want 9 children!) I'd be going for the frozen every time - you've got 9 chances of a baby already! Even if you have a go yourself that's unsuccessful you'd still have at least 7 to use with a surrogate. If I could avoid all those drugs and the egg collection I would. It's much easier on your body and these days frozen cycles are starting to show better (than fresh) success rates too

Fluff - maybe you can answer another question for me. The 9 embryos are only 1 day embryos. They were frozen immediately as I wasn't trying for a fresh cycle. So I am sort of assuming there are only 2, max 3 actual viable embryos in there.

So, when they go to do a FET, do they defrost a few of them and let them all grow and take the best (and then... re-freeze any others?) or would they defrost them one at a time and wait to see what happens with each one?

time2deal

tea_lover wrote: »

AFM... still angry at the world lol. Am getting SO bitter about everything, I really don't feel like a very nice person at the moment!

Me too.

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TeamLowe

T2D i know it's not the same but when I was discussing my lack of natural cycle and the potential to use clomid, they wasn't concerned about that either and just said they'd give noristhisterone to trigger a bleed, then i'd take the clomid to trigger ovulation so a lack of cycle even just for ovulation drugs doesn't seem to be an issue

Lucy unfortunately yes, there is a chance that your period will be delayed but every woman is different and hopefully yours will come bang on time. Just remember though that with a miscarriage CD1 is the day after the bleeding stops, not the start of the bleeding like with a period.

tea_lover

hi lucy - this probably won't help as everyone's so different but my cycle after ICSI was 36 days, which is pretty good for me. I usually range from about 31 to 50 days so 36 wasn't bad at all!

Obviously hard to tell as we all respond differently but don't automatically think the worst, AF might turn up bang on schedule yet.

good_vibes

Hi all, Hi QQ how's you?
Nothing much to report. Awaiting AF and then to start clomid. Why don't I feel more positive about it all .

loulou123

Congratulations chickpea

AF has gone missing for me for the 2nd month in a row, had a teeny tiny bit of spotting both months when due on but that's it (not even enough to wear a panty liner - just a dot really!) I've tested a million times ... ok so 4 times, but not for a week or so, so might have to do another one soon.

I have docs appointment on Monday.

Stupid thing is I keep SS even though I've had BFNs, so no I'm unlikely to be pregnant - but I am SO bloated, tired all the time, and feeling abit sicky and light headed.

Sorry for the moan! It's just so damn hard to stay positive now AF has disappeared and I'm still not pregnant.

chickpea

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Q!!! How are you? Hope things are better for you now xx

Congrats to chickpea. As a long-time lurker on this thread it's so nice to see a long-timer get some good news

Thank you. I must confess, I had been planning to exit the thread and wish everyone well after my 40th birthday in July - on the basis that my thirties had been a wash-out fertility-wise, so there was no real grounds for optimism in my forties - so it was a real bolt from the blue. I guess persistence pays sometimes.

I even vomited this morning, so it's real..!